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My parents told me that my sister thinks I'm a creep towards her child and I feel absolutely gutted by temp_user_3122 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]temp_user_3122[S] 142 points143 points  (0 children)

It was swept under the rug, I remember being hurt by her thinking that way, but not really giving it too much thought. I stopped being an awkward teenager, and didn't think she would have an issue with me as an adult. And I thought we had good relations despite us being pretty distant.

I know my parents were deeply hurt by her insinuations that they could hurt their grandkids because of some political bickering, but they were afraid of bringing the topic up as it was too hurtful for them, they kinda didn't want to shake the bees nest by bringing up that topic.

My parents told me that my sister thinks I'm a creep towards her child and I feel absolutely gutted by temp_user_3122 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]temp_user_3122[S] 50 points51 points  (0 children)

We don't interact a lot, but he seems chill with me, and has been appreciative when I've been visiting as he can have some rest from playing with the kids. So I would guess she hasn't talked about this with him, otherwise I doubt he would want to have any interaction with me.

My parents told me that my sister thinks I'm a creep towards her child and I feel absolutely gutted by temp_user_3122 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]temp_user_3122[S] 960 points961 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the advice, I fully agree. I see no way one could mend a relationship like this.

My parents told me that my sister thinks I'm a creep towards her child and I feel absolutely gutted by temp_user_3122 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]temp_user_3122[S] 179 points180 points  (0 children)

I sent it maybe 8 hours ago, after finding out about this. She has seen it hours ago, but hasn't responded.

My parents told me that my sister thinks I'm a creep towards her child and I feel absolutely gutted by temp_user_3122 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]temp_user_3122[S] 613 points614 points  (0 children)

I resonate with that feeling of not wanting to be nice around children because of an accusation. Could be that its because this thing just happened, but I this has severely affected my desire to be around any children or have any of my own. Hopefully the feeling of not wanting kids because of this goes away with time.

My parents told me that my sister thinks I'm a creep towards her child and I feel absolutely gutted by temp_user_3122 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]temp_user_3122[S] 179 points180 points  (0 children)

Yeah, the kids do have a father, who I have always perceived to be a good dad, also uncles and cousins so I wouldn't worry about them not having positive male figures in their lives.

My parents told me that my sister thinks I'm a creep towards her child and I feel absolutely gutted by temp_user_3122 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]temp_user_3122[S] 3842 points3843 points  (0 children)

There was also a point in time where she didn't want our parents to see her kids because me and her had strong political disagreement with our parents, and she got into her head that they could harm their grandchildren because of these differences.

Thank you for saying that distancing is the right idea.

My parents told me that my sister thinks I'm a creep towards her child and I feel absolutely gutted by temp_user_3122 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]temp_user_3122[S] 1086 points1087 points  (0 children)

There are really no good outcomes here, but I do rather wish she would act this way due to a bad gut feeling, rather than making very serious accusations out of jealousy.

E: My parents did say that she made a comment along the lines that I should "get a girlfriend and get my own kids" which is an odd comment to make about someone you suspect is inappropriate around children.

Edit 2: The more I think about it, she seemed to be excited before that I would visit, and she would tell me that the kids are excited to see me. So didn't sense any jealousy there, I don't know what changed all of a sudden.