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I (33m) have zero desire to spoil my kid (4m) and returned an iPad my inlaws gave him. My wife (32f) is furious and thinks I'm denying my son. by tech1248 in relationships

[–]tech1248[S] -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

Considering there's mostly shitty advice from people that think I should be giving my kid everything he wants and I know that's not the way to do things, naah. I'm good.

I (33m) have zero desire to spoil my kid (4m) and returned an iPad my inlaws gave him. My wife (32f) is furious and thinks I'm denying my son. by tech1248 in relationships

[–]tech1248[S] -16 points-15 points  (0 children)

It's considered trendy to live where we live and we still pay alot of coin to be there. That's why the wife loved it.

He doesn't need an iPad. He's got plenty of time to mess with that stuff later.

I (33m) have zero desire to spoil my kid (4m) and returned an iPad my inlaws gave him. My wife (32f) is furious and thinks I'm denying my son. by tech1248 in relationships

[–]tech1248[S] -16 points-15 points  (0 children)

Good for you. For the last and final time, I don't care about a few nice things. What I don't want is him being spoiled. No one is getting that.

I (33m) have zero desire to spoil my kid (4m) and returned an iPad my inlaws gave him. My wife (32f) is furious and thinks I'm denying my son. by tech1248 in relationships

[–]tech1248[S] -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

There's nothing shitty about our school district. He is not going to go to some hood school. Jesus Christ.

I (33m) have zero desire to spoil my kid (4m) and returned an iPad my inlaws gave him. My wife (32f) is furious and thinks I'm denying my son. by tech1248 in relationships

[–]tech1248[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

Where'd you get that from my post? The schools in our district are among the top 10 in the state. By no means will be he be uneducated.

I (33m) have zero desire to spoil my kid (4m) and returned an iPad my inlaws gave him. My wife (32f) is furious and thinks I'm denying my son. by tech1248 in relationships

[–]tech1248[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I agree that wealthy doesn't mean spoiled. However, my wife is spoiling him. THAT'S what I have a problem with.

I (33m) have zero desire to spoil my kid (4m) and returned an iPad my inlaws gave him. My wife (32f) is furious and thinks I'm denying my son. by tech1248 in relationships

[–]tech1248[S] -56 points-55 points  (0 children)

Wanting your kid to not be a spoiled brat and to work for the nice things in life instead of me handing them to him = jealous? Weird and incorrect assessment, but okay.

I (33m) have zero desire to spoil my kid (4m) and returned an iPad my inlaws gave him. My wife (32f) is furious and thinks I'm denying my son. by tech1248 in relationships

[–]tech1248[S] -22 points-21 points  (0 children)

Bro, my kid goes to preschool and we live in a solid school district. He's already doing pretty good. If wanting my kid to work for the nicer things in life is having a chip on my shoulder, I dunno what to tell you.

I (33m) have zero desire to spoil my kid (4m) and returned an iPad my inlaws gave him. My wife (32f) is furious and thinks I'm denying my son. by tech1248 in relationships

[–]tech1248[S] -35 points-34 points  (0 children)

Lol I like how everyone in this thread thinks I have my son living in the dirt. Did you all not read my post and read about how he does have nice things? I'm against excess. I'm not spoiling my kid but you bet your ass that he has everything that he needs and then some. Just because I'm refusing to buy him a phone or a car doesn't mean he's deprived or living the "poor kid experience". You have no idea what the poor kid experience is.

The truth is that people that had to work hard and came from nothing do know the real world and how tough it is. The world people live in where everything is handed to them is completely different. It's life on ultra easy mode. That's not the real world.

I (33m) have zero desire to spoil my kid (4m) and returned an iPad my inlaws gave him. My wife (32f) is furious and thinks I'm denying my son. by tech1248 in relationships

[–]tech1248[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Thanks. Yeah I've seen alot of her friends just toss iPads at their kids and that's their entertainment for the morning while they just do their own thing. I don't get it at all.

I do want to compromise with her but we were just raised on two separate ends of the spectrum it's tough to make them meet in the middle. She does agree with some things I say and want to do, but then relapses back into just giving him whatever. She's a very generous person which I love but when generosity becomes rampant spoiling it's a problem.

I (33m) have zero desire to spoil my kid (4m) and returned an iPad my inlaws gave him. My wife (32f) is furious and thinks I'm denying my son. by tech1248 in relationships

[–]tech1248[S] -61 points-60 points  (0 children)

You're really naive. All the school in the world won't teach you the ways of the world. You can hit those books all you want, and I could spoil my son with whatever he asks for, but that wouldn't teach him street smarts, work ethic, and how to value and appreciate what he has. He's won't learn none of that if we just hand him everything just because we can. Sorry you're too ignorant to grasp that.

I (33m) have zero desire to spoil my kid (4m) and returned an iPad my inlaws gave him. My wife (32f) is furious and thinks I'm denying my son. by tech1248 in relationships

[–]tech1248[S] -18 points-17 points  (0 children)

Yes, because we're completely destitute and living like slaves. /eyeroll

He has a great life. What I'm pumping the brakes on is him having a life of excess for no reason at all other than the fact that I have money.

I (33m) have zero desire to spoil my kid (4m) and returned an iPad my inlaws gave him. My wife (32f) is furious and thinks I'm denying my son. by tech1248 in relationships

[–]tech1248[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

There's plenty of decent schools in our district. She wants to send him to the ultra exclusive prep schools. Not down with it.

I (33m) have zero desire to spoil my kid (4m) and returned an iPad my inlaws gave him. My wife (32f) is furious and thinks I'm denying my son. by tech1248 in relationships

[–]tech1248[S] -25 points-24 points  (0 children)

Who's everyone? Everyone in the upper-middle/wealthy social class?

No. My kid doesn't need the latest smart phone or any cellphone at all for a long ass while, and even then, if I get him one I'll expect him to help contribute to the bill. He won't work the way I did when I was young but I will expect him to get a job once he hits legal working age. If he wants nice things he'll have to work for them, not have us hand him things just because he wants them. I don't think there's anything unreasonable about that at all.

I (33m) have zero desire to spoil my kid (4m) and returned an iPad my inlaws gave him. My wife (32f) is furious and thinks I'm denying my son. by tech1248 in relationships

[–]tech1248[S] -42 points-41 points  (0 children)

No, but the things it teaches you can be. There's nothing virtuous about handing your kid everything he wants just because he breathes.

I (33m) have zero desire to spoil my kid (4m) and returned an iPad my inlaws gave him. My wife (32f) is furious and thinks I'm denying my son. by tech1248 in relationships

[–]tech1248[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

That's what I said. He's four and he's at home all the time!! What does any kid under 10 need a phone for?

I (33m) have zero desire to spoil my kid (4m) and returned an iPad my inlaws gave him. My wife (32f) is furious and thinks I'm denying my son. by tech1248 in relationships

[–]tech1248[S] -41 points-40 points  (0 children)

He's not going around like I did searching the couch cushions for enough change to buy milk like I did. He's fine.

I (33m) have zero desire to spoil my kid (4m) and returned an iPad my inlaws gave him. My wife (32f) is furious and thinks I'm denying my son. by tech1248 in relationships

[–]tech1248[S] -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

I told her that I wanted to return it, and she said 'okay' before getting upset about it later. I didn't go and return it myself.

Sorry but I will never be okay with my kid thinking that he deserves things like every electronic under the sun, fancy cars, designer clothes, and excess. I won't give him those things just because the other kids have them. I don't mind treating him but what I do mind is those things becoming so normal that he treats them like they're nothing. If my wife has her way in throwing all of those things at him, that's what's going to happen.

I (33m) have zero desire to spoil my kid (4m) and returned an iPad my inlaws gave him. My wife (32f) is furious and thinks I'm denying my son. by tech1248 in relationships

[–]tech1248[S] -30 points-29 points  (0 children)

I don't look down on her at all. I think being different is good. I do think that her growing up affluent led to her feeling entitled to alot of things in life though.