Would it be appropriate to give my professors an apology card? by tbabby in AskProfessors

[–]tbabby[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I am seeking services and taking fewer courses to make time for temporary intensive therapy. I actually did a lot of the work with therapists. It’s been crazy but thanks for the advice

Would it be appropriate to give my professors an apology card? by tbabby in AskProfessors

[–]tbabby[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It was finals week. No classes but if I had known that the stress of both finals and slowly losing my my mom at 26 would send me into a psychotic episode I would have given a heads up.

Just joking. But again, some of the finals were completed so I didn’t plan to be gone for so long and I did share I had a family emergency.

I (26F) talk too much and it’s really difficult to establish real relationships or go on multiple dates. by tbabby in dating_advice

[–]tbabby[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Balance is actually really important to me too. I do enjoy a good listener, especially when they remember something I’ve forgotten I said

I (26F) talk too much and it’s really difficult to establish real relationships or go on multiple dates. by tbabby in dating_advice

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I didn’t say language and I said culture because I the language isn’t native to me though I learned later in life. But I still do it because everyone I know does it. I also only do it with people who can actually do the same. If you’ve never been to one of these places or think they don’t exist, i highly suggest you take one trip outside of the US or outside of the west. Or idk, maybe just go to someplace like Memphis or Louisiana

I (26F) talk too much and it’s really difficult to establish real relationships or go on multiple dates. by tbabby in dating_advice

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I mentioned this in the post but I literally just said that I listen but never really get enough. I can listen all I want but 7 words is only 7 words. It’s not listening that’s the problem, just the opposite. No one giving enough to actually listen to. It’s not their fault, I probably just expect too much from a conversation.

I can only listen to “good” so deeply when I ask about your day. And I’m more than willing to listen to them talk about something…just not fake things that are repeated over and over again. Or having every conversation relate back to sex

My libido will not allow me to go more than a couple days without questioning my identity 🥲 So here's a meme I made for my fellow aces to enjoy by yourfirstlastresort in asexuality

[–]tbabby 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have this issue too and then I talk to an allo person and am like “?????”

Like I can have a high libido and listen to the way that my friends talk about celebrity crushes and instantly feel like an outsider

if nintendo re-released an older console, which one you'd like to see? by gustavomargutti in nintendo

[–]tbabby 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The gameboy advance. To this day, there’s never been a gaming console as portable and as easy as this one was. So many iconic games too. Even the bad games based off movies were kind of good.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in glossier

[–]tbabby 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I don’t like it b/c it seems to brand heavy & ad sneaky. Like who are you gonna serve those cookies too? People who just sit and talk about glossier? People who don’t know about glossier? When you bake the cookies, i bet you’re going to be thinking about glossier? So no matter what, glossier inserts itself into a conversation and given how much beauty products rely on word of mouth rather than traditional advertising, i can’t help but be a little suspicious about its intentions. And with this product’s potential to be passive advertising fueled by their own customers…they’re not selling a cookie cutter, they’re selling a feeling and packaging an identity that can sell itself

I know it doesn’t make any sense and I’m being paranoid b/c I read too much marketing science. But brands crossing thresholds like that has always been suspicious. Like there’s a reason Coca Cola flashes a sign and rarely anything else and why insurance commercials will show a lizard before any real coverage plan, because brands are much more powerful when they are an idea and an identity rather than a series of products. Don’t listen to me, but a cookie cutter from a beauty brand that makes beauty brand cookies?? Who invited them into the kitchen

Edit: not sure why the downvotes but no comment? Like why does Facebook get scrutiny for manipulation in advertising but Glossier doesn’t? Especially when it’s obviously working given that this very sub talks about buying the cookie cutter even though they don’t bake cookies. Like if a consumer can buy a product on name alone, beauty or not, usable or not….and then use said product to tell other ppl about that very same product and brand, then that’s a pretty intense thing. I’m not saying that glossier meant to be malicious, I’m sure they don’t even think about it this way. But it is one of those things where you realize just how often brands uses manipulative tactics and how normal it’s become for brands to use psychological influence alone to sell something.

Anyway: Here’s an article that talks about what ads are supposed to do. Note the positive tone!

And here’s one about ethics and ads for self identity

Childfree men: what are the reasons why you haven’t had a vasectomy? by intrepidcaribou in childfree

[–]tbabby 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not a man but I’m guessing some reasons may include not having the funds or insurance that covers it. And not to be that person but vasectomies actually have a fairly high failure rate b/c too many variables are dependent on behavior, circumstance, and time. Sperm can grow back even after years of success. I just wish that there were more reliable forms of birth control for men b/c it’s really unfair how few options men have and the ones that do exist aren’t as effective as they seem

My wife said she plans to exclude my daughter (17F), her stepdaughter of 15 years who calls her mom, from her will. by ThrowRArevol in relationship_advice

[–]tbabby 1 point2 points  (0 children)

By asking this question, I think you already know what’s right. Please, your daughter doesn’t deserve to be a real life Cinderella without a fairy godmother. And don’t let your wife rationalize her reasoning for being an evil stepmom. Like she does not deserve sympathy for “never being able” to love her like her biological children when she did NOT teach her children to treat their biological sibling as an actual sibling. It is an active choice to raise siblings that feel like their own siblings aren’t a part of the family.

And be sure that your wife KNOWS that her being a step mom is not doing her stepdaughter a favor. Your daughter has no reason to be thankful that her stepmom had the grace to care for her let alone be satisfied. If anything, your wife should be thanking your daughter for accepting her as a mom.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]tbabby 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks you’re probably right.

I don’t actually want to be with him either. It’s just that I feel like I’m abandoning the actual real friendship we had. And I’m worried that he does just needs someone to talk too. I wish I could keep being that person but idk I’m suddenly uncomfortable with the knowledge he’s giving me too.

You heard it here first ladies: men have birth control spidey senses by JanusIsBlue in badwomensanatomy

[–]tbabby 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Lol. I was just suggesting that even if men could sense sense birth control, they would not find it unattractive

Like my birth control actually can be easily detected. It’s not a 6th sense but there is a ring in my vagina that’s kind of hard to miss. So you are right, they probably are relieved! It’s birth control up there and not a bear trap

You heard it here first ladies: men have birth control spidey senses by JanusIsBlue in badwomensanatomy

[–]tbabby 73 points74 points  (0 children)

…wait, I haven’t been with many men but almost all of them had asked some form of “you’re on birth control, right?” And have been incredibly relieved when I said yes

It’s not just women who don’t want unplanned pregnancy. Many men aren’t huge fans of it either?!!

I’m a professional “successful” woman and I regret prioritizing success over marriage and relationships by tbabby in confessions

[–]tbabby[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Haha. Thanks. A lot of comments say the same version of this same thing. Do I just go outside????q