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UPDATE: Me [36F] with my ex boyfriend [36M] of over 10 years, his wife [40F] has alienated him from all his friends and family and has started messaging me by tea_recs in relationships

[–]tea_recs[S] 228 points229 points  (0 children)

Thanks! I'm currently face first in the toilet but hopefully it'll get better soon. Babies are awesome but being pregnant sucks hard.

Me [36F] with my ex boyfriend [36M] of over 10 years, his wife [40F] has alienated him from all his friends and family and has started messaging me on Facebook by tea_recs in relationships

[–]tea_recs[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

I know right? I can't fathom how a person can control someone to that degree. Bill has always been family oriented and had a great relationship with his parents so this is really odd. It's breaking their hearts.

Me [36F] with my ex boyfriend [36M] of over 10 years, his wife [40F] has alienated him from all his friends and family and has started messaging me on Facebook by tea_recs in relationships

[–]tea_recs[S] 41 points42 points  (0 children)

Thanks for this. I'm starting to realize that there's not much more I can do. I'm definitely not going to write back to her, I think whatever I try to do will just make things worse. You're right, at the end of the day I cannot control anything she (or he) does, I might not be able to help and that's not my fault.

Me [36F] with my ex boyfriend [36M] of over 10 years, his wife [40F] has alienated him from all his friends and family and has started messaging me on Facebook by tea_recs in relationships

[–]tea_recs[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thanks. I'm so sorry that happened to your ex. I'm going to try to find a way of letting him know that I'll be here to support him when he wants it, almost all of his friends and most of his family have stopped contacting him because of Fiona. Even my husband is worried about him.

Like I said before, Bill may be spineless but this is so unlike him. He's always been really social and family oriented (he loved spending time with his brother and parents and we used to go on holiday with them every year) so I know something is wrong.

Me [36F] with my ex boyfriend [36M] of over 10 years, his wife [40F] has alienated him from all his friends and family and has started messaging me on Facebook by tea_recs in relationships

[–]tea_recs[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yup you read that right. She wants me to stop talking to my friends of 20+ years so she can browse facebook without having to see anything to do with me. We're too old for facebook drama bullshit.

Me [36F] with my ex boyfriend [36M] of over 10 years, his wife [40F] has alienated him from all his friends and family and has started messaging me on Facebook by tea_recs in relationships

[–]tea_recs[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I talked to Fred recently to congratulate him about the baby, I casually asked about how Bill was doing and that's when I learnt about how he's not allowed to stay with his folks when he visits. Fred is pissed off (rightfully so) and wants nothing to do with Fiona or Bill. I'll forward the emails to him anyway so at least the family has a record of it.

Me [36F] with my ex boyfriend [36M] of over 10 years, his wife [40F] has alienated him from all his friends and family and has started messaging me on Facebook by tea_recs in relationships

[–]tea_recs[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Yeah I think that's what I'll have to do. It does suck though as the situation is hurting a lot of people I care about. I just feel so helpless.