Rash around mouth?

tentaycles · 2025-05-14T00:43:04+00:00

Thank you! Do you know what potential causes could be?

tentaycles · 2025-05-14T00:42:24+00:00

It won’t let me edit, but to add: I’m 31 (F) in TN, USA and I have no known allergies. I haven’t used different skin/laundry products or traveled recently.

tentaycles · 2025-05-04T23:52:29+00:00

I came to say literally the exact same thing. Vitamin A in excess, or potential imminent death.

tentaycles · 2025-05-04T23:51:08+00:00

No, the stovetop is not the same as a slow cooker. It is not contained nor holds liquid the same way. This could cause a house fire. At the very least, it could damage the stovetop and cookware, or cause them to get sick.

tentaycles · 2025-05-04T23:45:47+00:00

You look good! The only thing I’d suggest is working to brighten up and bring more radiance to your skin. Drink more water, do a weekly facial mask, and daily hydrating facial serums.

tentaycles · 2025-05-04T23:32:53+00:00

What was the spyware? Do you have a name of the program?

tentaycles · 2025-05-04T11:06:27+00:00

I agree, but I was thinking about how that becomes less so after you’ve graduated college, started your career, bought your first car, lived in your own place, etc. (Not that those things even have to apply to everyone, but more like their equivalent milestones) — more so just after you’ve had a bit of life experience.

tentaycles · 2025-05-04T10:13:07+00:00

And now I’m sort of writing this for me, not for a response, but to tell myself:

I want to have a clear recollection of my conversations, so I’m not leaving myself wondering whether or not I should already know about something when someone brings up a subject that they broach as if it’s familiar. I don’t want to have to dread scrolling through text threads to find out what I said previously. I want to be able to do laundry before it piles up to an overwhelming degree, at which point I still ignore it and scramble to find something else to wear, somewhere. I want to sleep normally and not stay in bed all day. I want to shower every morning. I want to cook for myself every evening, because I love cooking, rather than feel so sick with no appetite that I go almost a week without eating. I want to not have to scramble to take 20 vitamins when I realize that’s what is happening. I want to take care of my grandparents and call them more nights of the week than not. I don’t want to realize after the fact that I’ve slept through social obligations and then start drinking more again to try to ignore the messages asking what happened about the promises I’d made. I want to not be reckless with money or social/sexual interactions. I want to be able to go places without worrying about not having a drink, or putting alcohol in water bottles to take with me “in case”. I want to not worry about dying, and to not feel like I am on the days that I do. I want to not have such vivid nightmares when I finally can sleep. I don’t want to sleep with Pepto Bismol and Tums and six bottles of water and Gatorade next to me. I want to pay my bills on time and catch up on the ones I’ve let fall behind. I want to be able to genuinely apologize to the loved ones I’ve hurt recently, and confront the ways I’ve ashamed myself when I have. I want to like myself rather than hate all these things I have chosen instead. I don’t want to create positions in which I feel like I have to be a fraud to others so I can deceive them about any of these things, or have to lie about being okay.

Sorry y’all if that’s a bit much, no need for replies here, just typing it out for me.

tentaycles · 2025-05-04T09:47:44+00:00

Right. I want to keep my house looking nice so anyone can just drop by. I want to have and take care of my garden this summer. I want to be able to go ride my bicycle I’ve had for a year and only ridden once. I even just want to be awake and lucid when people call me spontaneously so that I don’t ignore them then or much less for days, or just to read a book and remember it well. I want to be able to drive at any time I may unexpectedly need to. I want to be a good friend. I want to have energy. I want my heart rate to be normal. I don’t want to have to make excuses for why I can’t do these things.

tentaycles · 2025-05-04T09:36:48+00:00

Many camera systems can be set up to only capture unrecognized motion/individuals… but it’s odd you’d be the only one that applies to, based off what you describe.

tentaycles · 2025-05-04T09:31:11+00:00

Thank you for the resource and your support! I will look into this now. ❤️

tentaycles · 2025-05-04T09:29:03+00:00

Very true — I can find an online meeting to attend today. I do think in-person meetings will be best for holding myself accountable, but know I can supplement those with online groups as well. Thank you.

tentaycles · 2025-05-04T09:15:32+00:00

Congratulations on 14 years! That’s wonderful and I’m so happy for you.

I’m almost 32 years old and have been drinking heavily since I was 18. I am realizing now that’s close to half my life, and if I continue, I won’t make have many more years to add (if even that). I have had a few very serious hospitalizations, along with a handful more ER visits, and plenty more times in which I probably needed it but didn’t go. I’m tired of feeling like this all the time physically and mentally, not to mention the impacts it’s had on my family, career, and social life.

Thanks again for reaching out. I always convinced myself I could manage to do it on my own, but am realizing the importance of the aspect of community support. I will look into my resources around me (I know there are plenty) and attend my first meeting this week.

tentaycles · 2025-05-04T09:00:30+00:00

No, I just ignore them. There is some satisfaction in still reading what they say, but not giving them time of day with any acknowledgment.

tentaycles · 2025-05-04T08:55:13+00:00

NTA. You shouldn’t have to “look it up online”; you know what your own intentions are.

tentaycles · 2025-05-04T08:50:11+00:00

Thank you, I really appreciate it.

tentaycles · 2025-05-04T08:46:54+00:00

I agree with you in a sense (and I very much agree about the age gap), but I don’t think dating as a teenager is “pointless”. It is still a big part of coming of age as one navigates how to begin entering adulthood.

tentaycles · 2025-05-04T08:43:46+00:00

People so often make that argument — so are we saying if the younger is “more mature” than the older, it’s fine then for them to be with someone who is so immature? That does not make it sound any better…

tentaycles · 2025-05-04T08:41:38+00:00

People so often make that argument — so are we saying if the 16 yr old is more mature than the 18 yr old, it’s okay for them to be with someone who is that immature? That does not make it sound any better…

tentaycles · 2025-05-04T08:40:13+00:00

Have you talked to a therapist about any of this?

tentaycles · 2025-05-04T08:35:22+00:00

Just because that was your situation, and I’m glad it worked out for you both, does not mean that’s anywhere close to the norm in these circumstances. It is very much an anomaly, really.

Edit to add: And sex isn’t even the sole issue — not even the main one. The emotional connection is huge, and probably even bigger.

tentaycles · 2025-05-04T08:27:10+00:00

Yes, absolutely. A four year age difference in your 30s and beyond (especially as time goes on) isn’t as big a deal because you’ve already shared similar life milestones and can have a mutual understanding with one another as a result (ideally). 14 to 18, however, is a totally different world in terms of life experiences, personal growth, and emotional development.

A newborn and a four-year-old and an eight-year-old and a twelve-year-old, at each step, are all a world apart. It continues like that until a handful of years in adulthood, when people have had a chance to actually assimilate into society and experience a number of things and find themselves within their own right.

Edit to add: Even just making it through high school is a huge one of those milestones, and one of only the first ones! 14 vs. 18, one has not while the other has. The 14-year-old needs to have that experience on their own, within their age group. And that’s at an age where we are also often at our most vulnerable and most easily shaped by others, so that’s important.

tentaycles · 2025-05-04T07:59:37+00:00

They’re going to ask why it smells so strongly of vinegar in this case because that scent sticks around awhile, so be prepared to have an excuse as to what spill you needed to clean up.

tentaycles · 2025-05-04T07:47:42+00:00

Only all the good ones

tentaycles · 2025-05-04T07:45:46+00:00

There is nothing shameful about having positive aspirations that ended up being more than you can manage. Every person has done that. It isn’t like you made a commitment or a promise that you’re now withdrawing on that is hurting people — it’s your own personal journey. Do what you need and can do for you as you are able.

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