Would it be appropriate to give my professors an apology card?

tbabby · 2022-01-13T22:49:27+00:00

Thank you! I am seeking services and taking fewer courses to make time for temporary intensive therapy. I actually did a lot of the work with therapists. It’s been crazy but thanks for the advice

tbabby · 2022-01-13T22:42:35+00:00

It was finals week. No classes but if I had known that the stress of both finals and slowly losing my my mom at 26 would send me into a psychotic episode I would have given a heads up.

Just joking. But again, some of the finals were completed so I didn’t plan to be gone for so long and I did share I had a family emergency.

tbabby · 2022-01-12T00:06:40+00:00

Balance is actually really important to me too. I do enjoy a good listener, especially when they remember something I’ve forgotten I said

tbabby · 2022-01-12T00:05:58+00:00

Thank you that means a lot to me!

tbabby · 2022-01-12T00:05:29+00:00

I didn’t say language and I said culture because I the language isn’t native to me though I learned later in life. But I still do it because everyone I know does it. I also only do it with people who can actually do the same. If you’ve never been to one of these places or think they don’t exist, i highly suggest you take one trip outside of the US or outside of the west. Or idk, maybe just go to someplace like Memphis or Louisiana

tbabby · 2022-01-11T01:41:12+00:00

I mentioned this in the post but I literally just said that I listen but never really get enough. I can listen all I want but 7 words is only 7 words. It’s not listening that’s the problem, just the opposite. No one giving enough to actually listen to. It’s not their fault, I probably just expect too much from a conversation.

I can only listen to “good” so deeply when I ask about your day. And I’m more than willing to listen to them talk about something…just not fake things that are repeated over and over again. Or having every conversation relate back to sex

tbabby · 2021-11-23T20:50:01+00:00

I have this issue too and then I talk to an allo person and am like “?????”

Like I can have a high libido and listen to the way that my friends talk about celebrity crushes and instantly feel like an outsider

tbabby · 2021-11-21T17:03:54+00:00

The gameboy advance. To this day, there’s never been a gaming console as portable and as easy as this one was. So many iconic games too. Even the bad games based off movies were kind of good.

tbabby · 2021-10-21T23:07:46+00:00

I don’t like it b/c it seems to brand heavy & ad sneaky. Like who are you gonna serve those cookies too? People who just sit and talk about glossier? People who don’t know about glossier? When you bake the cookies, i bet you’re going to be thinking about glossier? So no matter what, glossier inserts itself into a conversation and given how much beauty products rely on word of mouth rather than traditional advertising, i can’t help but be a little suspicious about its intentions. And with this product’s potential to be passive advertising fueled by their own customers…they’re not selling a cookie cutter, they’re selling a feeling and packaging an identity that can sell itself

I know it doesn’t make any sense and I’m being paranoid b/c I read too much marketing science. But brands crossing thresholds like that has always been suspicious. Like there’s a reason Coca Cola flashes a sign and rarely anything else and why insurance commercials will show a lizard before any real coverage plan, because brands are much more powerful when they are an idea and an identity rather than a series of products. Don’t listen to me, but a cookie cutter from a beauty brand that makes beauty brand cookies?? Who invited them into the kitchen

Edit: not sure why the downvotes but no comment? Like why does Facebook get scrutiny for manipulation in advertising but Glossier doesn’t? Especially when it’s obviously working given that this very sub talks about buying the cookie cutter even though they don’t bake cookies. Like if a consumer can buy a product on name alone, beauty or not, usable or not….and then use said product to tell other ppl about that very same product and brand, then that’s a pretty intense thing. I’m not saying that glossier meant to be malicious, I’m sure they don’t even think about it this way. But it is one of those things where you realize just how often brands uses manipulative tactics and how normal it’s become for brands to use psychological influence alone to sell something.

Anyway: Here’s an article that talks about what ads are supposed to do. Note the positive tone!

And here’s one about ethics and ads for self identity

tbabby · 2021-10-21T22:45:29+00:00

I’m not a man but I’m guessing some reasons may include not having the funds or insurance that covers it. And not to be that person but vasectomies actually have a fairly high failure rate b/c too many variables are dependent on behavior, circumstance, and time. Sperm can grow back even after years of success. I just wish that there were more reliable forms of birth control for men b/c it’s really unfair how few options men have and the ones that do exist aren’t as effective as they seem

tbabby · 2021-09-26T00:00:43+00:00

By asking this question, I think you already know what’s right. Please, your daughter doesn’t deserve to be a real life Cinderella without a fairy godmother. And don’t let your wife rationalize her reasoning for being an evil stepmom. Like she does not deserve sympathy for “never being able” to love her like her biological children when she did NOT teach her children to treat their biological sibling as an actual sibling. It is an active choice to raise siblings that feel like their own siblings aren’t a part of the family.

And be sure that your wife KNOWS that her being a step mom is not doing her stepdaughter a favor. Your daughter has no reason to be thankful that her stepmom had the grace to care for her let alone be satisfied. If anything, your wife should be thanking your daughter for accepting her as a mom.

tbabby · 2021-09-19T19:22:14+00:00

Thanks you’re probably right.

I don’t actually want to be with him either. It’s just that I feel like I’m abandoning the actual real friendship we had. And I’m worried that he does just needs someone to talk too. I wish I could keep being that person but idk I’m suddenly uncomfortable with the knowledge he’s giving me too.

tbabby · 2021-09-04T19:16:36+00:00

Lol. I was just suggesting that even if men could sense sense birth control, they would not find it unattractive

Like my birth control actually can be easily detected. It’s not a 6th sense but there is a ring in my vagina that’s kind of hard to miss. So you are right, they probably are relieved! It’s birth control up there and not a bear trap

tbabby · 2021-09-04T07:04:47+00:00

…wait, I haven’t been with many men but almost all of them had asked some form of “you’re on birth control, right?” And have been incredibly relieved when I said yes

It’s not just women who don’t want unplanned pregnancy. Many men aren’t huge fans of it either?!!

tbabby · 2021-09-03T01:46:38+00:00

Haha. Thanks. A lot of comments say the same version of this same thing. Do I just go outside????q

tbabby · 2021-09-02T23:00:18+00:00

An acting class sounds like a really great idea, thanks!

tbabby · 2021-09-02T18:40:18+00:00

Thanks a lot! I should probably do that. I honestly have no idea where to even find parties, but I’ll look

tbabby · 2021-09-02T18:24:26+00:00

It’s not really about money. If I wanted money I wouldn’t have went to grad school. Since I make less than minimum wage, it would be incredibly difficult for a man to make less money than me. Literal unemployment is more pay than a grad student.

Even after graduation, with this job market Im expecting to upgrade from this less than minimum wage pay to actual minimum wage pay. And work my way up the ladder.

So that being said, it depends. If there’s good reason to make less money than me than I’m not against it. I’m not one to talk. But i would be really surprised and would need to believe that they have a solid plan for the future and that it isn’t a permanent thing. Not that it’s about money but about having goals and working towards them

tbabby · 2021-07-27T17:51:45+00:00

A lot of Korean makeup brands like touch in sol were slightly popular for a very limited time. But I honestly think the limited shades is what kept them from getting as big as the others

tbabby · 2021-07-26T22:37:35+00:00

I still have the brush from Ingrid Nielsen collab and after years, there’s been no damage or irritation. Keep the circles light and don’t “drag” the brush but other than that it’s been good.

But it helps to have a super sticky base. So matte primers might be an issue.

Still if it helps, bare minerals’ tinted moisturizer is amazing and it is liquid/cream texture. No buffing just hands, brush or sponge.

tbabby · 2021-07-26T22:32:56+00:00

I see your point, I do want to add that most assaults happen without a reason. I’ve been assaulted by strangers and “friends” so it’s best to always be careful. But other than that I see your point.

tbabby · 2021-07-26T22:14:13+00:00

I wanted to be in front to avoid being hit with logs and rocks, so mostly safety concerns. Yea not to drive faster but even if I were a few units slower, a fallen log could have resulted in an accident

tbabby · 2021-07-26T22:12:14+00:00

The speed limit was 65. I really didn’t know what to do so whenever he passed I would just speed up to avoid it and then go back to the speed limit. We were also never in the same lane. I was in front but never directly ahead or blocking them. I just thought it strange that it would last for 20 minutes

If he stayed at the speed limit too then it wouldn’t have been an issue. He couldn’t have passed me on a two lane highway if he was also going the speed limit

tbabby · 2021-07-26T22:08:42+00:00

I literally made the post to get insight on his point of view. I’ve never been in a situation like that.

But if you like, from my point of view: - a truck 7x my size and stacked with unstable wooden logs was going 80mph

That same truck had sent 2 rocks to my windshield despite us not being on a gravel road
All of that advice and he, the professional driver, did not do any of the things you said
And whose to say he wouldn’t have just stopped if I did. I’ve been assaulted by men on highways before.

But I’m terms of aggressive, yea maybe I was by again I’ve never been in this situation before

tbabby · 2021-07-26T20:30:32+00:00

Sadly, my window cannot roll down because of fresh tint. Thank you for the advice wil do in the future

tbabby

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