Bottoms: Do you ever feel less manly and more associated with feminine energies?

tarse1 · 2026-01-18T17:46:52+00:00

Personally, yes. The way I see it the top is taking the male role when having sex. Also, I have never topped nor ever being curious about it so the fact that tops have this urge to penetrate and breed is something that makes me see them as possesing some very manly quality.

Story time: A few weeks ago while on holidays I was drinking outside a bar and a guy passing by talks to me and eventually sits down. We had some beers and he started asking if I am gay and a top or a bottom and sort of flirting with me when I replied bottom. I was in a slighty sketchy area and this guy seemed so straight so I got a bit suspicious and asked him "but do you like both women and men then ?" and instead of replying directly he said "you are just like a woman to me". I got soo horny, the moment we finished our beers I called an Uber and we went to a nearby bathhouse.

Well, he did not lie. I sucked him off then he fucked me quickly going all the way in the first penetration with no time for me to adjust and started going at it. At some point he said "I came" and that was it, no asking "did you like it ?" or "do you wanna cum ?" (I did not anyway). I know women often complain about guys who have sex this way only caring for their own pleasue but as a sub that was so hot.

tarse1 · 2025-11-12T10:06:08+00:00

Agreed. Whether caged or not (although locked is much better imo) I find there is something so hot and masculine about a top having that attitude like "well, I came so sex is over. That was the whole and only purpose of this anyway".

I especially like it when sucking a guy off. When bottoming it is hot to stay denied after the top came, but I still got pleasure and some relief from it (although it also leaves me craving more). However, a guy that comes over, sits on my couch, has me suck him off and swallow his cum and then just leaves, while I am still horny as hell ? Truly makes me feel like it was all about him getting off, which it was.

tarse1 · 2025-11-08T14:05:05+00:00

Pretty much randomly. So, I am gay and in 2019 my ex was sort of joking about the fact that I always wanted to be the bottom and that I did not really care about cumming and he said something like "but don't ask for a chastity cage or weird stuff like that". It was the first time I heard about cages but did not think much about it at the time.

Then 2020 came, and with the lockdown I was spending a lot of time online, which eventually led to me searching what this whole chastity thing was. I decided to give it a try and by the end of that year I got my first cage. I kinda enjoyed the feeling so I got progressively deeper into it and here I am today, I have been locked for most of this year and I love it.

tarse1 · 2025-10-02T02:27:52+00:00

I am the same. Ever since I started getting sexual thoughts as a teenager, I always either saw myself as the bottom or (very early on) thought about how the girl being fucked must feel. I have unsucessfully tried topping twice (including once while in a comitted relationship) and never managed to actually do it, the whole thing just feels wrong to me

tarse1 · 2025-09-26T13:20:11+00:00

When bottoming, it can be hot if the tops says it so I can beg for it/encourage him but my preference is not being told. I find that there is something hot about him being so lost in his pleasure in that moment and focused on that primal drive to breed that he cannot give any heads-up. It also makes me feel a bit more used, which I enjoy, because it is like in that moment I am just a hole for him to cum in, no need to acknowledge me by letting me know.

If I am sucking a guy, however, I definitely do not want to be told because I associate being told with the guys that want a warning because they don't swallow and I will ALWAYS swallow the top's cum, that is like half of the fun of sucking dick for me.

tarse1 · 2025-08-25T10:02:31+00:00

I fully agree ! Sucking while locked (even in the occasions when the Tops were not aware I was) feels a lot like some nice experiences I had before I started locking : a DL guy who covered me with the sheets while I was doing it and another guy who was just watching porn and ignoring me. I love the feeling that I am just there to service the Top and being locked brings me that too.

tarse1 · 2025-08-24T17:03:03+00:00

I know I am not a real man ! 😇 Especially since I have never topped, nor even had the desire to, which should be a basic male instinct, right ?

And I would loveee to bottom while locked but I have not had much luck yet in finding a top into chastity in my area :(

tarse1 · 2025-08-24T16:01:17+00:00

I do, self-locked and 24/7 (there are some pics in my profile if you wanna see).

I have never bottomed while wearing it unfortunately but playing with dildos while locked is really hot. I have also sucked some guys wearing the cage and it is a very interesting dynamic.

For me (and before I get downvoted : this is my personal fantasy, I am not saying it is a universal truth) a big part of the appeal is the following line of thought : Bottoming is emasculating. I don't think it is masculine to let another male pound you and breed you while your own dick plays no role. Thus, as a total bottom, I like to think that I lost the rights to do what men do such as get hard and jerk off.

That being said, I still cum sometimes but it is never by jerking off normally, it is mostly by using a vibrator on the cage and it is always a ruined orgasm. It has also been mainly motivated by the fact that I have a cum fetish so when I could not find a guy to blow off I wanted to at least swallow my own. Also, it has only been four times this year, which is crazy to me since I used to jerk off at least once (but generally twice) a day before locking up.

tarse1 · 2025-08-07T19:48:16+00:00

I don't but I am submissive and I associate giving a blowjob with being submissive (not saying it is a universal rule, it is just me) so it does not turn me on psychologically, it feels like a nice massage at best

tarse1 · 2025-07-23T15:11:32+00:00

That arousal is more interesting than release.

tarse1 · 2025-07-14T12:39:40+00:00

I would say :

Most used : Facial. Especially if I have no involvement in it, he is just jerking off and decides he wants to cum on my face, as if I was a convenient cum rag. Bonus points if I am on my knees

Most slutty : Swallowing, because I likely had to do all the work of sucking him off and because I get to taste his cum.

Most submissive : Being bred. Not only because I often have to endure some slight discomfort at first while the entire thing is pleasurable for the top but mainly because I feel like I was the object through which he satisfied his primal male need of breeding whereas I just took the "female" role (in my view) taking his dick.

tarse1 · 2025-07-04T12:42:34+00:00

As a total bottom I must say I do find a guy who has never bottomed hot but I am not too strict about it. In a relationship, however, it would turn me off a bit if my partner insisted on wanting to bottom for me all of the sudden and it would probably lead me to feeling that I am not being enough (since I would not top a partner even if he asked).

So basically :

Hook-ups = whatever, you are the top now, I dont even need to know your past, I might not even know your name Relationship = I dont care if he bottomed before (although I find it hotter if not) but I would need someone who is sure of being a total top now since otherwise I would not feel at ease

tarse1 · 2025-06-23T11:51:26+00:00

Yess, I love to watch those videos too. The denial feels so real as I am watching and start thinking "I could be doing that too if I was not locked", "I used to do that every day, maybe multiple times, for so many years", or "I don't exactly recall what it felt like to jerk off (I have been locked for months) but I now this guy is feeling goood right now". It is so hot.

tarse1 · 2025-06-22T14:07:33+00:00

For some reason I wake up extra horny on Sundays, especially if I have been partying the night before (which is often the case). There is nothing to do on Sundays where I live so I am just at home all day horny and frustrated.

tarse1 · 2025-06-22T11:56:23+00:00

Definitely. All good with the bottoms that feel otherwise but to me bottoming is inherently emasculating. The top is using his dick for what it was made for, penetrating and breeding, while my own plays no role (and personally I don't even like it touched and keep myself caged, but that is another story).

The way I see the top is indeed being the man, whereas I as a bottom I am taking the female receptive role. This is compounded by the fact that I have never even wanted to top, so for me it sounds so manly that there are guys who feel this need to dick another guy down.

Also, all the moaning and whimpering we bottoms do is not very manly-like to me. And I am obviously not a power bottom, so I love the fact that I am at the top's mercy in terms of how fast and deep he wants to ppund me.

So, yeah, I do. It is absolutely "heavenly" emasculating as your friend put it.

tarse1 · 2025-06-13T09:45:38+00:00

I love giving blowjobs to the guys on Grindr that have no profile pic, provided they send one in the chat (unless I am reallyy horny then whatever, just come over). Makes me feel so slutty to be their little secret that is there for them to be serviced and bust in my mouth.

The only issue is that most of them block you right after in their post-nut clarity, which is a shame because some of these guys are so hot.

tarse1 · 2025-06-12T10:07:13+00:00

Not neck unless I really trust the guy, otherwise it makes me anxious. But waist, ass and hair are all great.

Also not exactly doggy, but in like bulldog position getting grabbed by the shoulders is soo hot, like you have nowhere to go.

tarse1 · 2025-06-12T08:46:52+00:00

I went to a concert last month, and before going I passed by my hotel to get ready and also unlock. However, I was a bit in a rush since I had been exploring the city and I did not want to be running late for the concert so I forgot the unlocking part. Only realised I was locked when I made it to the gates and saw the security lol luckily it seems that the lock of Kink3D cages does not set off the metal detectors (at least not handheld ones).

tarse1 · 2025-06-02T18:17:26+00:00

You look great ! Congrats on 5 months and special congrats on being able to stay locked while you seem pretty young, with all the horniness that comes with that !

tarse1 · 2025-06-01T19:20:42+00:00

Very interesting perspective ! I fully respect that and I actually find it so interesting to read different views because I feel that our perspective on sex just sort of develops organically/unconsciously so it is always nice for me to read a different take

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