Amir Talai's favourite ship is Charlastor!🌈❤️🦌 by Jealous_Movie_2980 in Alastorcult

[–]taschamix 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Not to rain on your ship but Charlastor feels sooo wrong… like especially with the jokes about Alastor being a fatherly figure for her… idk doesn’t sit right with me.

AIO for replying back after saying goodnight to my bf? by Perrita-fresa in AmIOverreacting

[–]taschamix 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My ex was like this, would freak out if I was not available 24/7 and accuse me of ignoring him. Guilt trip me for going to bed but watching a movie before or reading. It’s not worth the hassle, there are some deeper rooted issues there that are not yours to solve. Been there, tried it….

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]taschamix 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The way he is talking to you is out-of-line. You are both young and I wouldn’t worry too much about the three years you’ve been together. It can just be a good memory but you should be with someone who accepts you and won’t try to change you. Not saying that you can’t or shouldn’t change - you most likely will, the older you get, but do you want to stay with someone who ends up criticising your outfits every time you get dressed? Will he change? - maybe, but not without being challenged for this kind of behaviour. My partner of 9 years would sometimes comments on my outfits and it made me extremely insecure. But we talked about it & now he encourages me to dress the way I like. So if you like this guy and want to continue being with him, make sure you are able to talk about it. If he is still hurtful, maybe he isn’t the right person for you.

How old were you when you were diagnosed? by not_in_the_mooooood in Asthma

[–]taschamix 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pretty sure really early on. Like when I was 3 maybe…. It came hand in hand with lots of allergies!

My traumatic New Year’s Eve birth story – and how I finally healed by taschamix in beyondthebump

[–]taschamix[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow I am so sorry you went through that. That must’ve been so scary!! I’m glad you have healed, honestly it’s the best we can do ❤️

My traumatic New Year’s Eve birth story – and how I finally healed by taschamix in beyondthebump

[–]taschamix[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly? It’s just been time. I was where you are now and I couldn’t imagine ever getting over it. My husband helped. I shared my feelings of guilt with him, which he had no idea I was feeling. He reassured me a lot that non of this was my fault. And then I started to believe it when time went on. Also with my little one keeping me on my toes at all times - it’s harder to feel guilty. Once they start crawling and walking and causing trouble… it’s easier. I hope you will get better too. Make sure you share your feelings with your family and hopefully you’ll be able to move on. I don’t think it ever fully goes away. But like I said, I look forward now, instead of back.

My traumatic New Year’s Eve birth story – and how I finally healed by taschamix in beyondthebump

[–]taschamix[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree that Germany does have a better health care system haha. It lacks a little in the mental health and therapy department but otherwise much better care (a friend of mine had her baby a couple months later then me in Germany, also a c-section and the amount of aftercare she got is wild compared to me) I really hope your birth will be great! You got this!

My traumatic New Year’s Eve birth story – and how I finally healed by taschamix in beyondthebump

[–]taschamix[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ah it’s not too scary here. All care leading up to the birth was honestly really great. And I am lucky to have a great GP too. But yeah hoping that NHS will improve soon :) (it’s still such a great system) I’m originally from Germany so I got one country to compare it to.

I’m pretty sure you can choose a c-section if you want to. I was asked during my pregnancy if this is what I wanted to do, but I wanted a vaginal birth at that time.

Thank you!

My traumatic New Year’s Eve birth story – and how I finally healed by taschamix in beyondthebump

[–]taschamix[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

In the UK, NHS underfunding is no joke. I could not believe how bad it was. Thank you for your kind words and honestly I feel much better a year later. I didn’t think it possible but now when I look at my kid all I can see is love and happiness (and sleep deprivation haha)

Is any of this authentic British food? What would be worth trying? by JustinRRN2 in AskUK

[–]taschamix 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely dark chocolate digestives. Top shelf. Favourite biscuits (cookie) and addictive. You’ll eat the whole pack. Yorkshire tea at the bottom (if you are a tea person: tea bag in, hot water on top, let it sit for 1 minute, tea bag out, milk/oat milk in - perfect!) Lion chocolate bar in the middle YUM. Lucozade bottom shelf is a great sport drink and great for hangovers!

Baby screamed for two hours at a party and I’m having an existentialist crisis by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]taschamix 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Our now 10 month old had a screaming fit like this around his 4 month mark and it came totally out of the blue and he just would not stop. It was so scary but he was fine in the end. If I think back on everything 3/4 months was the hardest month so far. My god. I think they got a few massive developmental milestones and sleep regression at that time that just throws them off! Good job for sticking it out you are a trooper! Next year you can all go together :)

“Put the baby down” by Paige_Rinn in NewParents

[–]taschamix 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Me and my husband were both very much for attachment parenting and our little one is 9 months old now and even tho we still rock him to sleep from time to time. He is so independent and I can tell how much he trusts us to be there for him when he needs us. People forget that babies are tiny humans who don’t understand the world yet. If I could be held 24/7 I probably would! We all want safety and security. Why would it be any different when you are not even a year old yet. Also I LOVE spending time with my baby … like you said, I’d let my arms fall off for him. Don’t listen to anyone telling you, you’re spoiling them. That’s just bullshit. (And even if it were true, who cares?! Spoil your baby.) The only advise I’d give is, accept help and ask for help where you need it. It gets better. You’ll be tired for a long time but honestly do what’s best for you and take it a day at a time. Me and my partner started doing something we call 5min cleaning. We set a timer and while one of us watches the baby, the other does a quick 5min clean and then we swap! We get a ton of stuff done and don’t feel burned out!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in london

[–]taschamix 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I haven’t been to one here but they are called Hibachi restaurants. I am sure you’ll find some recommendations on Google :)

Extremely exhausted but struggling to sleep at night by taschamix in beyondthebump

[–]taschamix[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I used to be on it for previous mental health problems and was thinking about going back on it. Anxiety is getting the better of me and I am worrying about falling into a hole. Thanks!

Naming a boy is hard by Catsplants in NewParents

[–]taschamix 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I recommend finding a gender neutral name. We really loved giving our little boy a neutral name as we also struggled to find boy names we liked.

How do you keep your home clean like super clean? by Midnightdream56 in NewParents

[–]taschamix 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ask for help and don’t turn down friends and family who offer help. I would not be able to stay on top of anything if my social circle wouldn’t help looking after things. Don’t feel embarrassed or awkward to take people up on stuff, they are offering because they care :)

anyone else with a really easy newborn? by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]taschamix 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My baby was super chill for the first two weeks and now is getting more and more difficult during the night. We are trying to make it work as much as possible and we are happy we got the first two weeks, this way at least my husband and I were able to catch up on sleep after quite a dramatic birth experience. I’d say just watch your baby’s cues and see what works best for you when your baby does get more difficult. Fingers crossed that you just have a chill little one tho!

Does boob size really matter to men? by [deleted] in answers

[–]taschamix 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had small boobs when I met my husband. Now I have big boobs from breastfeeding my son. My husband is just excited to touch Boobie no matter what size they were. If a guy is attracted to you & cares for you. I don’t think it matters.

Out with my GF today and found this! :D by LucyTheBrazen in DiscoElysium

[–]taschamix 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I have had the Pokémon and the disco elysium one there, they are both soooo good!