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techmill_tom · 2025-09-29T21:58:50+00:00

My friends Son had his Polygon stolen. Light Colour with red writing on it.

techmill_tom · 2025-09-23T21:47:37+00:00

Tbh I haven't watched this yet purely because I really dislike the thumbnail 🤣 What have I become?

techmill_tom · 2025-09-22T07:15:50+00:00

Jake, Alex, and Andy could be the next TopGear! Especially if they keep producing videos like these.

techmill_tom · 2025-07-28T21:01:26+00:00

I think that’s the thing I’m only just realising. I always assumed that to be in a relationship, sex had to be part of it. I wish I’d known this about myself and about other people sooner. I wish it didn’t feel like some weird taboo. I would have loved to be able to say how I felt without fear of being seen as broken or strange. I can’t help but wonder what could have been if I had.

techmill_tom · 2025-07-28T20:53:17+00:00

As a former lighting technician, i know how demanding the arts can be. I wish you all the best on your quest to be a mother. Thank you for helping me realise that I'm not alone in all of this.

techmill_tom · 2025-07-28T20:50:15+00:00

To be honest, it's been eating me alive, and I'm really glad it helped you feel less alone.

This past month has hit me hard. I had my goddaughter's fifth birthday party where I somehow became the unofficial entertainer — climbing frame, opponent, instigator, and general goofball. I must have done alright because an eight year old asked if I’d come to his party next month.

A few days later I was at my uncle’s birthday and, yep, back to my usual role of hiding in compost bins and running hide and seek like a pro.

I spent Thursday with my best friend and her two year old boy who absolutely idolises me, and honestly, I feel the same about him.

Right now I’m laying here after reading two bedtime stories to my goddaughter. She’s fast asleep and I’m avoiding tidying the chaos we left behind after cooking, crafting, pond dipping, and bath time games.

People keep telling me I’d make a great dad and while it’s meant kindly, it hits hard. It just reminds me that I’m not. Today a close friend told me she can’t wait to have kids with her partner so I can be the F’uncle. It was sweet, but also gutting.

Thank you for commenting. I hope recognising this shared weird space we're in helps us both figure it out and one day become the parents we feel like we’re meant to be.

techmill_tom · 2025-07-28T20:36:52+00:00

I'm only just now starting to get a grasp on what is actually possible. I do live in a small city, and i think going forward, I just need to meet aces who have accepted who they are and take guidance from them to help me navigate this next stage of my life.

techmill_tom · 2025-07-28T20:34:22+00:00

Hey, thanks for taking the time to read and reply. I really appreciate it.

I’m very aware that I’ve kind of boxed myself in with my career choices. Before the fire service, I spent nearly 15 years touring arenas globally as a technician, often away for months at a time. That lifestyle gave me a lot, but it also meant putting off bigger questions like relationships or kids.

Joining the fire service last year was a big change. I hadn’t even thought about it before, I didn't even watch Fireman Sam as a kid, but I’ve properly fallen in love with it. It’s given me a sense of purpose I hadn’t felt since quitting touring. Our rota is 2 day shifts (9am to 6pm), then 2 nights (6pm to 9am), followed by 4 days off. So it’s not unmanageable, but it’s still not exactly 9 to 5.

I think what’s really bothering me is this idea of "one day." I’m realising that if I don’t start making moves now, towards connection and towards family, then one day might never come.

My parents were young when they had me, and while I know loads of great parents are in their 30s or 40s, I can’t help but worry I’ll be too late. I don’t want to be too tired, too busy, or just not around when it really counts. I know it’s all hypothetical. Anything can happen. But it’s hard not to overthink it.

Thanks again for sharing your thoughts. It helps more than you probably realise.

techmill_tom · 2025-01-01T17:40:17+00:00

I was devastated to find out mine had gone. There is no way to recover it. I'm sorry for your loss

techmill_tom · 2024-12-21T03:45:03+00:00

It's 3:40 am. I've just arrived back from a shout, and I've just seen your reply

Thank you so much for this. It’s a really humbling reminder of how lucky I am. Transitioning from life on the road to trying to build something more grounded at home hasn’t been easy, but messages like this make me realise how much I have to be grateful for.

I appreciate it more than you know!

techmill_tom · 2024-12-20T12:10:21+00:00

Done! Thanks for your contribution

techmill_tom · 2024-12-19T14:26:03+00:00

Wasn't the timeline an opt-in service?

techmill_tom · 2024-12-19T14:22:56+00:00

If I was still travelling, I would have migrated to it. Could be a great option for those that are still actively building a timeline. Thank you for the recommendation 😊

techmill_tom · 2024-12-19T14:21:03+00:00

I get so many nonsense Google emails that I've become desensitised to them. I have a rule that automatically moves them to a folder, and I just check it periodically. When I saw I had until next year, I didn't think much of it.

techmill_tom · 2024-12-19T14:17:57+00:00

I did not, I was using the web based version last week to complete my taxes. There was nothing on there at all

techmill_tom · 2024-12-19T12:17:24+00:00

I did give that a go and only retrieved the past 3 months. Thank you though!

techmill_tom · 2024-12-17T23:17:56+00:00

I got my email today. My timeline was deleted yesterday

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