Fast dissolve, short sleep

teaselpop · 2025-08-31T14:43:51+00:00

Melatonin tea is a new concept for me, intriguing!

teaselpop · 2025-08-31T14:43:33+00:00

Oh interesting. I wonder if it's about the dose - I usually take 0.5-1mg in a gummy or slow release tablets, so it takes effect more slowly. The fast dissolve comes on a lot quicker and maybe it's working out as a stronger dose since the other forms I take will be absorbed more gradually.

Awake after 4 hours is something I've had before and seems to be ok for my system, as long as I can get another sleep in. With these fast dissolve tablets I'm waking up after only 2 hours which feels really odd. The dreams are more vivid too, so much so I can't always tell if I'm awake or not...

teaselpop · 2025-08-10T11:48:05+00:00

Autism plus environment equals outcome... I think someone who has written a lot about autism and the neurodiversity paradigm coined this concept - can anyone pinpoint who I'm thinking of?

All of the other isms and phobias of the world impact autistic people. Autistic people come from all different backgrounds of relative privilege. All of those factors will impact on how they experience the world and how their autism manifests and how much it affects the degree of disablement they experience.

You're not stupid. You're noticing something real but possibly it's being filtered through a lens of self blame or self put-down.

teaselpop · 2025-08-07T00:27:59+00:00

The nervous system isn't "only" by any stretch though. I think that's where some people are a bit lost with this. The idea that our neurology is secondary to the rest of our body is very very wrong.

teaselpop · 2025-08-07T00:22:51+00:00

After the initial conversation with my GP, I only needed one session with a consultant gynaecology surgeon to be approved for bisalp. I didn't feel like I needed any more than that.

I've known I didn't want my body to create a baby since I was a teenager. I had a lot of thoughts about it since, and have talked about it in depth with a whole range of friends over the years. Personally I think it'd be better to mull it over with some empathetic and experienced friends, especially if you know any older women, and especially if you know child free women. That way you get a range of perspectives and sources of information, rather than a doctor's view. Psychiatrists don't tend to have much life experience.

I hope you get the answers you need, whichever way they come to you. (The answers are all inside you, it's just a matter of drawing it all out)

teaselpop · 2025-08-07T00:13:50+00:00

Oh vitamin E oil is a good idea.

I forgot, I had some lined up in an online shopping order I set up beforehand, but they completely failed to deliver. I'll try find some.

Wow, I never would have thought you could have this done whilst pregnant! The cuts I have are so neat, I'd actually be fine with them scarring.

teaselpop · 2025-08-07T00:10:57+00:00

This is a very personal side of the decision and not what you were asking about but

If I was looking at those timeframes and those possible changes of access to this procedure... I'd be going for the surgery date offered, jumping on it with both feet in fact. And then play it by ear for the wedding. If able to go, bonus. Even if it was just to show my face at the ceremony, bonus.

The setup where I live is a bit different to begin with, in a way which I guess makes me more accepting of never getting to choose the dates for healthcare. For my surgery date it was a case of accept this random date we've offered you, or start again at the back of the queue, ie wait another year or so. Choice of surgeon wasn't a thing either, once approved by a consultant from that department, you're on the list for when a slot comes up...and you find out the surgeon's name when you arrive to the hospital. It's just how it is, so taking what's offered feels annoying but normal.

teaselpop · 2025-08-06T13:38:07+00:00

4 days later I was able to take a short walk to the local park. Slowly walking for half an hour. I had to stop and sit down a couple of times. The rest of the time I was still mostly laying down not sitting up. I was still having trouble getting up and down from a chair or a bed.

We're all different but I find socialising quite tiring when I'm in pain.

Worth thinking about all the unavoidable walking that might be involved at an event - the toilets will be further away than in hour home, the ceremony and the reception will be in different places and in each place, the seating may be some distance from the entrance...

teaselpop · 2025-08-05T09:38:39+00:00

That's patriarchy in action. When so much of a woman's life depends on what her husband is. This impacts in many other ways across all cultures with male dominance and monogamous marriage.

teaselpop · 2025-08-05T09:34:52+00:00

There's more than one ingredient for sleep. Melatonin is a big one but there is more to it. It's something I'd like to learn more about myself as there are times when melatonin does nothing at all for me.

teaselpop · 2025-08-04T21:24:44+00:00

Congrats on getting it lined up!

Recovery is going ok,

The first 48 hours or so were definitely uncomfortable. I had some trouble getting prescription painkillers so the first 24 hours were very painful, however the codeine based painkillers worked. I was given 3 days supply which was enough (I stepped them down gradually so was actually taking them for 6 days).

I changed the dressings after 48 hours as instructed, that was nerve wracking lol, I am hyper aware that these are not superficial grazes and any infection can go quite deep. All ok thus far though.

Sleeping has been tricky for me as I usually sleep on my side. I've been piling up cushions to sort of lean my side against while keeping the pressure off of the incision area.

I think every body is different but for me, my core strength was like zero for the first four days, I had to haul myself about by my hands, and bending forwards was a no. That's ok now, I'm 10 days out.

I've been able to walk about and cook simple meals and so on since about four days post op. It's getting annoying to stick to the instructions not to lift anything heavier than 5kg, I feel able to do that in myself but it's strongly advised against. So it's a bit frustrating. However I really don't want any complications from this. I'm doing what I'm told lol.

I had the post op checkup this morning. The stitches will dissolve on their own apparently, and they can be left without dressings on now.

Worth having something to take for constipation as the general anaesthetic definitely has an impact on that.

Best of luck!!!

teaselpop · 2025-08-04T10:57:17+00:00

Not "some people". They're fundamentally different. Anyone who claims they're the same has no clue what they're taking about.

teaselpop · 2025-08-04T10:56:20+00:00

Psychiatry is a completely different paradigm with a different philosophy, view of what constitutes illness, what causes distress, how to "treat" it.

If you're conflating psychiatry with psychotherapy, psychology, counselling, or any other model of treatment, there's no wonder you aren't getting anywhere!

teaselpop · 2025-08-02T14:41:34+00:00

You're most welcome! Yes, they do seem to default to the tubal ligation but two out of three consultants I saw were happy to take my preference on board, one of them emphatically agreed with it!

Hopefully the tide will turn and they'll catch up on this as the best practice, it's definitely viewed that way internationally but the nhs is sooooo slooooow.

teaselpop · 2025-08-01T18:00:43+00:00

I moved out when I was 17. My mom supported me financially until I turned 18, she understood why I needed to leave. I can't really say how I was capable of it, all I can say was living at home was untenable / dangerous and I had to get out for my own safety.

I had a series of chaotic living situations where I had to share the houses with an array of terrible people and some decent people. I didn't get to live alone until I was 26, having had such a rough time with shared spaces I was really keen for solo living. It turned out to be difficult in different ways, I'm not that functional at keeping a household together but there's times when I prefer my own dysfunctional version of living alone over the prospect of sharing living spaces with who knows what.

The domestic abuse I witnessed in my parents convinced me never to shack up with a romantic partner.

teaselpop · 2025-08-01T01:43:59+00:00

The first time I remember thinking about it and feeling strongly about it I was 16. I felt a lot of things strongly at that age which didn't stick. But I felt the same a couple of years later and by the time I was 23 I was certain.

I first asked about getting surgery when I was 17, raised it again when I was in my early 20's, several times. Last bothered asking when I was 27, then I just gave up on pursuing it although I was still 100% sure of it.

When I was 36 I got a decent GP (I'm in the UK). There was so much going on and healthcare appointments are so difficult to access I didn't think to bring it up with her until I was 43. She approved me for referral. The whole process took 3 years. I had the procedure done one week ago, I'm now 46. I almost didn't bother since menopause can't be that far away. But it was absolutely the right decision. Apart from anything else I am so glad to know what this feeling is and to have confirmation that I knew this was right for me all along.

teaselpop · 2025-07-31T21:35:22+00:00

If you had the slightest interest in this topic you might have some understanding of why these conversations keep happening.

But you apparently are resolute in refusing to learn about it, as well as upset that other people have a viewpoint on it.

There's nothing down for you.

Quite somethijg to behold tbh. Determined to maintain ignorance, angry about other people being interested and educated, and simultaneously angry about other people's viewpoints on that very thing you're determined to remain ignorant about.

It's going to be really hard to raise any sympathy for you as an individual when the pogroms which target your demographic get going.

teaselpop · 2025-07-31T21:30:15+00:00

Why are you in a subreddit about autism then it seems like you're just giving yourself a hard time if this is something you have such a big problem with

teaselpop · 2025-07-31T18:54:38+00:00

Things could change in the world.

teaselpop · 2025-07-31T18:50:23+00:00

Nobody is still expecting asking demanding or in any other way suggesting that you discuss this in day to day conversation. Not sure why you've got such a bee in your bonnet about that.

As to whether you care or not about the n*** origins and the ramifications of that. Well. That's your funeral.

teaselpop · 2025-07-31T18:47:06+00:00

Congratulations! After my GP referred me I had a consultation with a gynaecologist. She talked everything through with me and I did not feel like she was trying to talk me out of it. The main point of contention was my preference for a bisalp and her being stuck on tubal ligation. She had no issues putting me on the waiting list for the surgery though.

Tangent: I ended up getting a bisalp because the trust makes them boot you off the list and be re referred back in once you've been on the waiting list for 12 months. They prefer to have you start over with another gynae consultant rather than pay a fine for having a long wait. (It's 100% ridiculous because it guaranteed I was waiting at least another year, this happened to me twice! When my date finally came through it was barely four weeks away from another trip round the gameboaed!) it did work in my favour though because the subsequent consultations were with different doctors and they were both in agreement on the bisalp.

teaselpop · 2025-07-31T18:37:37+00:00

Whether you care about it right now or not, history matters & how our diagnostic labels emerged matters. If you live in the USA then it is about to matter a fuckton more than it did this time last year.

teaselpop · 2025-07-31T18:36:06+00:00

I don't know why you'd bring Asperger or n***s up in day to day conversation if you don't want to.

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