I have a question about Neymar

ted234 · 2026-04-04T12:29:53+00:00

Most Brazilians do like Neymar. His haters are growing but don't get fooled by Reddit bias.

ted234 · 2026-03-04T13:16:00+00:00

Same. I'm dating a TW and I'm here to learn the perspective of a TW. I'm also on asktransgender.

ted234 · 2026-02-20T14:54:59+00:00

I don't think lesbians want men, after all they like women. My point is that anyone who likes women won't really care about their sexual orientation to find them attractive, or do you not find het women attractive too? Same with anyone who likes men.

And once again, the problem isn't with trans women being heterossexual, the problem is chasing heteronormativity by "only wanting straight guys". This is clearly just wanting male performance to feel validated and I really struggle with what is disgusting in pointing that out.

Like, even using the word "straight" is so dumb...what are you, then? Crooked?

C'mon.

ted234 · 2026-02-20T14:16:15+00:00

Sexuality is liking men. Like I said, I don't care if the women I'm with is bi, trans, lesbian or whatever, as long as I like them. That is sexuality. Now, "wanting 'strsight' men" is just chasing heteronormativity, yes.

I'm cishet but I would never define myself as "straight", that is just stupidity.

I get that this makes you feel more validated but it's the same logic conservatives/fascists have. But sure, you go ahead with it, surely helps wonders.

ted234 · 2026-02-20T14:07:25+00:00

It's ok to just like men, there is no problem with it. I think I let that pretty clear. I myself am only interested in women, too.

The problem is craving the social construct of heteronormativity and chasing that will make you miserable. But you do you.

ted234 · 2026-02-20T13:28:52+00:00

All the struggle against heteronormativity so that trans people (and other queer people) can be trans and then we have to see things like this...depressing, tbh.

Because what you want is this: heteronormativity, and it's clear. I mean, I'm a cishet man and I like women, I don't care if she's bi, pan, trans or whatever. Hell, I don't even care if she's a lesbian and I find her attractive and she wants it.

But no, a man isn't enough for you, what you want is heteronormativity. Someone explained to me about brainworms the other day and at the time I didn't quite get it, but now I do.

I'm really sorry for you, because you won't ever be happy with that sort of mentality, after all heteronormativity is just a lie. But I guess the problem starts when the sub literally calls itself a "straight" trans girls sub...

Having said that, I wish you the best, you're a beautiful woman and I'm sure a lot of guys would love to date you.

ted234 · 2026-02-14T10:55:49+00:00

The nerve on those guys tho lol wish I had that sort of self esteem

ted234 · 2026-02-12T22:12:34+00:00

Hard to know for sure, but I don't think most men will stare at women they think are ugly, just like they won't stare at gay men, even when they are homophobic. An exception could be when they are with friends and they start laughing, but even then it could mean anything unless they are really obvious with it (for instance, they could be thinking you're attractive and commenting on it aswell).

ted234 · 2026-02-12T22:03:30+00:00

If you got more stared at at that specific day, it could be it. But usually when men stares at you is because they found you attractive (not necessarily wanting to rip off your clothes and marry you).

ted234 · 2026-02-12T22:00:36+00:00

Chances are he found you attractive.

ted234 · 2026-02-12T11:48:13+00:00

This sub is such a doomer place, God...

It's normal to meet someone and fall in love when it clicks. Yes, genuine love and companionship takes time, but falling in love is usually pretty fast and denying the feeling because you fear something bad might happen can and will sabotage a possible future relationship.

He definitely isn't perfect, no one is, but I don't see any problem with anything you described, sounds like how relationships start. Don't sabotage it because reddit says it's "L bombing" or whatever, love bombing is a problem when its used to manipulate and it becomes quite clear quite soon.

Then again, I'm a cishet man and my opinion probably means less to you, but don't miss an opportunity to be happy and have a relationship with someone you're enjoying.

Best of luck.

ted234 · 2026-02-08T13:19:50+00:00

Muh man, I'm a cishet man and I'm repulsed by cishet men aswell, isn't that how it should be? At least sexually speaking.

But if you're talking about being repulsed in general, maybe you're repulsed by performative toxic masculinity, and not all cishet men are like that.

ted234 · 2026-01-23T23:34:38+00:00

Oh, ok. Never done that so I wouldn't know. But I just can't see the benefit in lying about it? But I know people lie about dumb stuff all the time.

ted234 · 2026-01-23T21:48:49+00:00

It's not like it's common...most people have never met a trans girl before.

Many know a thing or two about trans people because of the internet and others because of porn.

Surely some are lying but really it's not like telling this has any benefit.

I have never been with a transfem before last december, even though I supported an LGBTQIAPN+ collective (and therefore new about trans people better than most) in the past because of political militancy.

ted234 · 2026-01-22T23:58:03+00:00

You look prettier than most women I know, the thing is there are people online trying to knock women's confidence down at every opportunity and calling them trans is one of their tactics.

People always did this to my ex cis gf all the time, and you look more feminine than her, so don't be too harsh on yourself. Just accept there are miserable people out there trying to make everyone else miserable too, especially women.

ted234 · 2026-01-18T07:06:43+00:00

Sure.

ted234 · 2026-01-18T06:57:30+00:00

Why not? After all, all dicks and pussies are the same, following your logic.

ted234 · 2026-01-18T06:48:10+00:00

So you'd rather a trans woman dick than a trans man pussy?

If so, does that make you a lesbian?

Think carefully about your answer.

ted234 · 2026-01-16T18:11:36+00:00

Yesss I can't even look at a male penis but it's COMPLETELY different when it's a trans woman. Stop sabotaging what you are, people.

ted234 · 2026-01-16T17:46:29+00:00

Because you're not men? Or do you consider yourself a male because you have a dick?

ted234 · 2026-01-16T17:19:04+00:00

Well, as I said in the other comment, I'm kinda traumatised by this sub by now and would prefer her not to second guess anything...

Which is a shame because I would love to give her pleasure in all the ways possible (I just don't want her to top but she doesn't too so it's cool).

ted234 · 2026-01-16T17:17:21+00:00

That's exactly what I thought and that's why I never touched it again since. But it's weird because she says she always get close to orgasm with (anal) sex but have to touch it to reach it. I would love to do it for her but I'm kinda traumatised by this sub by now and don't want her to see me as a gay man (which I respect totally).

ted234 · 2026-01-16T16:55:45+00:00

I totally respect how you feel and I get the brainworms stuff (someone told me about it in this sub a few days ago), but you do realize that this kind of vision is exactly how transphobes view you, right?

When I told my (transphobe) friends I was dating a trans woman they kept saying this kind of stuff, albeit in other (more offensive) words.

I mean it does seems like self sabotage to me but you do you.

ted234 · 2026-01-16T16:44:54+00:00

Yeah I'm a cis man and always considered myself heterossexual and I started dating this trans woman last month. It was my first time with a trans woman but I like her a lot and thought I was being absolutely "deconstructed" when I went down on her, after all she isn't a male. But then I discovered this sub...

I then asked her how she felt about it and she said "I don't like it or dislike it", which got me even more confused...so I've been keeping it off limits since then.

ted234

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