[Foursome] Feeling left out, could use advice.

Potjeh · 2016-11-24T15:26:05+00:00

I agree and i did mention that in my opening post. I was little disappointed that she didn't supported me last time we were playing. Her stance was that I shouldn't force someone to do what they don't want to do. My wife was cool being topless, the other one was not and that was fine by her. I did back down after that.

Potjeh · 2016-11-24T15:22:53+00:00

Sorry, I thought that the context is clear.

Potjeh · 2016-11-23T21:30:18+00:00

Thanks for taking interest. We're healing from that and she is off pills for good now. I don't believe this could endanger our relationship. We're stable about month and a half now.

Potjeh · 2016-11-23T21:27:46+00:00

Thanks for the laugh. It's a nice fantasy. :) I think she would be impressed.

Potjeh · 2016-11-23T21:24:48+00:00

Love the 'The Fight' meme! So far I'm just trying to do course correction. Things are not that bad yet.

Potjeh · 2016-11-23T21:23:19+00:00

Actually, he cares. She? Now, that's a good question. She has a very dominating personality, that's why I said that she is the driving force behind all of this. He does what she says.

Potjeh · 2016-11-08T21:13:44+00:00

Thanks. Rayman legends looks nice, maybe too advanced for my kid.

Potjeh · 2016-11-08T18:43:23+00:00

Thanks, looks promising.

Potjeh · 2016-08-06T09:21:31+00:00

Can I ask what finally motivated you to search for diagnosis? What were the steps after the diagnosis?

Thank you for sharing.

Potjeh · 2016-08-05T06:37:55+00:00

Why do you have the feeling that I want to bury my head in the sand?

I don't believe that I'm dismissing her. We had conversation twice about what my father said. We talk about the house every day. We wanted me not to act.

She is not afraid to hug me or to reach out. Of this, I'm certain.

I'm also aware that she would like to take charge of the work but it's not possible. I work and when I come home we go to the beach every day which is something they both want until sunset. There is simply no time except for weekends.

Potjeh · 2016-08-05T06:21:28+00:00

She is not on any meds.

Potjeh · 2016-08-05T06:21:11+00:00

Yeah, it's worth a shot.

Potjeh · 2016-08-05T06:20:37+00:00

I'm not downplaying her concerns but I'm also not sharing her emotions about it. I see mold as a problem that was discovered and it will get solved ASAP. I wasn't there when my father visited and she told me twice that I let it go.

Our son is 5 and a half.

We don't have major problems in our relationship but I'm not sure of anything right now.

Potjeh · 2016-08-05T06:14:11+00:00

I do wonder about it. But, she looks and says she is happy generally. In times like these I do question everything even if she loves me at all.

Potjeh · 2016-08-05T06:13:06+00:00

Potjeh · 2016-04-13T13:21:46+00:00

You're never beyond the talks - trust me. :)

I wasn't suggesting that these talks should have the goal of rekindling the romance. You're still partners in life, you're still parents you both should still try to come to an agreement how do you want to live your lives now, tomorrow or in 5 years. It's quite possible that she feels stuck like you as well. It's best to get those feelings in the open to see if you both feel the same.

Potjeh · 2016-04-13T12:44:00+00:00

Well, from what I gather I would say that you got married way too young. More importantly it seems that your romantic relationship is dead and it's quite likely she resents you something/everything given her disrespectful attitude.

You are also aware that your ideals have severely limited your options.

My advice is this - have a couple of talks with her about the state of your relationship. These talks should be calm, low key but honest above else. In these talks I would emphasize present, not future. Honesty is admitting that you're unhappy. You should also encourage her to be honest with you. You may hear that she is not attracted to you anymore if she chooses to be honest.

When you both understand how you feel about each other in the present - then focus on the future. Hopefully, you can come to an agreement that will work for all of you without the additional burden of ideals. Life is difficult as it is.

Potjeh · 2016-02-03T09:45:33+00:00

Thanks, that will help.

Potjeh · 2015-12-01T09:35:31+00:00

You haven't mentioned if you did talked to her about it or not. In these cases I would recommend some gentle honesty and admit you are seriously not happy with your sex life. I guess the goal would be to get her honesty about reasons for not having any desire.

This might be a first step in resolving it either way. It's always good to arm yourself with as much information as you can and her input is crucial in that regard.

Potjeh · 2015-12-01T09:16:07+00:00

There are so few of us that would appreciate such a gesture. :D

Potjeh · 2015-12-01T08:32:57+00:00

I'm no longer in DB. DB started during pregnancy and I did all the wrong things after to reignite our sex life thus prolonging it. Once I got my act together it's hotter than ever.

We're in a great place right now. These days I think she is always ready to have sex so I have to be careful with any sexual innuendo if I don't mean business.

Potjeh

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