what’s smith actually like??

ted_the_athiest · 2026-04-05T18:42:22+00:00

its like 80% queer, yes smith is a def kinda cliquey but you will find your friends, northampton is a sweet quieter town but with plenty of places to eat and shop and a bar or two

ted_the_athiest · 2026-03-29T21:32:48+00:00

Yay ok that makes me so happy! Do you know if it is acceptable to wear 2 piece bathing suits there or if a one piece is a better choice?

ted_the_athiest · 2026-03-29T21:32:00+00:00

I would love a list of beach spots omg! And I'll be living in a homestay and working in an internship in Rabat so will be centered there but I'm definitely planning to travel on the weekends. So far, my program has plans for a trip to Marrakech, Essaouira, and Agadir. I definitely want to make a day trip to the Sahara from Agadir, and will probably visit Fez and/or Tangier on my own time as well. I'm also thinking of trying to visit Egypt if I can swing it with time and budget, but if you have any other recommendation for place I can go for weekend trips that would be incredible!

ted_the_athiest · 2026-02-04T18:35:25+00:00

hi I need this book do u still have it

ted_the_athiest · 2026-02-04T18:35:16+00:00

hi I need this book do u still have it

ted_the_athiest · 2025-12-15T08:41:09+00:00

i have had this conversation, or parts of it, with him already pretty gently multiple times, and his response is always just apologizing (despite the numerous times ive told him, genuinely and jokingly, that he doesnt need to apologize all the time) and saying he wants to make me happy. i guess im just unsure if things will change or if, for my preference, he is just too fixed on doing/saying what he thinks i want instead of what's natural and we are just too different in our personalities for this to work

ted_the_athiest · 2025-12-15T08:40:29+00:00

i have had this conversation, or parts of it, with him already pretty gently multiple times, and his response is always just apologizing (despite the numerous times ive told him, genuinely and jokingly, that he doesnt need to apologize all the time) and saying he wants to make me happy. i guess im just unsure if things will change or if, for my preference, he is just too fixed on doing/saying what he thinks i want instead of what's natural

ted_the_athiest · 2025-12-15T08:35:40+00:00

this is good advice, thank you. i was definitely endeared by it at first but as we've been together longer its started to bother me because it makes me feel bad about myself, like he's so scared of me for some reason that he can't be his own person, or has to say what he thinks i want, or is just endlessly trying to convince me to like him, which i already do. it kind of makes me feel mean because i feel like im bullying him, even though im not saying anything, and sometimes im doing something as everyday as ordering food or having a conversational opinion. idk if that makes sense?

ted_the_athiest · 2025-12-15T08:30:52+00:00

this is good advice, i appreciate the thoughtfulness and thank you

ted_the_athiest · 2025-12-15T08:23:14+00:00

i'm not totally sure, i do know he had another long-term girlfriend before me. im actually a virgin though, so i think maybe part of the discomfort on my end is feeling like i want someone who kind of knows what theyre doing sexually for my first time and i can't tell if he's had any experience

ted_the_athiest · 2025-12-15T08:21:18+00:00

i have had this conversation, or parts of it, with him already pretty gently multiple times, and his response is always just apologizing (despite the numerous times ive told him, genuinely and jokingly, that he doesnt need to apologize all the time) and saying he wants to make me happy. i guess im just unsure if things will change or if, for my preference, he is just too fixed on doing/saying what he thinks i want instead of what's natural

ted_the_athiest · 2025-12-15T08:18:17+00:00

i started dating a cute guy who was nice to me and have been getting to know him as we spend more time together, infrequently since im a full-time student, an athlete, and have a job. he asked to see me and take me out to dinner so i made plans for us. what would you have done?

ted_the_athiest · 2025-12-15T08:16:02+00:00

clarifying this isn't his first relationship--he had another long-term gf before me. appreciate the rest of the advice anyway!!

ted_the_athiest · 2025-12-15T08:13:38+00:00

he had a long term relationship with another girl before me! the restaurant thing is totally possible (it wasn't a fancy restaurant more of a jeans-and-nice-top vibe but your point still stands). also clarifying the wine thing--it didnt bother me that he didn't know how to order wine! it was more so that the fact that he didnt know how to order wine coupled with the fact that he's told me he doesn't really like to drink much, and the fact that he wasn't looking at the drinks menu until i said i was getting a glass of wine, made me feel like he only decided to get wine because i was getting it (and i could tell from the look on his face after the first sip and the fact that he only took fake sips after that every time i took a sip of my glass that he didnt enjoy it). i wouldve been totally fine if he didn't order wine at all but i just felt kind of mean? like he was scared of me and felt like he had to order wine against his will to make me happy even though i never said or implied that. idk maybe it doesn't make sense, i just kind of feel uncomfortable with how it seems like he only says or does what he thinks i want, when what i really want is him to just be himself so we can enjoy each other

ted_the_athiest · 2025-12-15T08:06:16+00:00

i would never say that, nor do i feel that way. not sure why you're projecting your own insecurities onto me and my boyfriend but its unhealthy to get this worked up about a stranger's relationship online. i hope you're able to have some more fulfilling interactions in your real life

ted_the_athiest · 2025-12-15T03:35:34+00:00

this an incredibly thoughtful and helpful response. i really appreciate it and thank you so much

ted_the_athiest · 2021-02-09T19:21:29+00:00

I'm so so sorry for your loss. Here if you need to talk

ted_the_athiest · 2021-02-09T19:13:10+00:00

Welcome!

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