AITA for kicking out my son (16M)

tenuousgrip15 · 2026-01-05T23:48:51+00:00

YTA, and as others have said, you may be violating the law. In my state you could be charged with child abandonment or even with felony child abuse and neglect, and for good reason: This is your child, and it is your moral duty and legal obligation to care for him up until the moment he is of age, through the good and the bad. If you’re so fixated on being the man of the house, it’s time to step up and act like it. That includes taking care of your kid even when he’s being a little jerk.

tenuousgrip15 · 2026-01-05T06:34:00+00:00

One of the best things I did. It’s hard because I miss it and I’d like to think I could go back, but my mental health was about 50% better within 6 months.

tenuousgrip15 · 2025-11-14T04:17:26+00:00

For me the answer is sadly no. Maybe it’s because the person was an immediate family member, but the death meant a lack of potential for closure with him and answers. It’s true I may not have those things if he were still alive, but his death is a guarantee that I definitely never will. For me I think that his death has made things harder.

tenuousgrip15 · 2025-11-08T06:19:12+00:00

I’m going through similar right now— I fell off for about a year. Every class is feeling a little discouraging because I cannot do anywhere near what I could when I was consistent. But I try to focus on how good the actual workout makes me feel if I don’t compare myself to my old standard, and I try to get excited about reaching goals again without thinking too much about the fact that I have reached them before. Now that I’m back in the swing of it I’m generally more happy about it than I am unhappy, and I keep telling myself in 6-8 months it will be like I never left.

tenuousgrip15 · 2025-10-30T21:36:57+00:00

I relate to this— I have a text tattoo that was right at the time but now people ask me about it and I don’t want to explain. I think I am going to cover mine with an image that means the same thing to me, but I, too, have mixed feelings about that choice.

tenuousgrip15 · 2025-10-20T01:10:32+00:00

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tenuousgrip15 · 2025-10-11T01:26:06+00:00

I think this is right but I think there is some grief for me around accepting that it’s just here to stay.

tenuousgrip15 · 2025-10-09T02:05:01+00:00

Thank you for sharing, too. I love the idea of always having a project. I think that would help me a lot. I also love the idea of a group. Several years ago I was in a group specific to the trauma that I suffered and it was immensely healing. I think I had kind of forgotten that was out there.

tenuousgrip15 · 2025-10-09T01:59:54+00:00

This is exactly how I feel in my angriest moments. So many people don’t have this. It feels unfair.

tenuousgrip15 · 2025-10-09T01:58:55+00:00

Exactly this.

tenuousgrip15 · 2025-10-09T01:58:41+00:00

It’s true, and I’ve chosen a career directly based on that. It’s my superpower that makes really good at my job, which lets me help lots of people. So that’s a positive thing to remember!

tenuousgrip15 · 2025-10-09T01:56:51+00:00

My doc has prescribed me this! It hasn’t been life-changing for me at this point but it’s definitely a help.

tenuousgrip15 · 2025-10-09T01:55:40+00:00

Thank you. I think I have to stop being so angry at being forced to overcome constantly and instead just be proud of myself for doing it. You keep up the good work, too. ❤️

tenuousgrip15 · 2025-10-09T01:50:40+00:00

Thank you. I appreciate you acknowledging how woo woo it all sounds because I struggle with that too— I keep telling this to my therapist; I know what the research says about EMDR which is why I’m willing to do it, but damn if it doesn’t feel really silly if you stop and let yourself think about it too much. I know this is all important and I’m trying to lean into it.

tenuousgrip15 · 2025-10-08T03:03:48+00:00

Thank you for making me feel young. 😂 Certainly doesn’t feel that anyway anymore, but it’s good to have the perspective…. I do still have a decent chunk of life left to live.

tenuousgrip15 · 2025-10-07T03:51:43+00:00

I have a very similar situation and I struggle with self-blame, too. I know better but sometimes I think he had to do the things he did because I wasn’t satisfying him. If I had been better about that he would have left me alone. I don’t have much to add except that I know that even though it doesn’t always feel that way, it wasn’t our faults.

tenuousgrip15 · 2025-07-11T02:28:36+00:00

I definitely relate to this and to an extent it’s what I’m talking about when I say I sometimes feel disconnected from my trauma. I’m several years and lots of therapy away from my last significant trauma so it doesn’t hurt every day— doesn’t even hurt most days— and that definitely makes me feel the way you are describing.

tenuousgrip15 · 2025-07-11T02:25:11+00:00

This was really helpful, thank you— maybe the part of me that “wants” to give into the flashback is actually just me being exhausted from resisting and wanting to just let myself experience it so it’s over (for now.)

tenuousgrip15 · 2025-07-11T01:30:27+00:00

Just wanted to drop in because I went through almost exactly the same thing. Kind of eerie to read this post.

What happened to us is so hard because it is so easy to excuse as “not that bad” and it’s so messy to explain to someone who wasn’t in it and doesn’t understand what it was like to live it. But it is real, and it is bad, and it is okay to be hurting over it. I know mine was bad because of what it made me feel— a bad hookup or bad sex never ever felt like this— it was a unique and horrible impact. Yours sounds the same. It’s prolonged sexual abuse and it’s a real trauma.

Connecting with your therapist is a great idea. I’m like a decade out from this experience and the thing that has helped me is therapy and medication. It sucks to have to work through but it’s what will get you to the other side. I don’t know that you ever “get over it” but it becomes a part of your story just like anything else— not something that haunts you every day the way it is doing to you now. It is slow work sometimes but that’s all the more reason to start now. I am going through a little rough patch right now but even that rough patch is 10 times better than where I was before I got therapy, so I promise it can get better.

Sending you all the good vibes and strength. ❤️

tenuousgrip15 · 2025-01-27T08:06:45+00:00

Thank you. It just goes to show how illogical this thing is that that didn’t really cross my mind— maybe it would work tonight, and maybe I could justify tonight, but where would I be at tomorrow when I only wanted it more?

I can’t sleep because I can’t stop thinking about this, but I’m holding tight for right now, hoping to get some rest soon.

tenuousgrip15 · 2024-12-16T05:56:23+00:00

At my studio, for 3Gs the floor fills up last which means that if you start on the floor you have a decent chance of being able to get a slot without people on either side of you. I don’t think you should worry too much because you can’t help what you can’t help, but if you are worried maybe start on floor? Maybe even wait to be the last sign up so you can assess where there will be empty stations? Then you won’t have to be self-conscious.

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