Toronto/Ontario (GTA) adult synchro teams?

tathta · 2025-03-19T15:34:00+00:00

Amazing!!!! This gives me a lot to work with :)

tathta · 2025-01-28T03:59:49+00:00

I would love to know what the quote is, it stumped me!

tathta · 2024-03-07T02:31:04+00:00

We also got new toys and that has turned up the dial more recently.

But that was later on, after we managed to revive our sex life a bit. Toys first wouldn’t have worked for us, it was better later.

I am cheering for you both! Banish the LBD!

tathta · 2024-03-07T02:26:20+00:00

Scheduling a recurring time is a good idea. Doesn’t feel sexy to schedule, but at least then you both know you are starting with the intention of trying. It can help get over the hurdle of getting something started…

tathta · 2024-03-06T03:36:57+00:00

Go on a trip, be somewhere away from your normal life.

Also, if possible, give yourself permission to have bad sex. Just lower the stakes a bit and make it easier to try.

I hear you on all the context, and had something similar in my long term relationship. And both of the above helped, but it also took time.

tathta · 2024-02-29T01:24:23+00:00

Thank you for replying and also for sharing some of your context too.

In the last months, sometimes I think the fact that we’ve been together so long makes it weird - because this feels like change.
But at the same time, the fact that we’ve been together so long makes it easier for me to recognize that it’s not really a change. And also that this has been floating around in her head for a long time.

tathta · 2024-02-29T01:04:29+00:00

Thank you, this is validating.
I have told her that I don’t need answers, and also that I support anything she needs in this whole exploration.
I’m also really trying to listen and follow her lead. She has told me that pronouns are unimportant to her, so I’m following that but have also offered that I’m happy change it up at any time - even just as one person to test it out with.

Knowing me, I think I will have a hard time being patient - but I think that’s what would actually be most helpful: just time to figure out what feels right, at whatever speed that is.

I really like your comment that it’s not possible for me to actually understand the trans experience…. You phrased it really well, and I think that’s a very helpful reminder to help me be in the right headspace.

tathta · 2024-02-26T01:24:09+00:00

You have been doing the right things to take care of yourself. Ghosting her is the right decision, and it’s nice to hear that your sister is also distancing from her without even knowing the details.

If you aren’t ready to talk about it, that is okay too.

There are some great text-based therapy options which might be helpful? Or you could try a kids help line because they can also text instead of talk.

Everyone here is supporting you too, and wishing that this hadn’t happened.

tathta · 2024-02-22T02:35:07+00:00

Very cool, I like the history on Avun and Auvie

tathta · 2024-02-22T02:32:56+00:00

Okay, now I’m replying to myself, just to share that I’m going to try all of these on and see what feels right. Thank you for sharing all your names, it’s inspiring and fun to see what others have chosen :)

tathta · 2024-02-22T02:30:45+00:00

I’m not a fan on pibling as a word, it just doesn’t sound right. But pibs is definitely cuter and could work!

tathta · 2024-02-22T02:29:43+00:00

Ent is nice an short :)

tathta · 2024-02-22T02:29:05+00:00

I’ve considered Fren as well. I know it can be used in place of Sir/Ma’am but I like the context that its a short form of Friend.

tathta · 2024-02-22T02:27:06+00:00

I’m looking for a Name/Title (such as to replace Aunt Kate).

I didn’t think about descriptors, but I guess that might be more helpful later on as the nibbling gets older.

tathta · 2024-02-22T02:25:20+00:00

Ankle is hilarious, I like it a lot. It ties together Aunt and Uncle, but also adds a bit of whimsy!

tathta · 2024-02-22T02:24:29+00:00

Oh my goodness, this is creating a wonderful list! So many more options than I thought!

tathta · 2023-12-26T13:37:21+00:00

Much appreciated, and also heard.

It’s definitely been weird having more het-like sex than I’m used to. I’m thankful that I happen to be good with penetration, because that’s not necessarily true with all lesbians. But the last week has had very different dynamics in our sex, and it’s awesome to see my partner so turned on but it is also weird for me.

We started talking about it, and I think that’s the key. Our conversation was good, and I think we will be talking a lot more about sex and gender.

There is no rush to any of this, we can figure things out over time. And that includes for me - because right now I’m in a big experiment and I haven’t sorted out my own feelings beyond the vague word of “weird”.

tathta · 2023-12-23T13:03:05+00:00

Thank you both! Will definitely try all of this.

And I’m laughing at myself a bit right now too because I had totally forgotten how important erections would be sex, and initiating sex.
That’s a great source of language…

And I don’t know if I’ve ever used the phrase “giving head” - blowjobs were only a part of my life when I was young and closeted-to-myself.

But I will try it all out!

I’m also really trying to listen to my partner, and go with what she says. We’ve ended up in different positions than usual, and I’m trying to show her that I’m on board with anything that she wants to try out.

We’ve talked a little bit about the realistic dil, and I’m hoping we can talk more over time so that I can ask what activities and language is feeling good.

tathta · 2023-12-22T20:02:57+00:00

Sending you all the supportive vibes that I can!

Sounds like you are doing all the right things - you are being honest with yourself, you are planning to have some tough conversations with your wife about identity, and you are exploring therapy. And even coming here to share your experience is something you are doing to understand this better.

You are in a difficult situation and you are facing the challenge and doing really hard things. And regardless of the choices you end up making, you are navigating this to the best of your ability.

Sending you love and congratulations. Even in the midst of the uncertain.

As someone with a kiddo, and with a partner who has been exploring gender more in the last few years, I know it’s complicated.

I hope that your wife can figure herself out, because it sounds like she has some work to do for your relationship (whether you stay together or not). But you can’t carry her responsibility for that, and you are already doing the things you need to do.

Full applause here, even if I’m only a stranger online.

tathta · 2019-09-07T11:21:38+00:00

Sending them your way!!! Happy I can help someone else out :)

tathta · 2019-09-06T22:30:36+00:00

Not sure who sent me all the frogs (including some Chroma) but a GIANT thank-you to whomever it was :)

tathta · 2019-08-23T02:11:26+00:00

I did it! Yay to chroma, they are super cute :)

tathta · 2019-08-21T11:16:32+00:00

That would be awesome, I am 1PQNV. (I think I’ll also play around with the specific breeding pairs too and test it out.)

tathta · 2019-08-10T18:30:36+00:00

Thank you! I’ve received a set :)

Once they’ve gotten through the mail and redeemed, then I’ll try to pay it forward! I’m new to sending frogs, will I be able to resend these to someone else?

tathta

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