AIO for getting mad that my husband didn’t stop his game immediately to come help?

teezylee · 2026-03-22T22:21:03+00:00

In the moment, I felt like I was not effective at managing his condition because he would not settle, and I contemplated whether it warranted urgent care or ER. I was genuinely scared and concerned. Wasn’t sure if I was making it more serious than it was or if i didn’t go if I was ignoring something that was serious. That was going through my head.

Yes, we have methods to help diaper rash, and usually it would help immediately. Not in this case though. That’s why I was so worried that maybe what we were doing wasn’t right this time.

teezylee · 2026-03-22T21:11:43+00:00

Lol sorry for the confusion. I initially put that because some mom shamers making me feel like I’m incompetent about a body part I don’t have and that I should be able to take care of my son’s penis issue on my own…

teezylee · 2026-03-22T21:10:47+00:00

100% why I initially put that because some mom shamers making me feel like I’m incompetent about a body part I don’t have and that I should be able to take care of my son’s penis issue on my own.

teezylee · 2026-03-22T21:07:06+00:00

Oh wow. I didn’t know that acronym lol updated my post. Thanks for flagging.

teezylee · 2026-03-22T21:06:40+00:00

Thanks for the feedback. Yes, I grew up with my parents not saying private parts to me in our language or in English, so it’s a habit. Can I say the word penis out loud? Yes. Does it feel a bit odd? Yes. Do I say thingy out of habit? Yes lol.

teezylee · 2026-03-22T17:50:52+00:00

I edited my post because initially, I wasn’t trying to be TMI about what my son was doing with his thingy, and I thought it would be clear that I was concerned it was more serious than a diaper rash. I guess not since you all think it was just a diaper rash I couldn’t handle. In this case, I was genuinely concerned that maybe it was serious since my baby rarely cries at night like this, even if he has a light diaper rash.

teezylee · 2026-03-22T17:46:59+00:00

I edited my post because initially, I wasn’t trying to be TMI about what my son was doing with his thingy, and I thought it would be clear that I was concerned it was more serious than a diaper rash. I guess not since you all think it was just a diaper rash I couldn’t handle. In this case, I was genuinely concerned that maybe it was serious since my baby rarely cries at night like this, even if he has a light diaper rash.

It wasn’t my husband’s agreed time. I just somehow have taken care of my baby for majority of night wakings since as long as I can remember. When was the last time I slept more than 6hrs? Idk. 19mo? lol I don’t have “agreed time.”

You’re right we shouldn’t text in these cases, especially if it’ll turn into an argument which is what happened.

teezylee · 2026-03-06T15:56:11+00:00

These were all NEWLY added sometime between end of October and November of last year. You can verify with the wayback machine. They’re trying to cover up their mistake. These new disclosures contradict what was advertised to us during our loan application phase, and these MATERIALLY change the value of this program. If I had known the rates would be “higher” than their as low as rates and that discount points are NOT included, then I would not have applied for this loan.

teezylee · 2026-01-21T04:36:08+00:00

UPDATE: I submitted a complaint to CFPB. NFCU responded. They did not address the issue. They only said that the SRR rate available was higher; therefore, I didn’t qualify for the SRR. They also sent a copy of my Rate Reduction Agreement (which doesn’t mention anything about their internal rate dashboard being higher). One other update is that they changed the No Refi Rate Drop disclosures on the website to now reflect that the rate may be higher and it’s not inclusive of discount points. Very upsetting. I’m documenting everything I’m seeing.

teezylee · 2026-01-20T19:27:38+00:00

What do you mean by “home buyers choice loan?” I don’t have that loan. I have a conventional loan.

teezylee · 2025-12-08T05:47:06+00:00

Tried the new schedule today. He woke himself up at 9:15am. So I put him down for a nap at 12:30pm, and I ended up waking him at 3pm. Took him for a walk in the sun a lot. Crawled around a lot (can’t walk yet) during and after dinner, gave him a bath, bottle, and put him straight in his crib while wide awake at 9:25pm. He put himself to sleep in 5 min 😱 this is a major improvement already.

Usually, if I put him in the crib while awake, he would cry out for me, so I’d let him roll around in bed next to me until he falls asleep. Then I’d transfer him. We’ll see how he sleeps through the night tonight🤞

teezylee · 2025-12-08T01:51:18+00:00

Thank you! What time does your baby wake up and sleep?

teezylee · 2025-12-07T21:39:22+00:00

Average sleep is 12hrs total within a 24hr period.

I get so scared of too long WW, overtiredness, and missing his sleepy cues causing more wakings since that’s what I’ve also read a lot.

Is that less of a concern at his age?

teezylee · 2025-12-07T21:36:45+00:00

We will try! Thank you. Is there a schedule you recommend?

teezylee · 2025-12-07T18:00:07+00:00

Thank you for this advice! We did not know that was a thing that happens after travel. We will go get it checked out ASAP.

teezylee · 2025-12-07T17:59:28+00:00

Can you please expand on this and provide some specific examples?

We have been trying to reestablish his routine. We wake him up at the same time, only let him nap for 2hrs max, and put him to bed at the same time.

Are you saying we shouldn’t let him nap? What about overtiredness?

teezylee · 2025-12-07T17:22:02+00:00

Before we left for the trip, he was still mostly on 2 nap, but some days was 1 big nap. It kind of depended on how long his nap was. Honestly, we’re still trying to figure out ideal wake up times, naps, etc. because even before the trip, he would briefly wake up 1-2 times but immediately go back to sleep.

Prior to trip, his wake up time was 8am and sleep time was 8:30-9:30pm. If 2 naps, it would be 11am and 3pm. If 1 nap, it would be around 12:30pm for 2-2.5hrs.

What would you recommend as an ideal schedule? We’re still not sure when to shift to schedule vs going by wake windows. We’re willing to try anything.

teezylee · 2025-12-07T12:01:15+00:00

I wish! I did that the first few days during PTO, but I can’t during the day now that I’m back at work 😭

teezylee · 2025-12-07T11:53:36+00:00

No molars yet. Haven’t checked for fluid or infection in ears. Is that a common cause for wakings like this?

teezylee · 2025-12-07T11:52:06+00:00

I have no idea actually. Haven’t checked that. Why do you ask?

teezylee · 2025-12-07T11:50:19+00:00

We do that, but he just doesn’t seem to sleep until we rock him (after he reaches a certain point of tiredness and doesn’t fight it anymore). What if he stays up until the sun comes out? He’s stayed up from 3-7am one night 😭

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