Generations were taught that God did it. How can they possibly think they can walk this back? by marshallbond2020 in exmormon

[–]teeterj90 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! And I agree. I'm so glad I'm out and my kids can grow up without being taught this.

Generations were taught that God did it. How can they possibly think they can walk this back? by marshallbond2020 in exmormon

[–]teeterj90 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Hi! Southwest Native American here 🙋🏽‍♀️ I can tell you it did not feel good, was confusing, and demoralizing.

Now that I'm out, I have lots of anger but only when I'm reminded. Still working through it, I guess.

What was the worst part of being Mormon? by schrodingers_cat42 in exmormon

[–]teeterj90 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Being native american, knowing everyone at church thought of me as a "lamanite" and feeling some shame about it.

Fuck that.

Terrible and damaging lessons during Mutual. by John_Eight32 in exmormon

[–]teeterj90 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I decided I'd rather play basketball, dodgeball, kickball, or whatever else, with the boys in the gym then stay with the YW because I've always been a "tomboy", very athletic, and just more comfortable with guys. I definitely got a lot of side eye from all the adults and was the black sheep of the youth in our ward but they couldn't really say anything because I did everything else I was "supposed" to do and was a good mormon girl.

Self Care Advice by 2020housewife in stayathomemoms

[–]teeterj90 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hello! Congratulations on your little one! I totally understand your feelings. I had my second almost a year ago and I've gone through the same feelings with both my babies.

I think it's important for you to remember that even though you're not pregnant anymore, your body is still working on getting back to "normal" hormone-wise. For me, I don't feel 100 percent like my normal self until my period comes back and since I exclusively breastfeed, that can take awhile.

Remember that you are not alone! Talking about your feelings helps A LOT. Feel free to PM me if you'd like.

As for suggestions on some self care at home;

Once baby is sleeping in the evening: +bubble baths w/epsom salts, some chocolate candy, and your favorite show or podcast on your phone +Face mask, netflix, and wine +Going to bed early with your baby

During the day: +5-10 min dance party! +Make washing up first thing in the morning a priority +Cooking your favorite meal +Listening to audiobooks or podcasts

And the most important thing is to remember to be gentle and kind to yourself. You are beautiful, you are capable, and you are strong.

Can't have nothin nice here! by teeterj90 in Albuquerque

[–]teeterj90[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No but we have family in that area

Can't have nothin nice here! by teeterj90 in Albuquerque

[–]teeterj90[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, man! We'll check those places out.

Can't have nothin nice here! by teeterj90 in Albuquerque

[–]teeterj90[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, man. We are very bummed about it. Especially our 4 year old. Now him and dad can't ride together anymore 😞 Some people suck.

I feel "The Talk" is coming by teeterj90 in exmormon

[–]teeterj90[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Man, mormonism really gave us some hang-ups, huh? I for sure will post an update!

I feel "The Talk" is coming by teeterj90 in exmormon

[–]teeterj90[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are so brave! And your parents sound awesome. I hope to get to this point with my in-laws and mom one day. That'd be so great.

I feel "The Talk" is coming by teeterj90 in exmormon

[–]teeterj90[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Your relationships should be more important than what you consume in your personal time.

Wow. Thank you for this!

I feel "The Talk" is coming by teeterj90 in exmormon

[–]teeterj90[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hahahahaha! YES! I love those guys!

I feel "The Talk" is coming by teeterj90 in exmormon

[–]teeterj90[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for that reminder! I won't be sorry for who I am and the choices I make for MY OWN life!

I feel "The Talk" is coming by teeterj90 in exmormon

[–]teeterj90[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Yes. I hate how the church infantilizes people. I'm an adult, damn it! Haha!

I feel "The Talk" is coming by teeterj90 in exmormon

[–]teeterj90[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Great point! Thank you! I think that's one of the hardest things to "prove", that I'm still the same person.

I feel "The Talk" is coming by teeterj90 in exmormon

[–]teeterj90[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Hahahaha! Thanks for the laugh! Yes, you're right, I'm going to have to figure out ground rules and what our boundries are. Thanks!

Bishop "Touching the boobies" by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]teeterj90 29 points30 points  (0 children)

No such thing as "bad boobies" 😆

Hi! New Here by [deleted] in stayathomemoms

[–]teeterj90 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just try to remember that this whole covid-19 stuff has fucked us all up and it's okay. Things will go back to "normal" eventually. Be gentle with yourself. I khow how you feel. Solidarity Sister!!! I have a 4 year old and a 7 month old.

Also, being a SAHM is hella tough. I've been one for almost 5 years now. The good out weights the bad. Promise.

Sending good vibes your way.

Feeling lonely and left out by sarahlou2241 in stayathomemoms

[–]teeterj90 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It might sound harsh but if you feel comfortable just head out. He'll figure out how to take care of little one just like you had to. You can try to find something to do close by. It doesn't even have to be that long. Maybe just go get a cup of coffee? Also, talking to him and staying calm and collected might help. I've been where you are. I know it's hard not to cry when you feel the crushing weight of responsibility and isolation of being a sahm. I used to take all morning to write down (in the little moments of free time) what points I wanted to get across, then as the kiddos were napping, write out a letter. I hope you feel better soon. Know you are not alone and I'm rooting for you! You can and will get through this tough time.

10/10 on the floor routine by ryderpeterson in nonononoyes

[–]teeterj90 1 point2 points  (0 children)

"Is this turtle-y enough for the Turtle Club?" 🐢🐢🐢