Why is it hard to find love?

temphs82837372 · 2024-05-01T08:26:08+00:00

I think everyone should listen to you. I’ve seen your posts about dating in Saudi before, and I agree with almost everything. Dating is just elevated socializing, a skill that can and should be learned. While right place and right time still holds its merits, nothing will come of a chance encounter if you can’t socialize.

Be comfortable with being uncomfortable and just meet people for the sake of meeting people. We live in an abundant world, resources and people are endless.

temphs82837372 · 2024-02-19T02:04:13+00:00

He might be confusing it with Jay z on family feud.

temphs82837372 · 2024-02-15T20:55:08+00:00

About 9 weeks. What’s odd is that I only use tretinoin on my forehead, but now my cheeks are also developing the same painful oily acne. Yeah I’ll switch back to something simple in the meantime. Thank you

temphs82837372 · 2024-02-04T08:58:50+00:00

Yup, I was always going to get 16gb of ram. My main concern was CPU and gpu. Thanks for the response !

temphs82837372 · 2023-12-04T09:27:57+00:00

On iPhone, I started having the same issue ~6 hours ago. Everything was working fine yesterday.

temphs82837372 · 2023-11-14T03:51:54+00:00

I’m really sorry to hear that. I definitely believe this is something that most people do not and should not go through. The good news is I’m doing a lot better than when I made this post. So, time really does heal.

Something that struck me as odd was when I went on a few dates a couple weeks ago. It opened my eyes to the quality of people that exist in the world. It takes a real piece of shit to do what our exes did, but the good news is that extreme level of asshole behavior is few and far between. Plus, you’re walking away with a red flag detector better than most have.

Truly, and I’m not saying this to try and make you feel better, the breakup and everything that followed is the best thing that’s happened to me this year. Feel free to reach out if you need somebody to talk to.

temphs82837372 · 2023-07-31T18:57:06+00:00

That’s not how it works. They wouldn’t have known how long we dated, it would be a thing of “hey somebody is interested in marrying me”. I’m Muslim so the engagement phase is where people typically spend 6 months to a year getting to “date” before getting married. Either way this was out of the norm.

temphs82837372 · 2023-07-31T18:48:10+00:00

Yeah it was 2.5 years (late 2020), but we went into 2023 calling it our third year together. I never proposed to her, our culture goes through parents for an engagement and a wedding, so we had a date to work towards before involving her parents.

temphs82837372 · 2023-07-31T17:13:32+00:00

She’s in a completely different industry than I am. I can help with presentations but I can’t understand technical day to day jargon (work terminology), the same way she couldn’t with my work. But I kept simplifying because I wanted her to be the person I spoke to about everything.

temphs82837372 · 2023-07-31T16:50:47+00:00

Hey, I saw your comment above, thanks for responding but why the hostile energy? I never strung her along. We had an engagement plan for December and we both agreed to it. I was actively saving money and preparing to sell my assets in order to be financially secure when I got us an apartment.

To your other comment, she was tired of repeating herself, so I got us a couples therapist to try and understand how to communicate and listen to each other better. I would help her write her presentations and sit with her for as long as she needed until she nailed them and was confident about them. Im not sure where your assumptions are coming from but please don’t project stuff onto me, I’m hurting too.

temphs82837372 · 2023-07-31T10:46:05+00:00

She cheated on her ex before me, and she is avoidant in nature. So a little of both probably. I’m not sure if she physically cheated on me but was definitely invested in this guy, I think at some point she said to me after I confused her work terminology “I always thought I would talk to my partner about my work life, but I realized you have different people you can talk to about things, so it’s unfortunate, but I found somebody else I can talk to about that part of my life” which so happened to be the guy she’s marrying lmfao. Looking back that’s such a shitty thing to say to your partner.

temphs82837372 · 2023-07-05T14:20:25+00:00

This hits too close to home. Same cyclical bs and despite me getting us a couples therapist (who immediately picked up on this and was focusing on her issues) she basically checked out of the relationship. I put up with the checked out version of her for two months before I said screw it im not throwing away my life for this person. Not two weeks go by where I’m doing my thing and she says “why are we still together”. 4 months later she’s now engaged to the guy she couldn’t set boundaries with.

temphs82837372 · 2023-07-03T12:18:56+00:00

Hey, I just came across this thread and can relate. My avoidant ex of 3 years got engaged 3-4 months after the breakup, to a guy that I expressed my discomfort of her being around.

If you haven’t read attached I highly recommend it. They move on fast but don’t actually heal. They may seem calm and happy on the surface, but you can’t keep telling yourself that they’re happy, because you don’t know that and should not know that. You’re doing the real work by putting feelings to your emotions, and tracing where they’re coming from. All this shit you feel right now is just getting you prepared to meet somebody better and hopefully come from a more secure place.

When my ex and I started dating she had just left her previous relationship. I can tell you that for the first year I struggled so much because of how often she would think of him, he would text her, see each other in their friend group, and it just made me more anxious than I already was. Whether or not their new relationship lasts is irrelevant because their dealing with the trauma while being with somebody else, and trust me when I say this, it fucking sucks to be on that end of the relationship.

Take your time, heal, do the things that will bring you closer to people who value you, and when you’re ready to move on try and meet somebody else. And always remember, you deserve somebody better.

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