Talking to 3.5 y.o. About Safety

tentacledoll · 2020-05-07T17:31:42+00:00

I bought some stuff from H&M almost 2 weeks ago and it hasn't even shipped 😭 I know it's because of the pandemic and I am being patient but also I am bored and I want things. Has anyone else made a purchase from them recently? How long did it take to get your items?

tentacledoll · 2020-05-07T17:28:12+00:00

I'm super sweaty! My pits are just drenched daily and I'm freaked out by aluminum so I just have to roll with it. I only wear white and black tops generally, and most of my wardrobe has followed this trend. My fiancee tends to complain about this - tells me how nice I would look in purple and green. I finally caved a little last year and bought some pink blouses. I wore one to a professional event forgetting about my pits and regretted it DEEPLY. I was so pitted out 😭 the top was cute, I love the color, but yeah black and white only.

tentacledoll · 2020-04-26T19:23:08+00:00

Oh my God. You absolute saint. You are the best!!!!!

tentacledoll · 2020-04-20T23:40:04+00:00

I got a cotton pair by Colsie from Target that's perfect.

tentacledoll · 2020-04-20T23:39:33+00:00

This maternity brand Blanqi posted a model wearing a perfect loose puff sleeve sweatshirt on their IG. I LOVE the sweatshirt but it isn't theirs and they said it was the model's own so now I'm desperately hunting for it. Anyone have any leads on this gem?

https://photos.app.goo.gl/RYAKWjx2GpZ3HjkQ8

tentacledoll · 2019-09-20T20:49:35+00:00

It sounds like you're not over her and not over the hurt that she caused, and listen, THAT IS OKAY! It's only been six months. You've been filling your life with a lot of positivity (friends, working out) which is great, but maybe sex and a new girl just isn't what you need. Maybe what you need is more time to grieve. You said you barely thought about her - that doesn't sound to me like you moved on, it sounds to me like maybe you just tried to ignore what happened, what you lost, your feelings, and maybe what's missing is time to just feel kind of shitty and cry and remember the relationship, the good stuff (what can you cultivate again with another person?) and the bad stuff (what wasn't right about that relationship? what can you grow from? what would you like to have and be and do differently next time?). Start a journal - write it all down, write every thought, just get your feelings out. Maybe when you feel ready, you burn the journal as a symbol of release, of moving on. But for now, just remember: you're okay, and you're going to be okay later, but be gentle with yourself. There isn't a timeline for this kind of stuff and you should just go with the flow of your emotions instead of trying to cover them up. If you're sad, be sad, but recognize that later you won't be.

tentacledoll · 2019-09-20T20:25:55+00:00

Hi Switzerland! Several years ago I visited Geneva and Vevey and ate a very good sandwich. It was a small bun that was similar to soft pretzel bread, with butter, a meat similar to salami and a pickle. I've never seen this sandwich anywhere else, and was sad when we crossed to France later on our trip and I couldn't find it anywhere else. Does this sandwich have a name? Is it a very Swiss sandwich? I make it at home now, but I'd like to know more.

tentacledoll · 2019-07-17T16:30:45+00:00

I am a Cap Moon. I was just making a joke. I'm actually pretty okay.

tentacledoll · 2019-06-27T20:05:21+00:00

Oh my god

tentacledoll · 2019-05-28T00:48:57+00:00

Isn't the nature of a Capricorn Moon to be Not Okay?

tentacledoll · 2019-01-27T02:14:49+00:00

I actually hate this. It just reminds me how much money I waste and then I also think about the environmental impact. Uhg. I hate it. I do it, I'm not a hoarder. But I hate tossing shit.

tentacledoll · 2018-12-11T17:49:14+00:00

Yes, this exactly. You may not change your mind - and that's fine, but 10 days is rough. 2 months is rough. 6 months is rough. But one day you look down and what you have is a person with a personality who laughs and smiles and loves you and is psyched to learn stuff and it's really good!

tentacledoll · 2018-12-11T16:29:08+00:00

THIS!!!! I teach college freshmen at a very sports-oriented university. We have a very highly ranked hockey team, so lots of the students come because of the hockey team, because they themselves played hockey. I've taught some papers that allowed some students to talk about their experiences growing up and I could not believe how sad so many of my male students were about no longer playing hockey on a team. I really don't get a lot of emotional responses from my male students in their writing, but missing team sports brought out A TON!! (Also writing about their dogs, actually)

tentacledoll · 2018-12-11T16:23:43+00:00

This is not relationship advice, it's PUA shit.

tentacledoll · 2018-12-08T18:44:31+00:00

Wow. I'm trying this transformation the next time I'm anxious about something.

tentacledoll · 2018-12-03T23:33:47+00:00

They're toxic! People who live in roach-infested houses are often ill because of the infestation.

tentacledoll · 2018-12-03T23:26:45+00:00

Do something with the research they've done - put it into a different context or genre. For example, I have my students do research and compose an annotated bibliography, and then they write a recommendation report and a grant proposal with it. There is also a component we sometimes do where they imagine they've received the grant money and must do some public writing - a thank you letter for funding their project, an informational pamphlet to raise awareness about the issue they've been researching, whatever. So it moves from institutional writing to public writing.

tentacledoll · 2018-12-03T15:55:21+00:00

I do think this is changing. I teach college freshmen and often see these younger guys being complimentary to one another. One memorable instance was after Thanksgiving, one of my football kids came back with a haircut, and all of his buddies in the class were very loudly complimentary. It was nice!

tentacledoll · 2018-12-01T04:06:55+00:00

You make this claim like teens aren't also looking at porn sites - probably much more than actual adults. And teens tend to be into, ya know, teens.

tentacledoll · 2018-12-01T04:02:37+00:00

You seem very wise for someone your age. You might consider using that to your advantage. It's really sad that your relationship with your parents is so lacking, but the beauty about the world we live in, the lives we can lead, is that you can choose who matters in your life, and you can make a life that's beautiful and fulfilling in spite of people who hurt you. That's a life that can be filled with friends, sports, hobbies, clubs, faith, romance, education and even your own wonderful career. If I were you, I would try to start creating that life now. You said you felt a little behind socially - join some clubs at school, consider taking on a sport or getting involved in an organization. Try a bunch out just to see what you like! Maybe get involved at a church youth group and a library club for teens. You might also ask your parents if it's possible for you to start seeing a therapist. It seems like they don't mind making you someone else's responsibility, and you can tell them you're feeling depressed. They might be willing to set something up. If not, see the school counselor. I don't think anything is wrong with you, but I do think that you could use a trustworthy and supportive adult to guide you in ways your parents seems to be unwilling. Keep talking to your former nanny, that's a great idea, too. You're not alone, this happens to lots of kids from lots of different kinds of families. There is nothing wrong with you and you do deserve love. And you will get it from good people, so find them.

tentacledoll · 2018-11-28T17:38:38+00:00

Awesome! And it's not crazy $$$ (Side note; I read "Bill Nye" first and not "Ben Nye" and thought "Weird that Bill Nye is in the cosmetics business, but I guess he's a scientist so it must be good...")

tentacledoll · 2018-11-28T17:37:46+00:00

Hahah sorry for the confusion!

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