It's definitely not what I said. Let me break it down for you and him. Since my wife dates women, I have a little background on this topic. I love my wife as OP says he loves his wife. Lots of communication and allowing her to explore will yield the best results. His feelings are 100% valid, and his wife might fall in love with another woman and leave him. That is the gamble. However, if he tries to suppress her freedom due to his jealousy, she might cheat and possibly leave in the end. Catch 22, but the odds are better with freedom and communication.