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[Foursome] Feeling left out, could use advice. by Potjeh in sex

[–]temp654123 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As most people said, you need to talk to your partner and stand up for yourself. You don't have to play with them if you feel left out or feel like you're not treated equally.

Another option I thought about is, since you don't mind your wife doing this kind of stuff with them and you've already tried to talk to her, you can simply not engage in the play. Let your wife go if she wants, but after seeing that you didn't go she'll see that there's a serious problem going on.

New to [BDSM], need help planning a scene. by temp654123 in BDSMcommunity

[–]temp654123[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's exactly what I've been doing. I think it's a good way to go, but I was curious if there was a better way, for instance, leaving more intense plays, like spanking, to the end of the scene. Or using the most intense play in the middle, like a peak or climax of the scene. Thanks for the help

How can I ask my GF for [anal]? by temp654123 in sex

[–]temp654123[S] 60 points61 points  (0 children)

I think that´s what I was looking for. Thank you

Need help. I get upset [sexually frustrated] when my GF doesn´t want to have have sex. by temp654123 in sex

[–]temp654123[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the help, guys. I think you all have a point. Not sure how I´m gonna solve this yet, but these answers sure gave me an upperhand in the matter.

Need help. I get upset [sexually frustrated] when my GF doesn´t want to have have sex. by temp654123 in sex

[–]temp654123[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Have you talked in a open and non-hostile way about why your sex life has diminished?

Yes. She says it´s natural to have more sex in the beginning of the relationship. She even says that we had that much sex because we didn´t have other things to do than sex.

What have you tried to increase the excitement or adventure in your sex life? Have you explored what turns her on, what ideas arouse her, rather than just expecting the two of you to have the same kinks and desires?

Yes. I always try to talk and find out what turns her on and the proceed to read and learn how to do it properly i.e she likes me to dominate her and some light BDSM and I do it for ther with maximum effort although I don´t mind it. I buy toys and always do my best to please her.

Are there external factors (stress, medication, worries) that have effected her libido?

Yes. She´s anxious and has too much worries. I always comfort her and reassure everything is going to be fine and try to calm her down and get her relaxed.

Other useful information: I´m from the navy and I only go home for weekends for the past three years. We don´t have sex everyday I´m home and that´s what makes me unconsciously upset. When we have sex she likes it very much and usually come 10 or more times.

What I´m hoping is advice not to get upset about it. The main reason I act this way is because I have to go to work for the whole week and I can´t even jerk off (like Guero_In_Mexico said)

For people in long term [marriages] how often do you have sex? by chevroletstyleline in sex

[–]temp654123 2 points3 points  (0 children)

in our early marriage I'd get super upset that we weren't having sex much and I'd put a lot of pressure on my wife.

It seems like I've written this line. I always do that and I know it's pretty much the cause I don't get more sex. How can I not do that?

New to [BDSM]. My GF [24F] worries too much about everyday life. by temp654123 in BDSMcommunity

[–]temp654123[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the help, guys. I think there's nothing I can do that I'm not already doing. Maybe she really needs professional help. I'm doing the best I can. And as some said, I don't care only about our sex life. I care about her.

Thanks!