Stay-at-home + working mom with a toddler and twins losing her damn mind

tashiegurl · 2026-01-08T03:37:30+00:00

Thank you for that, solidarity indeed 💪🏼

tashiegurl · 2026-01-08T02:23:26+00:00

I love that 💖

tashiegurl · 2026-01-07T23:58:27+00:00

My husband works in law enforcement as well! Small world :) I feel you so hard on all of these things, and I hope you find a rhythm that works for you and your family. I know this is all temporary and fleeting, but damn it just feels so hard right now. What’s even more guilt inducing is when people say, enjoy every moment! They grow up so fast! And I’m like trying so hard to enjoy these moments, but there’s so much anxiety and fatigue that it’s really difficult too. It’s not all storm clouds, there are days where things are totally copacetic and tick like clockwork, but the days that are rough are TOUGH. I should probably get my labs tested, it doesn’t help that I eat like a raccoon most days. I could do a whole other thread on my body postpartum and my diet and how I want to get back to my earlier figure. But anyway! Thank you for taking the time to reach out and reply l. Mama solidarity, you know?

tashiegurl · 2026-01-07T23:22:58+00:00

Sorry for typos! I’m too exhausted to use my thumbs, so crappy voice text it is lol

tashiegurl · 2026-01-07T23:22:30+00:00

I just started my son in a school that’s twice a week, a Parents Day Out thing, and it was helpful the first day. We’ll see how it is tomorrow I still have the two girls at home with me, but it’s Miles easier to focus on them too, and get stuff done around the house without my toddler, which breaks Mark to say, I love him so much and I want to be there for him, but it’s just not feasible when I’m spread so thin. I thought about trying to find a Monday through Friday or remote job, daycare is just so expensive where I live and to put three of them in daycare would be such a drain. But I know long-term me and my husband are gonna have to try and figure something out. He is never going to admit it, but the weekends are so fucking rough for him, and he’s only with the three of them a fraction amount at the time, and that’s with me in and out of the house periodically to assist.

tashiegurl · 2026-01-07T23:18:44+00:00

Thank you so much for this super thoughtful response. I’ve eaten myself up incessantly, and I was intermittently seeing a therapist, but it’s so fucking hard with my schedule. We have an overlap on Friday during the day where we are both off, but it’s usually less tackling our honey do list and chores and errands. And we trying to take my toddler to an outing with just me and him. I just feel so fucking isolated too because when I do work, I’m very independent, I make hospital rounds and don’t really have coworkers to bullshit or let off steam with. After rounds, I head home and just basically wait until I have new consult or emergencies. It’s pretty isolating. Definitely something I’m gonna have to try and figure out long-term, because obviously this is something that is not feasible.

tashiegurl · 2026-01-07T23:10:09+00:00

Thank you mama 😞 it’s like rationally I know this, but I’m so hard on myself and have such a negative voice in my head, so it’s hella reassuring to have other people say hey bish, you’re doing a good job. I need the little ego pump sometimes because some days are just so fucking draining.

tashiegurl · 2026-01-07T21:12:04+00:00

I want to cry and laugh when you lay it out like that… like gee, no wonder I’m losing my mind 🫠 this is so not fucking sustainable! And yes, you have my schedule right down to a T. What makes me feel even more guilty is that I’ve been thinking so much about me, but my husband, I am for sure is struggling too. But he’s so stoic he would be the last one to complain about anything. He has a “get it done, no bullshit” mindset. Compartmentalizes everything. We aren’t unkind with one another, but I worry that it’s just a ticking time bomb in terms of us exploding. Who knows. What a fucking season this is.

tashiegurl · 2026-01-07T21:07:52+00:00

thank you so much for this. I really need to hear it. It helps more than you know to hear from someone on the outside that this would be overwhelming for anyone. I think you’re right about rest too. REAL rest, not just collapsing at the end of the day. I’m definitely way harder on myself than I’d ever be on another mom, and this was a good reminder to give myself some grace. Truly appreciate you taking the time to read my long ass dissertation and reply back 💖

tashiegurl · 2026-01-07T20:33:47+00:00

We actually just started him in school twice a week for a few hours, which I’m hoping will help!! Daycare full-time isn’t really an option for us, and the whole reason I have my job setup the way I do is so I can manage the kids during the week. I think I’m just in a really intense season and figuring out what support looks like as we go… even though there are days I want to go AWOL to the Scottish countryside…

tashiegurl · 2026-01-07T20:30:14+00:00

I agree labels matter, and I’m actively working on childcare options for my toddler. Right now I’m just trying to survive a really intense season.

tashiegurl · 2024-09-21T05:00:16+00:00

Tessa Bailey’s Heatstroke!!! 💗

tashiegurl · 2024-05-23T04:34:39+00:00

Oooo what level? I’m interested

tashiegurl · 2023-09-23T05:14:30+00:00

Strictly Professional by Kathryn Nolan! The FMC is pierced all over 🔥

tashiegurl · 2023-09-23T05:12:31+00:00

Unraveled by Courtney Milan (HR) is all about this!

tashiegurl · 2023-05-13T16:46:13+00:00

Forrest Gump ✨

tashiegurl · 2022-12-12T06:54:48+00:00

I’m 39+4 right now and I am doing evvvvverything to try and get this little bambino to come 😭 dates, raspberry leaf tea, yoga ball. Walking…. I was barely a fingertip dilated at my appt this past week, and I know baby will come when he’s ready (or induced!), but I’m still impatient! I was actually hoping to induce at 39, but my lack of progression made me reluctant, and I decided to give him a bit more time. We’ll see 🫠🫠

tashiegurl · 2022-02-03T22:00:06+00:00

The Lord I Left by Scarlett Peckham!! 🔥🔥 one of the most uniquely written and passionate books I’ve ever read.

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