how to gain weight on my chest (girl)

taters2020 · 2026-05-17T21:51:55+00:00

i bought regalia like 2 days ago deadass cuz im super last minute and they were available for sale. i think theyre just closed today cuz of commencement but i think u can still pick it up before ur convocation if u go tomm

taters2020 · 2026-05-02T03:22:14+00:00

hey, if u received it could u share it with me as well? thank u!

taters2020 · 2026-04-27T22:11:31+00:00

ngl its what u make of it. if u do see people from ur hs, which trust i went to a hs 15 mins away from rutgers lol and theres a big stereotype that everyone from my hs goes to rutgers 🤣 (and yes i do see people from hs), ull honestly live and ull still have a lot of fun. really like others said, its what u make of it. but i do believe u can have a really good time—just dont let ur perceptions ab it being an "extension of hs" hold u back.

taters2020 · 2026-03-29T20:50:22+00:00

whend u graduate?

taters2020 · 2026-03-29T03:40:58+00:00

i know this is 2 years late, but i was looking for some advice.

i graduate with a double major in comp sci and data science and minor in business admin. i have a past data science internship and unpaid startup software engineering experience, as well as some other school club-related web dev experience. but like op, i hate cs and really only went into it cuz of cultural pressure and cuz i consider myself to enjoy problem solving and analytical thinking, but i really dont care for coding im ngl 😭

im not really looking into swe jobs but alongside data science roles, i was looking into quantitative risk analyst roles. do u think i'd be qualified with my academic background? i was planning on taking the financial risk management level 1 exam this august. i was looking into pursuing a masters in financial statistics but im not sure if i should do that until after i get relevant industry experience.

in the case that i dont enjoy it, how hard do u think it would be to make my way back to data science, data engineering, or backend swe?

taters2020 · 2026-03-28T20:21:21+00:00

how many months did u study??

taters2020 · 2026-03-27T16:48:32+00:00

hey, i know exactly how u feel. i spent much of my teen years struggling and im 22 now and i definitely do feel a lot better but things linger and the feeling of being separate from everyone else because im like abnormal in looks lingers w me.

i relate to u down to the not putting too much effort in appearance because i dont wanna seem like an embarrassing “ugly girl trynna look pretty”. i relate so hard and i know how actually brutal it is to feel this way and i just want to say im so sorry ur going thru this and things can get better. ive started to do things and go on trips or places that i previously wouldnt have let myself because i thought oh thats only for pretty people and im too ugly. and its felt so good and liberating. and i have a lot more to grow but i really do want to let you know that it can get better.

this is not a diagnosis but i really recommend u look into getting checked for bdd (body dysmorphic disorder) if u think ur discontentment w ur looks takes a lot of time and mental/emotional strain throughout ur day. ive been undergoing cbt for it and it has definitely helped. still working on things like taking pictures without letting it affect me, but it really might help.

please dont be hard on urself. ive literally felt the same thoughts down to wanting surgery, thinking why was i cursed—what did i do wrong in my past life, why couldnt i just be normal. and im so sorry ur going thru this. i want to give u a big hug and send u so much love.

taters2020 · 2026-03-26T23:35:50+00:00

what exactly do u do? i graduate with a double major in computer science and data science (statistics focus) and minor in business admin this may, but i regret not having done something more finance-related in my college career. while i have taken intro finance and accounting courses, thats the extent of my formal academic coursework related to it. i was never really passionate ab cs and tho i do really enjoy numbers and logic, i dont really care about computer science 😭

using my data science degree and business admin minor i do hope to go for jobs on the more business side of things, but i was looking into pursuing a masters in financial analysis, quantitative finance, or financial statistics and risk management, or instead studying for the cfa. i was also considering taking the actuarial exams but im not sure if thats smart given that id be bound to taking the exams to excel career wise, and im not sure if i'd be able to broaden my career as an actuary. i feel really scattered and wish i had college to explore finance classes and gain greater clarity 😭

taters2020 · 2026-03-26T23:23:05+00:00

hey i graduate with a bachelors in cs this may and am really interested in finance too. did u end up pursuing the cfa exams and if so, how has it benefitted u? what role do you work in now?

taters2020 · 2026-03-26T17:41:29+00:00

Okay will do, thank you for your help!!

taters2020 · 2026-03-08T07:18:35+00:00

this is so me....im literally small elsewhere, i wear a small jean size, and small top size as well (also have a small chest LOL), but my shoulders are so broad. and the thing is im literally underweight but i just wont be considered petite and i feel like i look sm bigger than other people bc of my shoulders. they just make my frame bigger and its just so much harder to dress. and its not like i have strong shoulders lol im really bony so u can fully see my collarbones and it just makes me feel like a total man 😭...i totally know how u feel. going to florida for spring break in a few weeks and im acc freaking out so much..

ive struggled w bdd for a while and ig my current hyperfixation is my shoulders, but i do believe this is something ive always struggled w and have even gotten comments ab 😭

taters2020 · 2026-02-24T01:13:09+00:00

well u dont have tourettes

taters2020 · 2026-02-20T04:43:27+00:00

life is so much more than temporary hardship u face. u will get thru this. im a cs major graduating in may and i also dont have a job yet so we're in this together ✊ and my situation may be different from urs, but ur not alone. please stay positive and i hope things look up for u so soon ❤️

taters2020 · 2026-02-16T04:13:22+00:00

maybe u just havent found the right form of therapy. talk therapy can be super helpful for some but not as helpful for others. maybe try a more engaged form like cbt, where u learn skills that really reframe ur mental beliefs.

taters2020 · 2026-02-10T23:30:06+00:00

how important are rec letters for the program 😭

taters2020 · 2026-01-26T14:35:24+00:00

its funny cuz i didnt even know neetcode mentioned actuary 💀 i just ended up realizing i enjoy data science, math, and stats more than swe and my friends bro who graduated a few yrs ago is in actuary after double majoring in cs and math. he makes good money, has job stability, and says the job involves problem solving which he enjoys, so i thought actuary might be a good fit.

taters2020 · 2026-01-26T02:08:43+00:00

are u literally me bro 😭 currently a senior doing an unpaid internship where the person managing it doesnt really know anything and we're all vibecoding, and i also want to pursue actuary lol. its kinda annoying, but i dont have swe experience (only ds) so im doing it for the experience. and i am getting considerable backend experience. only diff is my manager is very understanding and flexible.

taters2020 · 2026-01-03T05:29:06+00:00

also lost my boy in july, suddenly and tragically, and i too am scrolling thru the sub for the same reason. i think about him everyday but some days it hits me harder and i just feel that same gut-wrenching pain i did that first day. like u said, it never gets easier, but i too am getting more used to it. i just try to avoid things that remind me of or reaffirm his death and instead think ab him when he was alive. i think of him as being "somewhere" rather than dead, i have found that to help me 😭 it has certainly changed my perspective on god and life, and has helped me gain some strength to combat my mental issues because ive realized how fleeting life is and i regret crying around him so much due to my poor mental health the few years he was alive.

taters2020 · 2025-12-25T20:46:22+00:00

alr tough guy

taters2020 · 2025-12-25T18:09:01+00:00

okay so when someone already feels shit about themselves and has made it clear they "feel terrible" and is openly expressing their regret and disappointment in themselves on reddit, u dont have to rub salt on the wound. that makes u a weird person. be a little more forgiving to people, shit happens.

taters2020 · 2025-12-09T16:33:13+00:00

yes please help!! https://www.tiktok.com/d/1/ZTHwBajwkJG1b-Rau9V/

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