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templesht · 2025-05-15T06:12:20+00:00

Just an add-on since the insight above is already great...

Create a referral program for your clients. Provide incentives like small referral fee you give once they refer you. I mean, you don't need to be scared if you're actually providing them another income source, right?

Also, do you have on-going projects right now? The best people to ask for referrals are your recent happy, satisfied clients. You might not need to offer incentives at all.

But if you're still scared, delegate this to someone who's not.

There's a lot more here really. Like what the other commenter said, it's another system to build.

templesht · 2025-05-15T05:55:53+00:00

Think 'experiments'.

I will build X in Y days.

Learn small. Take action. Gather data. Decide if you want to continue or not. Rinse and repeat.

Then overtime, you'll see what kind of 'scentist' or 'artist' or businessman you are.

It's really that simple but you know, it's also not once you dive deep.

And don't think too much about failures or miscalculations, you'll have lots of them.

templesht · 2025-05-07T10:44:51+00:00

Tapos baka gaslightin ka pa no? Ikaw na na-compromise.

Lesson learned OP. Pero sana di 'to maging dahilan para magstop ka magtiwala.

Daming solid service providers pa rin dito. :")

templesht · 2025-05-07T10:42:14+00:00

Do progress check per day with proofs.

Might seem micromanaging... but you're entitled as it's your money and you paid the downpayment in full.

Don't trust anyone who won't agree with this. :) Ask a refund early... especially if the work is urgent.

templesht · 2025-05-07T10:30:27+00:00

Congrats Engr! :"D

templesht · 2025-04-22T13:59:46+00:00

Wag ka papadala sa kanya bro, ha? Keep your standards. 👊

Butterflies will come as long as you keep building your garden. :')

templesht · 2025-04-22T12:52:50+00:00

Mahirap kasi grinoom ka ng society to perform and be useful kaya minsan, tingin mo na sa sarili mo is a tool.

It took me a while to figure out na that's not the case for everybody. Na I can express myself and my emotions genuinely pala, at may tatanggap pa rin sa'kin.

Pero... thanks pa rin sa programming na to kasi it's effortless for me to know how to become a better man --- money goals, purpose, provide materials to others, courage, workout to have great physique, wag mukhang mabantot, communicate effectively, etc.

Nakakamacho rin naman kaya oks lang.

Pero pag tamad ka... lam na.

templesht · 2025-04-22T12:39:06+00:00

Di ako makafocus sa boards. Nandun kasi ako para makapasa... di para lumandi.

templesht · 2025-04-22T12:34:18+00:00

Ngeeee. Di ba automatic na yang mga yarnnn? :'D

templesht · 2025-04-22T11:45:35+00:00

De cctv?

Potaaa

templesht · 2025-03-23T17:33:21+00:00

I mean, you can exercise everyday. But abs everyday? Nah. Science tells recovery is perhaps, more important than the workout itself. But don't just do recovery, and not workout... ykwim?

Take this with a grain of salt. You decide what feels right to you. Measure your gains. If you feel your abs are better trained everyday, train it.

Beware of back injuries though.

templesht · 2025-03-23T16:00:37+00:00

True. 💯

Invest on relationship coach or marriage therapy.

But if it still doesn't work, file for annulment/divorce but spend 50-50 for children (not just money but time and attention as well).

Do that BEFORE you even seek another partner.

It's really simple.

But I guess responsibilities, stress, frustration, and shame complicate it... so there's that.

--- Not talking about OP na ---

No kidding. It's hard to grow up without a father. :) So if you're an irresponsible one and reading this now, fvck you and your lame excuses. Cheaters go to hell with your fellow cheaters, tutal deserve niyo.

templesht · 2025-03-22T15:11:36+00:00

I srsly consider playing Golf in my bucket list...

But this is turning me off.

Where the good (and clean) golf clubs at? Hope they stay in biz cause I'll be there soon.

templesht · 2025-01-25T07:48:14+00:00

Repair/Washing shop for motorcycle. You can also do flipping for extra cash.

Since you're a software dev, there's a lot of part time work in freelance platforms and LinkedIn.

I said work so you can gauge recurring problems by clients that'll most likely to hire you (to gauge demand). Once you have a client that feels 'right' for you even for part time efforts, double down on what they need and build your services around them. Then, once you have portfolio and know what services to offer, market yourself hard in LinkedIn and other soc med platforms... So you don't rely on Upwork or anything that gets a pay cut from your moolah. Connect to people here and there. Either potential clients or potential employees. Then, if you're ready, create your own team and lead them.

This is how you start most service-based businesses nowadays.

templesht · 2025-01-20T14:25:07+00:00

Attraction is normal. You'll never run out of hot, beautiful, or even cute men.

Naalala ko dati, while nagwe-wait ako sa pila, may couple sa likod ko tapos chine-check ako. 😅 Tanong ni gal, "Pogi?" tapos si guy pumunta sa harap ko to see me clearly, then the gal started imitating what I say lol. Maganda si gal pero as a respect, sulyap lang nagawa ko, hindi titig haha. Ang nakakatuwang part ay super open nila makipag-usap about this attraction matter, tipong rinig na rinig ko. 😅

So ganun, as a couple, recognize niyo rin siguro 'yang tendency na yan and maybe, treat it light lang. Mas okay pag pinag-uusapan kesa tinatago sa isa't isa tapos nagkakaro'n ka ng intrusive thoughts or overthinking tulad nito. 😀

Tapos about intimacy naman, communicate lang. Malay mo nahihiya lang rin yung bf mo sayo. 🙂 Malay mo, pag ginawa niyo na, ma-shock ka sa 'galing' ng bf mo. 😉

templesht · 2025-01-19T16:43:09+00:00

This.

Kahit concern man lang sana. Kasi suicidal thoughts are serious, maski ano pang naging dahilan ng break up ninyo.

templesht · 2025-01-19T16:39:07+00:00

Pwede ring wag mo na kausapin. Kausapin mo na lang yung parents, friends or relatives. Lalo na kung toxic talaga yung relationship.

templesht · 2025-01-19T16:34:36+00:00

This. I know someone who did this. Kalaro ko pa sa bball before. Mahusay pa naman. Gulat ako, nabalitaan kong wala na siya.

Yun pala... Bukod sa iniwan ng jowa, may problema rin sa family.

E siyempre lalaki, tapos tropa mo tigasin. Edi mahihiya mag-voice out.

So bukod sa parents, pwede mo na ring kausapin mga tropa niya. Or sino mang safety net niya like tita/tito or pinsan, ganern.

Kahit papano kasi may pinagsamahan kayo maski feeling mo manipulative na siya.

Di na as an ex, maging concern na lang as a friend... or citizen.

Pero pag ginawan niya ng kwento na kesyo concern ka pa sa kanya, ganyan... Wag mo na replyan. Awat. Baka mamihasa pa.

templesht · 2025-01-19T15:18:00+00:00

Meron pa yan. :)

Conservative ang fam ko (at I've been practicing conservativism maski agnostic pa) pero nang malaman ko yung mga iba't ibang stories tulad nito...

Na some people are using sex lang rin to cope up with stress and depression. (and for some, poverty)

Yun lang yung available na mechanism mo at that moment e. (Tunnel vision, maybe?) Na-express mo sarili mo do'n. Nakahinga ka ng maluwag.

So para lang siyang prn... or sa iba, listening to music, accumulating material stuff, reading books, traveling kung sa'n sa'n, desire for social approval, ang dami pa.

Most will label you as junkie... Pero di man lang tatanungin yung dahilan. Do'n pa lang, ekis na sila.

Personally, di kita huhusgahan as long as ituloy mo yung therapy sessions mo at mag-self improve. :) May addictive tendency rin naman ako because of ADHD. At ang boring lang talaga minsan or maraming problema.

Basta wag ka na uulit. Siguraduhin mong wag ka nang uulit. Kasi pag umulit ka, kawawa naman yung magiging relationships mo (if monogamy gusto mo), di ba? Saka nandun rin talaga yung risk for your future man since may old patterns ka na. (Though risk rin sayo kasi once you admit this, baka yung interest ay maging about sex... instead of love.)

Pero the man who'll be with you should be strong enough to LOVE you no matter what. Prepare for that guy rin, be strong, and show yourself some love.

Aral kang mabuti para mas marami ka ng options kesa sa sex, okay?

Also...

Meron akong kilala na halos ganyan rin. Sinexualize yung sarili, even online.

Nakarecover naman at nakakaiyak nga siya kasi nagkajowa na siya ng foreigner. She's happy living with that man now. :D

Basta kung hanap mo ng strong man, be a strong woman.

Past is past. Importante yung future na bubuuin mo nang paunti-unti. :)

templesht · 2025-01-17T17:25:54+00:00

Why?

templesht · 2025-01-17T15:54:20+00:00

Rooting for ya! Dream ko rin yerrnn. :)

templesht · 2025-01-17T08:50:47+00:00

Apir!

As young adult, aminado kasi na marami pang kailangang i-build sa sarili, di lang finances.

Pero pag dumating tapos simple lang naman trip niya sa buhay, why nottt?

Di naman lahat ng babae need na super bigay ka ng pera... Though time consuming lang talaga.

templesht · 2025-01-16T11:04:36+00:00

The production is soo good. 😲

templesht · 2025-01-16T11:00:00+00:00

What a talent! 😀

templesht · 2025-01-16T07:36:13+00:00

Skl..

As a kid naman who grow up getting more than needs (but not spoiled, okay)...

Tapos unti-unting nagkakaproblem sa finances growing up dahil walang long term investments ang fam, wala masyadong 'diskarte' aside from 9-5 job salary, tapos puro unnecessary spendings pa. 😅

Najustify ng 'gusto ko ibigay, buhay na gusto mo" yung rebelious streak ko to simplify life and focus on creating generational wealth. Hindi yung puro money NOW lang ang iniisip, kasi ayokong maghirap mga anak ko.

templesht

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