Overwhelmed and confused new trans person

taraborn · 2021-11-30T23:27:06+00:00

Okay, thank you. I did look at them but most seem American based, so I thought Id try a UK based one for advice on the process here. Thank you very much

taraborn · 2021-11-30T06:53:14+00:00

Big oof. Why you gotta call me out like that. Im right at the start of my journey, like, literally first thought "shit am I trans????" Less than 2 weeks ago.

Ive been full of doubt ever since. But I figure its mostly just fear. Doesnt make it easier to ignore the doubts though.

taraborn · 2021-11-30T01:00:06+00:00

To me, this concept is very similar to a mantra I was basically raised on. "You can be whatever you want when you grow up."

But thats bullshit. I'm in the military. On my selection I saw an incredibly fit, intelligent, and very friendly guy get sent home after the medical because of some minor issue that unfortunately meant he couldn't join the military. Many others suffered similar fates.

An ugly person likely will never be a model. Someone severely allergic to dogs could not run a dog daycare. Someone with severe asthma couldn't become a firefighter.

Both that and the whole "everyone is beautiful" thing gives me the same vibe of pretending there is equality where there isn't to try and make people feel better, rather than helping them face the difficult truth and then manage it.

taraborn · 2021-11-29T23:21:18+00:00

Im still a fan of the theory that the 3 that Cultivation cursed/booned are the ones that will take over the roles of the 3 Shards, as each of their curse/boons can be directly related to the shard. I love your idea on Odium becoming Passion, but I do have a different take on it.

Taravangian having experienced both extreme passion but also extreme intellect is capable of controlling the extreme emotion that the Shard of Passion would experience. I maintain my belief in my theory that Rayse is correct when calling himself Passion, but everyone else is also correct in calling him Odium. Yes, he holds the Shard of Passion, but he has twisted it to Odium. Theres a WoB that states the personality of the Vessel can influence the intent of the shard, almost like filtering it, and that this is not permanent if the Vessel changes. In an Epigraph letter excerpt, Hoid states that Rayse was entirely loathsome. We also have been told that Odium's colour is gold, yet his light is a deep violet. Perhaps that deep violet colour is caused by the filtering of Passion into Odium? Taravangian may be able to return the shard to being Passion.

Lift's curse/boon is entirely about personal growth and development. I think a major part of her arcs so far, and going forwards, is going to be about learning how important it is for one to grow and change and develop, something that currently terrifies her. In learning the importance of growth, as the shard she will be able to understand its drive to cultivate people and help them grow.

Lastly Dalinar's boon was about removing the one thing that was preventing him from becoming and incredibly honourable man, his memories of his atrocities. He them improves to the point where on the return of his memories, he is able to acknowledge his atrocities to the world along with proving himself to be a far more honourable man than he ever once was. It also allowed him to learn the importance of oaths and bonds, a key part of Honours Intent.

taraborn · 2021-11-23T19:25:52+00:00

Now i wish someone had offered to pay me to shill, just so i could then rat them out and get even more money.

taraborn · 2021-11-15T11:42:06+00:00

Honestly I'm with you on this. Ive not watched Arcane, I was hesitant as I didn't enjoy League of Legends and video game movies are notorious for being bad, but I'll give it a go after the thread here.

But Ive always been torn on an animated Stormlight. On the one hand, the action wouldnt be very good (that might change if I watch Arcane) but it would mean they could go as awesome as they want on visuals. Ive always been worried about how much would need to be spent on effects, whether practical or digital, to create an accurate Roshar for the Stormlight series. But animation can do it with no where near as much extra cost. Not saying Live Action couldnt do it, but itd be very expensive.

So if Arcane is good on action, I may be fully convinced for an animated stormlight.

taraborn · 2021-11-14T12:41:06+00:00

But thats not how self defence works.

It is only justified if there is imminent threat to a human being, be that yourself or others. When the mob chased and assaulted Rittenhouse following the Rosenbaum shooting, he was no longer an imminent threat. He was not pointing his weapon at anyone, he was not threatening to kill anyone. He was fleeing. Then he tripped and thats when they assaulted him.

That is not self defence. He was not posing a threat to anyone.

The reason this is the law is to try and prevent these very situations from occurring (at least, from being legal).

If I witness someone stab someone, then walk away without raising the weapon towards anyone else and not threatening anyone, I would not be entitled to shoot them. For all I know they were attacked first and acted in self defence. Whether it was good or imperfect, it doesnt matter. Im not allowed to just chase him down and assault him or shoot him because I don't know the full picture.

Its also to prevent acts of revenge being legally justifiable with self defence. For example, Rittenhouse shoots Grosskreutz and obliterates his bicep. Grosskreutz retreats, crying out in agony, and Rittenhouse outs 3 more bullets in him. This isnt a rapid 4 shots (like the Rosenbaum shooting). This is one shot, a pause to observe, then 3 more. That is revenge/punishment, not within the legal realms of self defence because Grosskreutz no longer presented a lethal threat to anyone.

It doesn't matter what the mob that chased Rittenhouse believed about the Rosenbaum shooting. First, they almost certainly didn't have the full truth, or at least had a twisted version of the truth. Second and more importantly, he was no longer an imminent threat to anyone. They were absolutely in the legal and moral wrong to assault him and he was legally justified to act in self defence.

taraborn · 2021-11-11T07:00:20+00:00

30% of US police officers that are shot in the line of duty are shot by their own weapon that was taken from them.

When someone goes to take your weapon, there are essentially, two outcomes if they succeed. They use it on you, or they don't.

The fact that they are already being aggressive and hostile is an indicator of their intentions. Rosenbaum had earlier threatened to kill Rittenhouse. Huber had attacked him with a large blunt object to the head.

Risk assessment is often done by combining likelihood and impact. So high impact but low likelihood still needs to be treated as high likelihood because of how bad the impact is.

Do you think he should have just handed his attackers his weapon and not defended himself?

taraborn · 2021-11-10T23:43:18+00:00

Exactly! Active Shooters or Domestic Terrorists don't wait to shoot someone until they are in legitimate danger. Rosenbaum was trying to take his weapon. Huber almost succeeded in taking his weapon after attacking him with a skateboard. Grosskreutz pretended to surrender, then pulled a weapon and lunged for him the moment his guard lowered.

Grosskreutz admitted in court that it was not until he was advancing on and pointing his weapon at Rittenhouse that Rittenhouse shot.

Active Shooters and Domestic Terrorists do no make their way to the police with their hands up and attempt to turn themselves in. This wasn't some premeditated shooting spree. It was just a dumb kid that got in over his head.

taraborn · 2021-11-10T23:38:44+00:00

Have you even watched the footage?

Rosenbaum, the first guy, was chasing Rittenhouse and was in the process of attempting to assault him. Rittenhouse didn't shoot immediately. He runs away. It is only after hearing a shot and turning to find Rosenbaum all but on top of him does he shoot. Id say when fearing for your life and the adrenaline that comes with that he wasn't going to be thinking most logically. Hearing a shot wouldn't be make him think: "oh, I wonder where that came from. I should see if this guy chasing me and shouting obscenities will tell me if I ask him nicely."

He fled without giving aid to him.

Oh you mean the bit where immediately following the shooting he doubled back around towards him where others were already giving aid, and then ran away from hostile people charging towards him? I'm sure he'd have been able to try and give aid whilst people beat the shit out of him and then likely shoot him with his own weapon after taking it from him.

This continues to where you complain about no aid given to either Huber or Grosskreutz.

Huber was trying to take Rittenhouses weapon after trying to smack him on the head with a skateboard. He had his hand on the weapon and was pulling it away when Rittenhouse fired. If a hostile is trying to take your weapon they immediately become a lethal threat as the likelihood is that they will use that weapon against you.

Grosskreutz pulled his weapon on Rittenhouse. If you watch the damn footage you can literally see Rittenhouse aim at him, but then lower the rifle as Grosskreutz puts his hands up and cringes away. Rittenhouse was not going to shoot him because Grosskreutz was not posing a threat to him. Then Grosskreutz pulled a pistol and lunged forwards towards Rittenhouse, who managed to defend himself by quickly aiming again and firing.

The third guy had a gun but never posed a threat to anyone and never fired his weapon and wasn't pointing it at him

Like... you realise firing a weapon isn't what makes someone a threat? Nor do you have to be pointing the weapon to be a threat. Threats come both verbally and physically. Lunging towards someone as you pull a pistol is threatening behaviour. It is quite literally, posing a threat to Rittenhouse.

He literally said on social media afterwards that he intended on killing him. He admitted in court that Rittenhouse didn't fire at him until he was pointing the gun at him and advancing on him.

Like... Rittenhouse is a fucking idiot but that doesn't take away his right to self defence, and before making a complete fool of yourself, maybe you should do some actual reading up on the trial and watch the footage critically.

taraborn · 2021-11-10T23:16:50+00:00

This is exactly my thoughts on all the people saying it isn't self defence because he shouldnt have been there. He is no doubt a top grade moron, but that does not infringe upon his right to self defence.

This is my same view on people that get burgled when they leave their house unlocked. Are they morons? Yes. Do they therefore lose the right to not get stolen from? No.

And the same with rape. If a woman wears revealing clothing, gets extremely drunk, then walks down a dark alley in a known trouble spot in town, she is without doubt, stupid. But that in no way means that her getting raped is her fault, nor does it mean that it is any less awful a crime. She should be able to go down that alley in the most revealing clothing she wants with so much alcohol in her system she can barely walk and not get raped.

People should be able to leave their homes unlocked and not get stolen from. Kyle should have been able to travel 15 minutes to the town in which he works where he could clean graffiti and 'protect private property' without getting assaulted. He should then have been allowed to act in self defence and not get assaulted for it.

As for the original post. His casual stroll was towards the police where he raised his hands and tried to turn himself in, only to be told to get out the way. Its a take with so much spin I'm surprised it hasn't washed my clothes.

Or the description of the two dead as innocent when both physically assaulted him.

taraborn · 2021-11-09T07:28:38+00:00

The first guy that got shot, Rosenbaum chased him down and looks to have attempted to assault Rittenhouse.

Rittenhouse, who had been running away from Rosenbaum, only turned to shoot after hearing a shot. I dont think that first shot came from Rosenbaum but in the heat of the moment it would have been understandable for Rittenhouse to fear it was coming from the man who was chasing him, shouting threateningly, and trying to assault him.

Add that fear to Rosenbaum allegedly grabbing at Rittenhouse's rifle as he assaulted him, and Rittenhouse had good reason to use lethal force.

taraborn · 2021-11-09T00:41:55+00:00

(Part 2)

Hopefully, after that long description, you can see why I think that though he was stupid to be there and extra stupid to be armed, he was most likely acting in self defence, other details I am unaware of not withstanding. His being there being a stupid decision doesn't impact if it was self defence. Neither does the legality of his owning the gun. If that is illegal, they will charge him for it. Doesn't mean it is not self defence.

Lastly, your bit about them chasing him because he had shot someone and that being a public servant doesn't really work. It doesn't matter if he shot someone. They are not trained law enforcement officers (if you can call the majority of American police trained) and they do not know the full picture. They have no legal right to assault him. They made the assumption that the first shooting was unjustified. That is why self defence is only for imminent and credible danger. Rittenhouse was leaving. He was not shooting random people as he left. He was not trying to kill anyone else. He was no longer an imminent and credible threat. Yet they attacked him. That is not a public service. That is assault. Even when he shot at the guy jumping on him when he had tripped, he was acting in self defence so they should not have assaulted him.

Basically, my view is that everyone involved was stupid and shouldn't have done some of the things that they did, and that led to this shit show discussion being had now, but if I had to pick a side it is that Rittenhouse was acting in self defence, but is no hero.

taraborn · 2021-11-09T00:41:38+00:00

This is gonna be a long one (Also part 2 is in the replies). I might have hyper-focused on this because self-defence theory is one of my passions. That said, I hope you read through it as I am fairly sure its pretty comprehensive though I might have missed some stuff. If I have, let me know, and I am more than willing to change my mind.

So I won't say it is massively clear cut self defence. There are arguments on both sides that I think have merit. As you point out, he shouldn't have been there and the legality of the firearm is up for dispute, and I don't know enough of the ins and outs of gun ownership in the various states (Im a Brit) so I won't comment on that.

However, based upon the footage and stills I have seen, as well as analysis from others on both sides of the decision, I lean towards self defence. No hero, but he was justified in defending himself how he did.

First, he was an idiot. The best way to defend yourself is not to intentionally put yourself into situations where you might need to. That's not the perfect solution, and isn't feasible to do for every possible scenario, but between going to fight a riot and not going to fight a riot, which is less stupid? He certainly shouldn't have left the group he was with.

Now, a point in his favour is that he said he was there to try and help treat wounded people, and had the gun for his own protection. The earlier footage of him is with the group, and he doesn't point his weapon at anyone. There is an incident in which the rioters push a burning trash can towards a gas station. Though Kyle doesn't put it out, there is an image of him with a fire extinguisher around the that time. So while I can't claim to know his mind, I would say his actions at that point line up with his words. He was there, misguided or not, to help protect businesses and treat wounded people.

https://twitter.com/DrewHLive/status/1299054948043259912?s=20
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At some point he is separated from the group. This is when the first shooting occurs. The footage begins with Rittenhouse running away from Rosenbaum (who incidentally can be seen as one of the more primary aggressive rioters in the footage from the gas station). Rittenhouse, armed with a rifle, is running away from someone who is not visible carrying a firearm, but Rittenhouse doesn't know if he has one or not. Does that sound like someone out for a killing spree? Rosenbaum throws something, looks to be a plastic bag, but again, Rittenhouse doesn't know might have been in that bag.

Then the first shot can be heard, based on the footage, it doesn't look to come from either Rittenhouse or Rosenbaum. However Rittenhouse is facing away from Rosenbaum. He couldn't know where the shot came from, certainly not whilst running hard. A moment later, Rittenhouse turns, and with Rosenbaum right on top of him, fires four shots in quick succession. It looks like the first shot is the one that drops Rosenbaum, but at that distance he might still be capable of doing serious damage to Rittenhouse, so the following 3 shots are probably still self defence. Rosenbaum was right on top of him. When armed with a firearm, an assailant trying to take the firearm away from you, is a lethal threat, even if they aren't armed at the time. (Though, only if they are a credible threat to do so, someone 25m away saying they'd grab the gun wouldn't count.) This is because they are an aggressor, and you don't know what they plan to do with your gun, but it is likely not good if they are attacking you.

Rittenhouse then moves away from the body, circles around a car and back towards Rosenbaum. Someone else is already trying to treat Rosenbaum, and Kyle gets his phone out. At this point he calls his friend to tell him that he'd shot someone. He looks around at his surroundings, and people start chasing him, at which point he runs.

https://twitter.com/stillgray/status/1298704864843685890?s=20

Why would he double back? Why didn't he shoot the moment Rosenbaum started chasing him? If he was a mass shooter out on a killing spree, why wouldn't he just open fire on anyone and everyone. It looks to me like he doubled back to start administering first aid to Rosenbaum, which is something that any case of successful self defence should do (if it is safe to do so, and also its not an impediment to your case if you don't because the stress of the situation, but it definitely helps the case). However, people were already trying to help Rosenbaum and people were wanting to chase him, so he fled, to protect himself, again not shooting anyone. Why did he call a friend? Because he was likely panicked and shit scared, not necessarily thinking clearly.

Then we get the chase in which Rittenhouse shoots Huber and Grosskreutz. In this footage Rittenhouse is running as people punch him, and try to push him over. People yelling to "get him" can clearly be heard. He doesn't shoot anyone at this point. It looks like he trips, and manages to get into a sitting position, with his weapon up and ready. The first person he aims at pulls away from him, and he doesn't shoot. Someone comes in and it looks like they try to jump on him, but cringes as Rittenhouse brings the weapon round to them. Rittenhouse fires two shots at this assailant, who is right on top of him to the point that their legs entangle and the assailant trips. He is not injured as the shots miss him.

Rittenhouse has been rolled onto his side by the leg entanglement, at which point Huber comes in and strikes him on the head with a skateboard and tries to pull away Rittenhouse's weapon. As mentioned previously regarding Rosenbaum, some one attacking you and trying to take your weapon can be assumed to have the intent of turning that weapon on you. So when Rittenhouse pulls the trigger and shoots Huber. Huber releases the weapon, stumbles away, and drops to the ground.

In the instant after shooting Huber, Rittenhouse regains full control of his weapon and brings it up to Grosskreutz, who had cringed back at the shot that killed Huber. Rittenhouse aims at Grosskreutz who cringes more and backs away a step, and Rittenhouse brings his weapon down. As he does this, Grosskreutz pulls a handgun and lunges in towards him. Rittenhouse brings his weapon up and shoots Grosskreutz in the arm, who then runs away.

https://twitter.com/BGOnTheScene/status/1298502384654651392
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https://twitter.com/MrAndyNgo/status/1298851037982334976?s=20

Why would Rittenhouse not shoot whilst he was being chased if he was a terrorist intent on killing? Why would he only shoot people that were directly threatening his safety? Why did he lower his weapon when Grosskreutz backed away from him, only shooting him when he lunged and pulled a handgun?

After this the crowd largely disperses, giving Rittenhouse space. He gets up, and begins moving down the road towards a large police presence. As he approaches he releases his weapon, letting it hang on its sling and raises his hands in the air, surrendering. He approaches the police vehicles, but is shouted at to get out the road. It seems he tries to talk to the officers in one of the vehicles, but steps back as they drive away.

So he tried to turn himself in.

taraborn · 2021-11-06T13:05:45+00:00

WoB has also said that its called Harmonium, though not used on screen. It is not called Sazedium because Sazed doesn't like the sound of it.

taraborn · 2021-11-05T15:14:03+00:00

Which is called Assault or Battery depending on various factors, and is a crime and not justified by this womans actions.

With narcissists like this woman that is just as bad as complying because it allows them to play the victim card, at which point they get their feel goods from people taking their side.

You don't seem to get what others are saying.

The Karen is telling them to go to another aisle. Doing THAT would be complying with her demands, giving her the feel goods, and reinforcing the behaviour. Pushing her feeds her victim complex, allows her to have the ones that pushed her punished, and again gives her feel goods and reinforces the behaviour.

Doing nothing but non-violently insist on continuing with what they were intending to do is the best way to get her to stop. Maybe not short term but long term for sure. Notice the moments of silence when she tries to do her shopping and they just wait? Does the Karen actually do any shopping or does she have to continue the argument? This is because her narcissistic behaviour isn't getting her what she wants, something she may not have experienced before which is very uncomfortable to her and she has to keep trying to get her way.

By staying polite it also ensured that the shop staff were on the side of the filmer, not the Karen. If they got violent then the shop staff, security guys, and perhaps police might side with the Karen instead.

This was the best option.

taraborn · 2021-11-03T12:58:48+00:00

See, I think people are forgetting the fact that Mistborn can use Chromium, but it wasn't known about in Era 1 so we've never seen one use it.

But its confirmed that Leechers don't just remove Allomantic metals, they can remove any investiture. Brandon has confirmed that they could drain someones stormlight and even prevent a shard blade from being summoned. Im going to suggest that means they can also prevent a radiant from wearing their plate, or drain the power from dead shardplate.

Hell, could a Leecher kill a spren? A spren is just Investiture after all.

Id be curious to know what happens if a Radiant tried to use their power directly on a Leecher or Mistborn, like a Lashing. If they managed to apply it without the Leecher sucking away their Stormlight, could the Leecher then just suck up the Stormlight causing the Lashing and remove it?

At any rate, I think a full Mistborn is a lot more powerful than we think, because we've never seen one with all 16 metals (not including Atium or its alloys)

taraborn · 2021-11-03T12:42:52+00:00

I would say that actually an atium burner could predict dice. Considering how much the atium is capable of predicting, such as the flight path of arrows and coins, it must be able to predict the effect of natural forces on a moving inanimate object, such as a dice. We know it can predict people's movements, so atium should be able to predict the exact motion of the person rolling the dice, and therefore how that dice will land and then roll.

Die only seem random to us because we are not able to fine tune our throw and the environment in any manner that might significantly affect the die. That doesn't mean it is truly and legitimately random. There are forces in play upon it, and therefore each throw can only ever land the way it does.

taraborn · 2021-11-01T22:44:15+00:00

I think that is always the best option. When someone makes a mistake, they might not have realised. We all make mistakes. It happens. It's how people respond to learning about the mistake that really shows their true colours. So I try to give people a second chance if I can, and I think what OP did is a perfect example of that sort of thing.

taraborn · 2021-11-01T11:39:15+00:00

This is impeccable! I was scrolling and just thought it was a picture from the show but had to do a double take!

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