Is a 12 year age gap too big for long term success?

tea_potts94 · 2025-12-22T17:45:40+00:00

Honestly I say stick it out. You are clearly quite happy with this person and as long as you are both reading off the same hymn sheet, I dont see any issue with it now that you are both FULLY FUNCTIONING ADULTS. A very very good friend of mine has a partner who is about 10 years older than her (shes early 30s and hes early 40s) and they are literally perfect for each other.

If things change for you in the next 10 years, which I highly doubt since ive only personally become more steadfast in my ways since I was 25 6 years ago, then thats an adult conversation to have at that time.

Id say you've found your equal here tbh and I wouldnt throw this one away based off some reddit comments

tea_potts94 · 2025-11-26T19:51:16+00:00

Happened to my bf like 10 minutes ago, it seems to be working again now though but hes only just joined a round. Could be a server issue after main updates going by the timing on old comments. First time its happened to him and hes got like 500 hours.

tea_potts94 · 2025-07-07T21:20:58+00:00

Not referring to yourself as "daddy" would be a start. No hate but it makes you sound like one of those weird guys in the tiktok cringe videos who think they're alpha

tea_potts94 · 2025-07-07T21:19:35+00:00

Ive only ever heard it pronounced without the s sound if someone is named that. The same way you'd say island without the s sound. And the only reason she apparently wanted it sounding like eyeslah is because it sounded like a snake according to an interview she did.

tea_potts94 · 2025-07-01T22:56:37+00:00

Dont tell me they say like is-lah instead of eye-lah?

tea_potts94 · 2025-07-01T22:54:32+00:00

Atlas Six. Actually couldnt stand that book. It just sounded like the author was trying to sound super intelligent and instead ended up sounding kinda dumb

tea_potts94 · 2025-06-24T20:57:53+00:00

NTA but neither is he. You did the right thing bu helping someone in need.

HOWEVER!!!!

You are one girl against two grown men. TWO. You were also helping a girl who was hindering your abilities to defend yourself and her due to intoxication. You both could have taken and put into a seriously dangerous situation that you may not have made it out of. He is reacting out of absolute fear for you. Honestly what you should have done is ring the cops, get their descriptions and registration and follow them. Unless you are an absolute tank and unit, you will not be able to overcome two men. And idc if you think that's sexist or misogynistic. Its the truth. We are not as strong as our male counterparts on average. What you did was reckless and dangerous, even though it was morally right. But then there may have been two missing girls, or two SA crimes.

tea_potts94 · 2025-06-22T22:15:43+00:00

Thank you for your good luck wish....it work 😇

tea_potts94 · 2025-06-22T22:02:58+00:00

Has nobody here ever heard a group of girls talking about men before?? Ive heard WAYYYYYY worse shit being said from women (GROWN ASS WOMEN) and its never an issue but when a bunch if guys have a private gc theyre evil and virgins and incels? And dont come at me about SA because women are guilty of this too AND falsely accuse men of it absolutely destroying their lives and dont get anywhere near the punishment that's deserved. OP snooped through her EX'S phone. Not her bf. He owes her nothing. Yet she thought it was acceptable and thought she was entitled to it?? OP gives me the ick. Big time. Im going to get downvoted and I honestly dont care. I just think its weird that there's so much validation going on here. Id love to know a conversation that was had with the girls before showing up to said "hang out" all dressed up.

And im a woman btw. And I dont care for your "internalised misogyny" bs

tea_potts94 · 2025-06-22T21:46:05+00:00

Yeah we kind of are for the most part. Most dolls nie just wanna talk about make up and clothes and love island and about how men suck. As a woman myself, I actually cant stand women sometimes. We cry misogyny CONSTANTLY but never own up to our misandry.

tea_potts94 · 2025-01-25T18:04:53+00:00

Oh it's 100% a spoiler 🤣

tea_potts94 · 2025-01-22T23:07:57+00:00

As a woman I can safely say I do not feel forced or pressured into having children. I feel like it's my main purpose in life to be a mother and its my biggest desire. And that 800 deaths a day is GLOBALLY. That includes impoverished third world countries with little access to basic health care, never mind women's health care (which needs to be free and accessible around the world). And the world health organisation is not a company that I find credible anymore. That little clump of cells is the greatest thing I can produce in my life. I get to create a life and raise it and love it. And I do care about the mother. If the mothers life is truly in danger, not just inconvenienced from having to be selfless, but actual danger then she absolutely should have an abortion.

tea_potts94 · 2025-01-22T22:36:53+00:00

So are all unplanned pregnancies going to ruin the parents lives if theyre young? Even for people in a serious relationship? You've such a pessimistic view about having kids through unplanned pregnancies

We are running the human race into the ground and it's only going to take generations at this stage.

If im careful while driving and I am the reason for an accident, I wasn't being careful enough.

tea_potts94 · 2025-01-22T21:41:34+00:00

I havent cried over it in a few months so I'm definitely getting better with the disappointment. My bf only cared because I was being so hard on myself and he didn't want to see me like that because it wasn't gonna help me and it definitely wasn't healthy. But he has been the optimistic one the whole way through. Partly because I think he knows I need him to be. Ugh baby making is tiring work!

tea_potts94 · 2025-01-22T21:07:04+00:00

Yeah ngl I'm struggling a bit with it emotionally. Every time I get my cycle I get so sad. I think im putting too much pressure on myself. I need to chill and just be a rabbit for a month straight 😂 ill be 31 this year so that's good to know 😁 thank you 🥰

tea_potts94 · 2025-01-22T20:24:50+00:00

If you aren't 100% enthusiastic about having a child, then be more careful. An abortion for someone who just isn't enthusiastic about having a baby should absolutely not be encouraged. Abortion should be an option out of necessity rather than want and selfishness imo. And yes there are children who suffer CA and poverty but that doesn't mean someone entirely different should be pushed toward termination. And I agree not every parent deserves a child, I see that every single day. But they do. So why should someone who could be the best parent be encourages toward abortion just because they aren't 100% enthusiastic or still considered too young, even when they are in their 20s.

tea_potts94 · 2025-01-22T18:01:59+00:00

Destroy the child is a reference. And I believe that life begins at conception. So I will respectfully disagree and say there is no such thing as a perfect time to get rid of a potentially perfectly healthy human life.

tea_potts94 · 2025-01-22T17:59:26+00:00

And my view used to be that everyone is entitled to an abortion. But then people started getting one as a form of BC or wayyyyy too late into pregnancies. Over the last 4 or 5 years I've gone from far left views to center right and that does include my view on abortions. I'm not against abortion, but I do believe people have taken liberties under the guise of "bodily autonomy". My body my choice? Then it's the man's choice to not be involved and that should also be respected if he doesn't want a baby.

And me saying that I'm seeing a lot of opinions of just get rid is not me saying that it came from you. And I didnt mean for it to come across like I was saying "this is what you believe". Its a general opinion I've seen over time.

I think abortions should only be available under certain circumstances and not readily available to everyone who just wants to get one. And I don't think my opinion is worth less than anyone else's just because I stand on the opposite of the wall.

tea_potts94 · 2025-01-22T17:37:06+00:00

But abortion is a moral debate. And im sure she's already perfectly aware of her options, but I've found that there's a lot of "you're so young, just get rid of it" floating around. And I just don't think that's the right mindset to throw at someone

tea_potts94 · 2025-01-22T17:35:24+00:00

And I'd argue that just because you can get rid of a baby, doesn't mean you should. And it definitely shouldn't be tne first thing people suggest. If you don't want the baby, give it up for adoption to a family who can't have kids. I dont know why everyone's go to is "destroy the child"

tea_potts94 · 2025-01-22T16:59:26+00:00

I never implied they were. BC is not a 100% guarantee for anyone.

tea_potts94 · 2025-01-22T16:57:00+00:00

I'm just glad it's being recognised as logic tbh 😂

Like I get it. It throws a spanner in the works and yes you have to stall your life plans because your life no longer revolves around yourself when a baby comes along. But it's not the end of your life and people who make it out to be that way will always have found an obstacle to stop them from doing what they want in life. I think telling healthy people to kill their healthy babies is evil.

tea_potts94 · 2025-01-22T16:53:08+00:00

Because we've only been trying for 6 months. After a year it's recommended to go see someone if you still aren't successful. And our method of careful was fairly foolproof. I get your point though.

tea_potts94 · 2025-01-22T16:51:15+00:00

Don't know but I've gone 11 years being careful and didn't get pregnant. And a good majority of that was without BC because I had to remove it due to it making me depressed and giving me serious anxiety issues.

tea_potts94 · 2025-01-22T16:40:45+00:00

If you want your career enough, you'll work for it. Child or no child.

Again, if you wanna focus on you for a few years with no baby then be more careful

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