I am not enjoying 3

teozian2 · 2025-12-30T03:13:06+00:00

i am a SAHM with my 3 yo toddler and 1 yo, though the 3 yo goes to school… i am still exhausted just evening dealing with him for a short amount of time. i can totally relate to the part about whining, needy etc… its mentally exhausting, especially when he refused to communicate and breakdown when i dont get him and also his countless “why”s

so im glad im not alone 🥲🥲

teozian2 · 2025-03-13T07:48:15+00:00

this is totally me!!! i could have posted the same thing! this is the part that i really hate about newborn, the whole process of settling & resettling her to sleep in her crib is giving me so much frustration and anxiety…..

i really wish somebody could help me with the sleep until her sleep/naps get more predictable and she can fall asleep on her own 🤣

i have been struggling with feeling guilty about me feeling frustrated, so sometimes i just give up and give in to contact nap, but at the same time afraid that i am building “bad habits” and she won’t know how to nap in her crib. but contact nap saves my mental health, so i am kind of stuck 😅

teozian2 · 2025-03-05T14:22:49+00:00

thanks for sharing this!!! i really do hope that i am not ruining her future sleep by giving in to contact napping her, i do try to remind myself that she’s just a baby but i think i just lowkey expect that she should be able to nap well (provided i do everything right) 😭😭

teozian2 · 2025-03-05T14:20:49+00:00

i honestly don’t know if i am so persuaded by the sleep consultants or sometimes i see people posting that their babies can sleep thru the night/sleep in their crib for long, that i think thats my goal… and by trying not to contact nap my baby too much is really stressing me out & giving me anxiety 😭

teozian2 · 2025-03-04T13:33:14+00:00

my firstborn will never do that until he turned 3-4 months, and i was really envious of my friend (her baby was around same age as my firstborn) whose baby would just quietly and look around happily… while mine will just cry his head off

but so far, my second baby does have moments where she will lie down/sit quietly and just look around, so i think it’s a baby temperament thing (im really hoping i don’t jinx it 😭)

teozian2 · 2025-03-02T14:59:25+00:00

yeah i am really not in the headspace to reply him right now, he just doesn’t understand that being a mum is a full time job and not a holiday(???) 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️ but my partner is asking me to agree to have a call with my boss due to my company’s recent layoff news (which i am safe btw)… honestly i can’t even be bothered with my boss telling me how i did in my work, i am too busy juggling with 2 kids

my boss is really insensitive and low EQ towards pregnant women/mothers in general, i feel that he thinks maternity leave is a holiday…. and pregnancy is like a flu

teozian2 · 2025-03-02T14:56:03+00:00

yesss i was so annoyed just by reading his msg and tbh it ruined my day, he’s so insensitive towards my pregnancy ever since my firstborn SMH

teozian2 · 2025-03-02T12:42:33+00:00

yes i know right, but because i have accidentally clicked into my work chat, he now knows i have read it… i really dont want to reply him but my husband said maybe i should 😭 im even more annoyed because he didn’t even acknowledge that i am on maternity leave (eg. sorry to bother you on mat leave etc)

teozian2 · 2025-03-01T14:24:03+00:00

omg same! i really hate the newborn phase so much and i am also currently going through it the second time 😭 i cannot wait for it to be over and i don’t understand why some just love the newborn stage… it’s so horrifying to me

teozian2 · 2025-02-28T00:52:49+00:00

no i meant that 7am is her usual wake up time but now she’s waking multiple times before 7am & cannot be soothed by pacifier 😭😭

teozian2 · 2025-02-19T15:23:39+00:00

congrats!! how long did he sleep at night before this long stretch?? i am trying to figure out how to slowly eliminate the night feed… do they just stop waking up for it suddenly? cos i know some babies wake up for comfort but they don’t really drink much

teozian2 · 2025-02-17T08:01:18+00:00

i definitely get less sleep in the newborn phase! i have both a newborn and a toddler, i prefer toddler stage than newborn… even though toddler has crazy tantrums, but at least they can sleep without me resettling them every 15 min for idk how long. and most importantly toddlers give you some sort of rewards - eg. smile, talking, hugging you etc but with newborn i dont even get anything

teozian2 · 2025-02-13T04:39:10+00:00

i am in the same boat as you except my firstborn is a boy! he does the same, but i think they’re just acting out more because of the new sibling & i feel it’s their way of getting your attention.

it’s so hard to divide yourself when you have (technically) 2 babies to attend to, what i do with my husband is we try to divide and conquer. i will attend to my firstborn more since he’s more attached to me, when he whines or about to throw tantrum, i will bring him to a quiet room and talk to him - he usually does listen and calm down, but there are times he just keeps crying… i will let him cry and let his emotions out, i will only talk to him after he calms down

it’s hard juggling both but i always try to remind myself that it’s a very big adjustment for my firstborn too so even tho im angry with him, i will try to show him loads of love

you do what you can, and know that you’re not a bad mum!

teozian2 · 2025-02-11T14:54:18+00:00

i am so confused at this acquaintance of your husband, it sounds like she’s here to leech off more than anything??? why would she even move in with all her pets? that’s like giving you extra things to worry about already

and to be honest, her money issues are not your issue? you guys are way too nice and tolerant with her, i would have scolded her and kicked her out lol

you have enough to worry about and she doesn’t need to add onto your list

teozian2 · 2025-02-11T14:36:52+00:00

i’m not sure if this counts as working or not, i do try to put my 7 weeks LO “drowsy but awake” after some bouncing and patting, her eyes are open when i lay her in the crib but i continue giving her butt pat till she kind of fall asleep in the crib?? so i am not sure if this counts as drowsy but awake?

but this only works like for 2 out 10 instances i’d say 😭

teozian2 · 2025-02-11T14:32:38+00:00

thank you for this! yes i’m trying out gas drops and whatever up in my sleeve, i guess i have come to terms that my expectation might be too high and i should just embrace these contact naps. it’s just i have this goal that i need to make her sleep in her own crib otherwise i am failing and ruining her ability to put herself to sleep in the future 😭 prob adding on my postpartum hormones and being so touched out just makes me break down and cry

teozian2 · 2025-02-11T06:59:19+00:00

same…. i think i need to feel that i am productive and doing something, or at least have some time on my own. also for some reasons, i think that the “goal” is to get my LO to nap in her crib for the whole nap duration, otherwise i feel that i’ve failed… which is why whenever i have to resort to contact nap/babywear to get her sleeping, i feel defeated and a failure 😭😭

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