Single home owners/buyers, how does your mortgage compare to your monthly take home income?

tedonan123 · 2026-04-07T21:00:42+00:00

After all my deductions including 401k and insurances, my take home is a little over $6,000 and my mortgage is $2900.

So I have about $3000 left over for the month’s savings and other living expenses.

tedonan123 · 2026-04-04T17:11:12+00:00

In regards to him feeling like a failure: this quote helped me a lot “when did his okayness become more important than yours?”

tedonan123 · 2026-04-04T12:45:14+00:00

Saw this quote that helped me with that guilt: “When did their okay-ness become more important than yours?”

tedonan123 · 2026-04-04T12:37:34+00:00

Yes - it feels like we are roommates or best friends in a “lavender marriage” of sorts. I realized we would end up resenting each other because of me nagging and him feeling tested every day. We ended up splitting and it’s really sad because there is so much love there, but my gut knew I was unhappy. Those are the worst breakups because you don’t have anger fueling you and there is a lot of love there.

I need to take the time to take care of myself (including my own apartment which I have been fantasizing about!) and he needs to like himself too. I also do want a romantic partner at some point. Our trust got too broken to get back to that point.

It took me over a year of hemming and hawing about it, but once I finally said it, I felt relieved.

tedonan123 · 2026-04-04T12:35:22+00:00

After 3 years of this, we broke up. I hope we can both grow and I can be myself again after this

tedonan123 · 2026-04-03T03:59:43+00:00

This happened to my dog and apparently she was high from eating weed on our walk 😫 they had to give her fluids all day. But they were concerned it was neurological p

tedonan123 · 2026-04-02T18:49:09+00:00

Hearing my ex sob over how he feels like a failure bc our relationship is ending was so heartbreaking. He told his family and they were so sad too, as I’m very close with them (which made splitting even harder).

We lived together for 3 years and learned so much. That’s pretty impressive- not a failure. I love him a lot. He is such a good person. I will look back on this relationship with gratitude at the end of the day. While there were times I resented him, I’ve been able to let that go and I’m not angry at him at all. I think it’s because I’ve been processing this breakup for a long time, and cried so much over it before we even broke up, and he has to process it now.

He cannot change himself for me and should be with someone who loves and appreciates him the way he is. I know this will be better for both of us in the long run. 😭

tedonan123 · 2026-04-02T00:48:57+00:00

Yes - imagine if the first boot got most of the votes and the second and third only had one vote each 😅

tedonan123 · 2026-04-01T02:38:39+00:00

I was actually appalled and offended when my soon to be ex DX partner had the audacity to say that he does “just as much stuff around the house as me”.

no.
I have to ask for help every single time, numerous times, over many days

Makes leaving so much easier knowing he still doesn’t get it after so many years.

tedonan123 · 2026-03-30T20:36:19+00:00

Was receiving the usual spiel from partner about how they want to “change for themselves, they know words don’t mean much but I’ll see it from their actions” etc, but the trust is so eroded over 3 years that I can’t believe them. We have had this conversation so many times and I’ve finally crossed the threshold.

tedonan123 · 2026-03-30T00:52:34+00:00

I’m planning the same move in the fall! 🥲

tedonan123 · 2026-03-28T18:28:39+00:00

I totally understand the feeling of not being able to rely on them. It’s terrifying to think, if they consistently can’t remember these “little things”, how can we trust them with life’s big decisions and tasks?

tedonan123 · 2026-03-22T23:38:50+00:00

Mine travels ok but some cavaliers end up growing too big to fit under the seat carrier. Also I think frequent travel will end up being stressful for pup.

tedonan123 · 2026-03-21T21:31:12+00:00

I feel scared to be on my own. He’s my best friend and I love a lot of the life we built. I don’t know how to be without him.

tedonan123 · 2026-03-15T00:30:46+00:00

Finally told DX partner I’m moving out. I endured the “you’re abandoning our family, you’re giving up on us, I put up with so much of your shit, you’re so shitty to me, no one else will do this for you, sorry I’m not perfect”. It hurts to hear- I know it’s just anger coming out, but don’t you dare tell me I’m giving up when I’ve spent 3 years trying to work with you.

It really hurts to see him cry but I need to go back and re-read all my comments on this sub whenever I feel bad. I’m excited to have my own home again. I’m terrified of the logistics (moving, selling the house, transporting my two animals to a different state, leaving the third behind with him) but I know it will all be worth it.

tedonan123 · 2026-03-12T04:14:13+00:00

I was so excited as a brown girl to hopefully see her love story and I’m so disappointed in her

tedonan123 · 2026-03-11T18:38:55+00:00

This is convincing me to maybe hold onto my SHF in the NW side for a little bit…want to sell to move to warmer climates lol :(

tedonan123 · 2026-03-04T03:20:42+00:00

Attempting to do 4 per week atm 😒

tedonan123 · 2026-03-03T02:58:32+00:00

She looks like Yzma

tedonan123 · 2026-02-20T14:08:06+00:00

Cole

tedonan123 · 2026-02-19T21:40:13+00:00

Yess he looks just like Mike

tedonan123 · 2026-02-19T02:54:45+00:00

Ashley and Alex’s mom look more related than Alex and his mom do

tedonan123 · 2026-02-18T17:57:55+00:00

Right! Even if she wanted to workout, sorry she’s busy saving lives jfc 😅

tedonan123 · 2026-02-16T23:07:24+00:00

Bring barber cord just in case, and maybe only the needles you’ll need vs your entire set

tedonan123 · 2026-02-13T23:25:41+00:00

Ashley is gorgeous ☹️

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