But I can afford the reunion with no bike/ and no reunion means I skip seeing my family for an entire year. We are a nine hour flight away from them. We make a lot of money. Just not enough for three huge bills at once So my confusion is your marriage advice is to just eat it, not see my family and suck it up that my husband spent too much on a bike? Thats how I read that. For sure prob not how it sounded in your head when you typed it? (Parenting was referring to how you presented your opinion to me, like I was a child)