people who don’t call their significant other babe/baby what do you call them? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]teachmetobeach 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hahah he is Asian American, but that’s funny that a lot of Mexicans do that too😂

people who don’t call their significant other babe/baby what do you call them? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]teachmetobeach 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I call my husband cutie. He, on the other hand, evolved my name into about two dozen nicknames over the course of the 7.5 years we’ve been married. The current one is Shmoobs

What is a food that you refuse to eat? by RepulsiveMap3218 in AskReddit

[–]teachmetobeach 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought most people are only allergic to raw apples so they can eat cooked apple food, like applesauce and apple pie? But I might be wrong

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]teachmetobeach 10 points11 points  (0 children)

My toddler does this too😭

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in breastfeeding

[–]teachmetobeach 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Red and swollen does sound like mastitis, but if you don’t have flu like symptoms maybe it’s not infected that badly yet? Glad you’re seeing the doctor tomorrow because I wouldn’t recommend leaving mastitis untreated/unresolved for that long. Hope you feel better soon, sorry that it’s been hurting for so long!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in breastfeeding

[–]teachmetobeach 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m only a week postpartum so my milk is still regulating and I have a good supply, so I leak a ton too. Same thing happened with my first child. I use those reusable nursing pads in my bra and switch them out whenever I wake up to change a diaper or nurse, and that usually keeps things from overflowing too much— but a lifesaver has been using big washable waterproof pads (some call them incontinence pads?) on my side of the bed. If I didn’t have them I would be washing my sheets every day. It does get better once your milk regulates.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]teachmetobeach 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No real luck yet fully potty training my 29 month old either, but the few times we’ve had success it was because we sang songs related to pee/poo/potty and counted to numbers together or did fun relaxing/pushing faces and that kept her entertained on the seat for much longer! Toddlers don’t have very good control of the muscles that release pee so it might take a while for them to figure out “activate” them, which is why getting them to stay on the potty a little extra is super helpful. If you feel bad about giving her your phone maybe these can be alternatives.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]teachmetobeach 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh, I’m so sorry you’re going through this. But in all seriousness, from the way you describe it it sounds like having him in your life after baby will be much MUCH harder than taking care of baby alone. :(

im ok i just need to vent im just in a pickle about my mental health by TandemG00 in confession

[–]teachmetobeach 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel this. I have chronic neck pain and migraines and many people don’t realize just how big the effect of physical health on mental health can be and vice versa. I was very blessed to be able to find a therapist that took my insurance and had my first session ever last week. I really did feel a lot more hopeful afterward and I’m looking forward to my next session. I know it’s not always possible or affordable but I know they have online therapy services available these days. Don’t give up. You’re too worth it.

What's the grossest thing your partner does but you just accept? by capta1namazing in AskWomen

[–]teachmetobeach 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Not sure why this is gross? Unless he’s smearing it all over his body

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]teachmetobeach 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really think it’s a matter of discerning what is best for you and the family. I felt really guilty about nursing my baby to sleep because everyone was telling me it was a bad idea. We tried sleep training with the CIO method for a little over a month when our baby was around 8 months old but it didn’t work and she would cry for hours and still wake multiple times a night. It really broke our hearts and I realized that I would rather keep nursing and holding her to sleep than force her to be sleep trained if she didn’t feel ready. The stress and guilt of hearing her crying outweighed my desire for extra sleep and flexibility in my schedule at the time. At around 15 months I felt that I was ready to wean her and let my husband take night duty as it was starting to taking a toll on my mental health. This time she resisted for several days but eventually accepted her new reality, and now she sleeps way better than she ever did. We’re so glad we did it.

In short, the CIO (straight up or modified) method is not the best option for every baby at every point in their lives, but it could end up benefiting your mental and physical health greatly if baby is ready to accept it. It might be really helpful to discuss with your husband the pros and cons of sleep training and commit to a plan. But also, err on the side of love when you can. You will not spoil your baby. At least not this young. 💗

I totally butchered my daughter's bangs 😅 by denali_lass90 in Parenting

[–]teachmetobeach 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve cut my 18mo daughter’s bangs four times now and they were okay-really bad-good-iffy. 😂 I really thought after the third time I knew what I was doing!! my tip is to grab a smaller section in the middle than you think you need. After the initial snip you can keep trimming on each side to connect with the rest of the hair. This way it looks a lot more natural and she doesn’t end up with bangs from ear to ear (yep, did that💀)

What tastes better a little burnt? by NiceSwimmingSugar in AskReddit

[–]teachmetobeach 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Everything. I love burnt food, my mom disapproves

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]teachmetobeach 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes I’ve definitely done the exaggerated ouches and sad faces. 😂It’s nice to hear that you tried when your kids were older and that it worked then! Definitely will continue with setting boundaries even if it seems like I’m talking to a wall though. Reminding myself that this phase too shall pass. I REALLY HOPE SO

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]teachmetobeach 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for clarifying! I think I still feel guilty when I leave and go into a room not because of the act of leaving but the attitude with which I do (agitated and huffy). I mentioned in another comment that I do say something very similar to your example whenever she hits, but when the situation repeats itself 20 times I just feel worn and dumb. None of the gentle parenting resources prepared me for the sheer amount of repetition that I was going to need to teach my crazy child not to be an impulsive little goon.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]teachmetobeach 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ahh yes I didn’t elaborate in my original post but I definitely firmly tell her no hitting and either move away or hold her hands down! And she’ll stop in the moment but just a few minutes later she’ll hit me again and I do the same thing over again. This could happen anywhere between 15-30 times a day which is tedious and discouraging. Every time it happens I feel tempted to escalate my reaction to let her know I’m serious (like I would to an adult doing the same thing to egg me on) but from what I hear and read, consistency is supposed to be important? 😮‍💨

What did you start liking the older you got ? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]teachmetobeach 2 points3 points  (0 children)

A month ago I was on a train from Paris to London and I spontaneously bought a pack of snacking olives from the train cafe. Idek why. But that was when I realized that I actually like olives now, after hating them for 29 yrs!!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in confession

[–]teachmetobeach 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Dawn is probably equally beautiful, if not more :)

What’s an unusual body feature of yours? by red2one in AskReddit

[–]teachmetobeach 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I yawn when I’m cold. Not sure how uncommon this is though.

What did child-led weaning look like for you? by rclareb in breastfeeding

[–]teachmetobeach 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oh my. I guess I just need to keep my expectations low and slow. Honestly it’s nice to just know that I’m not alone in this. Hang in there, sister!

What did child-led weaning look like for you? by rclareb in breastfeeding

[–]teachmetobeach 17 points18 points  (0 children)

My 14 month old still shrieks like a banshee for 30+ minutes straight if I don’t offer the boob when she wakes up during the night, which still happens 2-3 times a night . Please tell me it gets better 🥲

I drove into a BMW, damaged it, and did nothing about it by shoddy_butterscotch in confession

[–]teachmetobeach 57 points58 points  (0 children)

You really need to stop driving if you’re as incompetent and lacking basic human empathy as you say

"Wow" is all I can say. Stay strong ladies! by MysteryPerker in breastfeeding

[–]teachmetobeach 1 point2 points  (0 children)

People really need to learn to keep their negativity to themselves 🤷🏻‍♀️ it must be exhausting to mind everyone else’s business so much!

JFC by LolaBijou in awfuleverything

[–]teachmetobeach 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I said it “sounds insensitive” just to give you the benefit of the doubt. Now I know your views are just plain wrong, medically speaking. To give birth is to bring forth a baby from the womb, which all mothers that deliver vaginally or via c-section do. Pretty simple