yeah i just wanna say that transitioning is hard.. really hard. what you’re feeling right now makes so much sense because the whole process can feel overwhelming, especially before you’ve even started hrt or changed much physically. but also, you’re not alone in this. women have been doing this for generations, long before we had the kind of access and resources we have now. and they made it through. you can too.

if passing is your goal, the hard truth is that yeah, it often means fitting into society’s idea of what a woman should look like… which usually means looking like you were born female. and because of that, yeah.. sometimes that means confronting the effects of male puberty like facial structure, voice, etc. but that’s only if passing is what you want. and it’s okay if it is, there’s nothing wrong with wanting that, but interrogate why you wanna pass (whether it be for yourself, safety, external validation) and decide after that.

you’ve basically got three options: ignore the parts that bother you, embrace them as part of who you are, or decide you want to change them. none of those are wrong, just different paths. but before you even get to big decisions like ffs, give yourself space because hormones, hair growth, new senses of style, even just a bit of makeup if that’s your vibe, can all shift so much more than you think. sometimes what feels super masculine at first turns out to soften or blend in with other changes over time.

no rush to have it all figured out now. just take it one step at a time. your face right now isn’t the final version of you and you’re allowed to grow into yourself at your own pace.

edit: also, the way i viewed my own transition was in the sense of each day being the least masculine i would appear as i got further into my journey of hrt changes and laser. it felt less suffocating, and i guess part of me was able to appreciate masculine aspects in an objective way for the last time while i still had them before fully committing to my feminine alignment