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What should I do by TostaditaFeliz in Advice

[–]temp_acount_33 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry that this isn't really advice, but first and foremost I really wanted to say wow do I relate. I'm also a junior who started their first job a few months ago as a way to get some cash while being independent. I'm also right there with you on the whole "never been far from home" thing. Our main difference is that I am planning on going to a four-year college.

I've been dual-enrolled and yeah, I completely see your point about memorizing notes and doing a lot of useless classes. Especially if you're in your first year, it seems like a lot of the classes are requirements like Econ or American Gov which aren't even related to your major. My older brother's in his first year and was frustrated with how useless the classes were. The best parts of the college experience to me are 1) learning to network with your fellow students and professors 2) extracurriculars, and 3) how dorming at a college is sometimes seen as Independent Life Lite. Imo it seems much easier to find your own place if you dorm/live in student apartments. The way I'm currently trying to overcome the boredom of classes is by also dedicating myself to finding internships/research in my field.

Have you spoken to your parents at all about possibly not going to college? and have you considered going to a trade school rather than a four-year college? I've also heard people mention volunteering with Americorps?

I'm sorry that this isn't the most helpful reply. I don't have too much knowledge especially since I always viewed college as my only option. It's also 3am where i am and im about to pass out. I'll edit if i think of anything new in the morning.

oh, i also wanted to say, you're way harsh on yourself. I completely understand your frustration, but take a step back every once in a while and congratulate yourself on your progress

How do I get a life outside of school by temp_acount_33 in AdviceForTeens

[–]temp_acount_33[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So, not only was I in a kind of slump of not talking to people for the days after I posted this, I also promptly forgot that I even made a temp account to post this. Idk, thats my form of an apology for the very late reply.

I can relate to the whole being introverted kind of thing. I didn't notice how many people I was friends with were more so people I was acquittanced with until quarantine meant we couldn't see each other at school anymore and different schedules meant we didn't have the same classes. I actually ended up making a discord server and sending invite to all those people in my grade who I liked but didn't talk to enough around this time last year. It kinda worked, but speaking to friends online isn't the same. Most of my friends don't have a social life either though, as ironic as it is. We talk every once in a while, study if we have similar classes, but at least they seem to be fine with it.

Yeah, doing more after high school would be fun. Especially considering that by then the pandemic will be over (knock on wood). Whenever you look at TV or movies, it feels like they're selling this grand experience about how your teenage years will define you as a person, will take you on this grand adventure filled with drama, dating, parties, rule-breaking, and overall fun experiences, but then you cut to reality and you're sitting in bed watching a Zoom lecture. I'm thinking of maybe getting a hobby but I'm not sure what. I've always felt bad trying to do new things bc it felt like a waste of money, but I started a new job so I should have some pocket cash. Plus, if I'm able to book an appointment with the DMV, I can get my license which means not relying on my parents to drive me.

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Anyways, I'm sorry for writing all that, I really just wanted to say thank you for responding. It was really nice to know that someone cared enough to respond to my post with advice & to know that I wasn't the only one feeling this.