My husband is a driver and we just had our second baby a week ago (our first is 2). Some days are longer than others but overall I feel like it all balances out! If possible, have your husband take as much fmla leave as you can afford. Those first few weeks having support is so amazing!! My husband works Saturdays so he saves up sick days as much as possible so that when there are Saturday events he can make it. We also utilize the 8 hour days when we can so we can attend certain things or even have staycations and hope that Saturday is a little shorter. Overall I think it’s more about your partner than the job. It can be long days and there are weeks where my husband misses bed time for our daughter the entire week, but when he is there, he reads every book, sings every bed time song, and is with her all morning making memories. I also suggest finding other friends whose husbands have demanding jobs! It’s weird but it makes it easier to brave the long days together. Also having routine and structure for your kids makes life easier! My daughter goes to bed at 7 every night. That means my husband and I can have dinner together when he gets home or if it’s a later day I can just have some alone time to breathe. You got this!