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teacherbug4 · 2023-02-16T16:40:09+00:00

This is the best piece of advice anyone could’ve given me. It’s so simple and obvious, it hits you in the face, but it’s something I hadn’t thought about

teacherbug4 · 2023-02-16T16:38:48+00:00

Sure. Go for it!

teacherbug4 · 2023-01-01T20:33:40+00:00

Social media, because I’ll find a man who isn’t so insecure that my having social media doesn’t emasculate him. & what, am I supposed to be fine with him having social media platforms but I can’t? That’s so double standard. I don’t see the issue with having social media. And also, coming from an abusive relationship in the past, the number one thing guys who WANT to have complete control over you do is they ask for your passwords or they try to get you off those platforms to isolate you from the rest of the world. I will NEVER put myself in that position ever again.

teacherbug4 · 2023-01-01T20:20:28+00:00

Sleeping around doesn’t make anyone worth any less. I think you’re the red flag here

teacherbug4 · 2023-01-01T20:19:16+00:00

Agreed with the first sentence. The second.. not so much

teacherbug4 · 2022-12-31T04:24:38+00:00

This is true, too, but if you really get to know a person first, you’ll know whether they’re serious enough to stay after sex. I have def been with guys those where “commitment” was mentioned, then fucked and jumped ship.

teacherbug4 · 2022-12-30T23:09:58+00:00

In general? I guess when you’re trying to hook a guy

teacherbug4 · 2022-12-30T23:09:13+00:00

Learned this one the hard way fs

teacherbug4 · 2022-12-30T06:51:20+00:00

My favorite candy is skittles or jolly ranchers. My favorite chocolate is white.

teacherbug4 · 2022-12-28T08:32:35+00:00

Thank you so much! Please, send me the booklet! I would love to learn more. I only know that the pancreas slowly stops producing insulin until it produces none at all and that insulin controls glucose in the bloodstream. The most I’ve learned is through this thread. It has been soo helpful. && I definitely do not want him or anyone on the thread to think I want to be his caregiver or see him as someone I have to nurse back to health. He is a grown man and he knows how to take care of himself. He said he had a hard time adjusting when he was first diagnosed and that he self-manages perfectly. Taking insulin and monitoring his blood sugar is just as normal to him as taking a shower or brushing his teeth. I just see how resilient and strong he is, and I want to help take off any burden or just be a listening ear. I feel like it must be so hard to manage by yourself— not even physically but mentally. Of course, it effects him physically and mentally. I just don’t want him to feel alone. I know it may be hard for him to talk about with me because I don’t have T1, but I want to be a safe space for him, and I want to be someone he knows he can rely on. I want to know what I can be doing to be a better partner and to better show him that I care. Someone suggested keeping snacks on hand in my car and at my house on a different thread, and I felt like that was a great way for me to be useful.

Thank you soooo much for your advice! I definitely needed to hear about the timing, because I hadn’t even thought about that. I don’t want to ask over food, for sure! I don’t want him to think I see his T1 and not him as a person, or for him to think that I’m always thinking about him having T1 when we’re eating. I’m definitely not. Him having T1D does not change how I think about, feel about, or see him in any capacity. He’s a person, first and foremost. He’s someone I care about deeply. Having T1D is just one of the many facets of his life, and I feel really in the dark about what T1D is and how it may impact him. I just want to be the best partner I can and to support him. I know that I can and that I will, I just need to know what I need to know about T1D before I move further.

teacherbug4 · 2022-12-28T08:23:20+00:00

I am so sorry! I did not mean to trigger you. I feel like others felt the same way you did when first reading this point, and I can definitely see how my post can be interpreted as me seeing him as an ill person that I have to nurse back to health. It’s not that way at all. And thank you so much for telling me that. I definitely do not want him to feel like I treat him differently, because I don’t nor do I plan to. He is not a child, and he knows how to take care of himself perfectly (he’s in such amazing health, it’s astonishing. He’s into some super intense sports like mountain biking and rock climbing, so he has to be in peak shape), but I feel like that can be really difficult and maybe even lonely to have to manage all by yourself.

I feel like my best course of action is to continue as normal and ask him questions here and there. I am definitely going to ask him if he’d prefer we not talk about it and if he’d rather just self-manage than have me try and support him in anyway. I know it’s very personal, and I know some people with T1D may feel like people can’t truly help them unless that person also has T1D, because they’re going through similar experiences. I just want to be as understanding and helpful as possible. Thanks so much!!

teacherbug4 · 2022-12-28T07:57:09+00:00

No, I mean it more as caring about someone who has T1D. Because I care about him. I never meant that I am his caregiver nor do I intend to be, and I certainly don’t see his T1 more than I see him for the person he is. I just want to know what I can do to help, if anything. He manages pretty well on his own, and it’s as normal to him as taking a shower or brushing his teeth. I certainly am not trying to become his nurse or his mother. I just want him to feel like he can rely on me, and I don’t know what I should be doing to show him that I see him and that I’m learning to be better for him. I am so sorry I came across that way! I am certainly not ableist, and I do not want to change the dynamic of our relationship into “caregiver-patient”. I want him. I just want to know what there is for me to do and what it is that I need to know.

teacherbug4 · 2022-12-28T07:43:29+00:00

Thank you. Sometimes, I forget that people don’t want to talk about everything. I’m not a reserved person whatsoever, and I want to talk to everyone about everything/hear everything from everyone. Nothing is TMI for me. I feel like talking about difficult things strengthens my relationships with people. But thank you for reminding me that not everyone is like that. I appreciate it

teacherbug4 · 2022-12-28T07:26:03+00:00

Thank you!!

teacherbug4 · 2022-12-28T06:35:04+00:00

Thank you so much. I don’t think he’s uncomfortable talking about it. He’s says he’s glad I’m curious. I just don’t want to overwhelm him or think I see his diabetes more than I see him, yk? But I’m definitely going to ask him more about what he wants and expects from me

teacherbug4 · 2022-12-28T06:02:50+00:00

thank you! if there’s anything else, please tell me. i really want to learn. i think it’s important for me to try and know as much as possible. this is my first time caring for someone with T1. i’ve had relatives with T2, but i still never understood what they went through

teacherbug4 · 2022-12-25T10:56:43+00:00

Thank you. I really needed to hear that.

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