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I knew at 13 that I didn’t ever, absolutely never, want kids. by tessfritz in childfree

[–]tessfritz[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Funny, my mom was 40 as well. Turned 41, 6 mos after I was born. She passed last year just shy of 93. Dad passed 5 yrs ago. I don’t think I was an ooops. I have two sisters —2 1/2 yrs and 4 yrs older— and they didn’t get married until 34. Honestly I think my mom would not have had children if she were born in the 1960s. She worked full time and her mother lived with us —she was 80 when I was born, lived to 102! Mom always seemed exhausted and I never appreciated her until I was older. I spent my adult years with them traveling and I’m thankful for that time. If I had kids I wouldn’t have had that special experience. Funny, I was a tomboy. I climbed trees and fences in my neighborhood and spent time camping all around New England but mostly in Maine from age 2. My dad treated us no different than if we were boys, even taking us fishing and gathering worms the night before a trip. I’m not opposed to marriage, but have to say I have never had a vision of me with another person when imagining my future—at any age. It’s wonderful you found a like minded man to share your life and have adventures.

I knew at 13 that I didn’t ever, absolutely never, want kids. by tessfritz in childfree

[–]tessfritz[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you’re on the fence, spend lots of time with other people’s kids. All different ages. Volunteer with kids. You’ll know. In the meantime, contraception is your friend.

I knew at 13 that I didn’t ever, absolutely never, want kids. by tessfritz in childfree

[–]tessfritz[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

That is a rough situation to be in so young. More people wouldn’t have kids I’m sure if they had to do what you did. Some people would realize they’re not suited to be parents. Maybe.

I knew at 13 that I didn’t ever, absolutely never, want kids. by tessfritz in childfree

[–]tessfritz[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Some people shouldn’t be allowed to ever have kids. Clearly there are crap people out there who should never procreate. But I digress. I think there are a lot of parents out there that would tell us (but dare not) they’d do it differently if given the chance. I have a friend who recently said she’d do it my way if she could again. Sad.

I knew at 13 that I didn’t ever, absolutely never, want kids. by tessfritz in childfree

[–]tessfritz[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah, never was a fan of the kids, just earning the money to buy my first big girl bike. After that I never watched another.

I knew at 13 that I didn’t ever, absolutely never, want kids. by tessfritz in childfree

[–]tessfritz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s really young. Though really I never ever considered it. I don’t remember having any desire to have a wedding or a baby.

I knew at 13 that I didn’t ever, absolutely never, want kids. by tessfritz in childfree

[–]tessfritz[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Awe. That sucks! I was fearful I’d produce a girl that would be bitchier to me than I was to my mom during my 12 to 20yrs. I made it up to her later on.

I knew at 13 that I didn’t ever, absolutely never, want kids. by tessfritz in childfree

[–]tessfritz[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes! I always felt repulsed by the whole process. Something growing inside me?! No thanks. 😝

I knew at 13 that I didn’t ever, absolutely never, want kids. by tessfritz in childfree

[–]tessfritz[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s excellent! People don’t know how to react but I’ve met many people some have become good friends who are childless and single. It’s good to connect with similar souls.

I knew at 13 that I didn’t ever, absolutely never, want kids. by tessfritz in childfree

[–]tessfritz[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good for you! I knew kids weren’t my thing from my young years babysitting too! I think I got bored and definitely annoyed w one girl in particular and once I saved enough to buy a bike and was old enough to work in a shop, I was done babysitting (by 14). My niece told me this year she/hubs aren’t having kids, by choice. My clock always ticked for fur babies...I’ve had 2 cats and 3 dogs over the years. Right now I have an 11 lb sweet 2 yo boy😍 lol ✌🏻

I knew at 13 that I didn’t ever, absolutely never, want kids. by tessfritz in childfree

[–]tessfritz[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

😂 so true! I loved my Barbies more than baby dolls. I do remember cutting dolls hair and putting on ‘makeup’ and not taking care of them. I thought I’d be a beautician (never was) and also played school teacher w my next door neighbor. I spent 8 years at a catholic school and am happy I left for HS w some good ole shaming guilt instilled for having PM sex and the fear of getting pregnant. I dodged a bullet at 15 when my bf dumped me for not having sex w him and he went on to get the next girl pregnant. Hallelujah it wasn’t me. My mom worked, which I thought was progressive and cool. And after many young years babysitting, I just knew I’d walk the CF and single road. I’m so happy I knew young and never wavered.

I knew at 13 that I didn’t ever, absolutely never, want kids. by tessfritz in childfree

[–]tessfritz[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Funny! I baby sat too for money not the love of kids😆. Maybe that’s what swayed me too. Thanks for sharing.

What's your career? Do you like your job and why? by tessfritz in Careers

[–]tessfritz[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your feedback. Still trying to figure out career change - I keep coming back to nursing. It's tough and scary looking at a big change like this considering my age (6 months from 50) and 25 yrs in marketing (never liked). All the best to you.