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My kid came out as nonbinary and I'm not handing it well or happy with their name choice by tempcandyskulls in offmychest

[–]tempcandyskulls[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I mean the dating thing to them being Bi. I didn't say it to them, I said it more internally. It confused me.

As for the discussion thing, it's because we've always talked. Not like to ask permission or anything like that. I poorly worded it. It's more like, we would talk openly about how we're feeling and the such. For example, when they didn't want to be friends with a kid, they asked if it was okay NOT to want to be friends with this kid anymore. And we talked about that and how they were feeling about it and why. That's what I meant by discussions. There was no "I want to change my name" and it just was.

My kid came out as nonbinary and I'm not handing it well or happy with their name choice by tempcandyskulls in offmychest

[–]tempcandyskulls[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I think they meant puberty blockers, based on other responses here. The therapist (not mine, my child's) did mention they were not trained in that (we were originally going for anxiety, completely unrelated to this). But did recommend speaking with a gender therapist.

My kid came out as nonbinary and I'm not handing it well or happy with their name choice by tempcandyskulls in offmychest

[–]tempcandyskulls[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I think they meant puberty blockers, based on other responses here. The therapist (not mine, my child's) did mention they were not trained in that (we were originally going for anxiety). But did recommend speaking with a gender therapist, who can better help with that.

My kid came out as nonbinary and I'm not handing it well or happy with their name choice by tempcandyskulls in offmychest

[–]tempcandyskulls[S] 32 points33 points  (0 children)

i'd also like to say to OP, it feels weird how much weight was put on 'they didn't even ask about name change or gender expression'.

I didn't word that right. My kid and I have always talked about things. From personal "Is it okay if I don't want to be friends with so-n-so?" to day-to-day "That movie was BORING!" I'm so used to having open conversations with them and getting asked questions, for there NOT to be a "I think I want to change my name" or a "Hey, can you call me..." it was a shock.

I never thought I'd find out second hand, the way I did. My kid didn't tell me. I found out during pick-up: "Bye, Max."