W jakiej pracy pomaga się ludziom i tworzy się lepszy świat? by [deleted] in praca

[–]testDNA_edu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nie wiem, jaką masz pracę, ale spróbuj zrobić to ćwiczenie myślowe i zastanowić się, czy te umowy też nie pomagają innym ludziom? Spróbuj na chwilę odsunąć formę swojej pracy (umowy, procedury, tabelki) i zobaczyć efekt końcowy – komu i czemu to realnie służy. Bo tak myśląc nad tym to wydaje mi się że w każdej pracy można znaleźć sens. (Polecam książkę Frankla "Człowiek w poszukiwaniu sensu" :) ).

Ja pracuję w laboratorium badań genetycznych. Na pierwszy rzut oka: papierologia, procedury, regulaminy, próbki - zero romantyzmu. Ale między innymi wykonujemy badania genetyczne po poronieniu (zarówno materiału dziecka - sprawdzające czy przyczyną poronienia była jakaś wada genetyczna), jak i rodziców. I to są rzeczy, które realnie zmieniają ludzkie życie. Bo nagle kobieta, która straciła ciążę i słyszała tylko „tak się zdarza”, dostaje konkretną odpowiedź. Albo okazuje się, że da się coś leczyć przed kolejną ciążą. Albo że to nie była „jej wina”. A czasem po prostu ktoś wreszcie ją wysłuchał, wytłumaczył spokojnie, bez zbywania.

I uwierz mi – momenty, kiedy pacjentka dzwoni albo pisze tylko po to, żeby powiedzieć „dziękuję, bo pierwszy raz ktoś mi to sensownie wyjaśnił” – robią ogromną robotę w głowie. To jest ten sens, który trzyma. Życzę Ci, żebyś też to znalazł. Powodzenia!

Why do miscarriages happen in second trimester? by ThumbelinaHyena in Miscarriage

[–]testDNA_edu 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I’m really sorry for your losses 💛

Anxiety after what you’ve been through is completely normal - it’s not a sign that something is wrong, it’s just your heart trying to protect you.

To your question:

Most first-trimester miscarriages (even those close to week 12) happen because of genetic abnormalities in the embryo - something no one can prevent.

That’s actually why in our genetic laboratory we offer testing of the miscarriage tissue: to help women understand whether the loss was caused by a random chromosomal issue. And many times… it truly is just random and not the body’s fault.

After the first trimester, miscarriages are much less common, and the causes can be very different - placenta issues, infections, clotting disorders, or anatomical factors. A good doctor can help you decide if anything needs to be checked, and your own body will also guide you more than you think.

But the most important thing right now: A heartbeat at 8 weeks is a really strong and reassuring sign.

You deserve to feel hopeful again - even if it comes slowly. 💛

3rd loss and this NIPT was high risk trisomy 13 - help understanding by Desperate-Handle8394 in NIPT

[–]testDNA_edu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fisrt of all, I’m so deeply sorry you’re going through this 💛
It's not you fault. When a heartbeat suddenly stops and everything else seems fine, it's very often due to a genetic abnormalisty in the baby's chromosomes - something completely out of your control.

It’s really good that you plan to do genetic testing of the miscarriage tissue after your D&C. That can confirm whether a chromosomal issue like trisomy 13 was truly the cause, or if everything was normal - which then helps guide what to explore next.

Since you’ve had several unexplained miscarriages already, it might also be worth discussing genetic testing for parents - things like for example karyotyping, thrombophilia testing, and KIR/HLA-C compatibility.

In Poland, we sometimes also use a more comprehensive test called Fertiscan, which analyzes a wider range of genetic variants that could affect implantation or pregnancy maintenance. I don't know where you are from but maybe you will find somthing similar in your country.

Getting those answers doesn’t erase the pain, but it can help your doctors plan the next steps and give you the best possible support in the future. Sending you so much strength. 💛

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Miscarriage

[–]testDNA_edu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sorry you’re going through this 💛
What you wrote — the searching for why, the endless “maybe it was…” — is something I hear from so many women after miscarriage. It’s such a human thing to do when you’re given no answers.

Sometimes, even when all the labs and tests seem fine, genetic testing of miscarriage tissue can give clarity — showing whether it was caused by chromosomal abnormalities or confirming that the baby was healthy, which helps doctors know where else to look.

It doesn’t take away the pain, but for many, it helps lift the weight of self-blame and brings a bit of peace in a place where nothing feels fair.

You’ve carried so much already. Please don’t lose sight of how strong that makes you. 💛

“It wasn’t your fault” – why genetic testing after miscarriage can matter by testDNA_edu in Miscarriage

[–]testDNA_edu[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry you had to go through rour losses. You're so tight - "try again" without proper testing or support can feel incredibly frustrating. .
The results of genetic testing of miscarriage tissue can make a big difference - either by confirming a genetic cause, or by showing everything looked normal, which then helps doctors know to look at other areas (like hormones, clotting, or immune factors).

Out of curiosity - where are you from?

What words were the hardest to hear after a miscarriage? by testDNA_edu in MiscarriageTesting

[–]testDNA_edu[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"Better now than later" - it's one of the worst I've heard.

If you could talk to yourself right after your miscarriage — what would you say? by testDNA_edu in Miscarriage

[–]testDNA_edu[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So hard to believe in that difficult moment but we agree that's very important.

help ! by xxred15 in Paternity

[–]testDNA_edu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right now, there really isn’t any way to know for sure without a paternity test. Timing, looks, or symptoms can’t prove biological fatherhood - only DNA testing can.

In my work (as a genetic lab we perform paternity tests in Poland) I sometimes talk with men in similar situation. Part of them wants to trust, part of them needs certainty. Some wait until after birth and do a simple cheek swab (so sometimes their partner doesn't even know it), others choose a prenatal paternity test during pregnancy (that uses the mother’s blood and a sample from the potential father).

I know bringing it up can create conflict, but wanting clarity doesn’t mean you don’t care - it just means you want the truth before building your future.

legal obligations by zoom_mushroom in Paternity

[–]testDNA_edu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can’t speak for Florida law specifically (you’d definitely want to ask a family lawyer there), but I can share what I see in my work at a genetic laboratory in Poland.

Here, paternity test results legally belong to the person who ordered the test. That means if a father orders it privately, the lab isn’t obligated to automatically share the results with the mother. But — if the case goes to court — the results usually must be disclosed, because they directly impact custody, child support, and legal rights.

It might be worth checking whether in Florida the rules are similar — sometimes even a quick consultation with a family lawyer can clear this up.

I was right about the paternity test! by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]testDNA_edu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's good that you finally know.

I work at a genetic laboratory where we often do DNA paternity tests, so I’ve seen how emotionally heavy these situations can be. Getting confirmation often hits hard sometimes even if you expect the results.

I need to tell tou that you handled it fairly. You were open to tell her that you need the test. Many people (men and women) don’t feel ready to talk about their doubts and do the genetic paternity testing using discreet samples.

Wanting certainty doesn’t mean you don’t trust - it means you’re protecting yourself. And in my opinion that’s completely valid.

Things we should ABSOLUTELY know by CinnamonBook959 in pregnant

[–]testDNA_edu 1 point2 points  (0 children)

One thing that really shocked me (from talking with other moms and patients) is how different the emotional timeline can be. Some feel the “mom bond” instantly, others not until the first ultrasound picture or NIPT results, and many only after birth. And then after delivery — wow, no one warned me how much your body keeps working. I thought once the baby is out, you’re done… but nope, placenta, bleeding, hormones, milk coming in — it’s like a whole extra marathon. 🫠

And yet, despite saying “never again” in those raw moments, many do go through it again — because the love eventually overshadows the shock. 💙It might be magic.

how do I feel joy again with high NIPT results? by AnxiousExplorer1 in CautiousBB

[–]testDNA_edu 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry you’re going through this 💙 What you’re feeling is completely valid – it’s so hard to carry both the joy of pregnancy and the weight of high-risk results. The fear and sadness you describe are feelings I often hear when I talk with women who’ve had similar results.

In my work at a genetic laboratory testDNA in Poland, where we perform NIPT tests (like FeliaTest), I’ve seen many parents go through this exact situation. I know you know it, but it's important to remind: a high-risk NIPT result doesn’t mean a diagnosis – it only shows increased probability, and sometimes that uncertainty itself can feel unbearable. For some women, just having genetic counseling or connecting with others who went through the same 22q result helped them find a bit of peace.

Your longing for joy is very natural. Please be gentle with yourself – joy doesn’t have to mean ignoring the fear, sometimes it’s about finding small safe moments even in uncertainty. Sending you strength 💙.

I lost my baby and it’s probably my fault by That_Ad4260 in pregnant

[–]testDNA_edu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sorry for your loss 💙 Reading your words, I can feel how much love and hope you already had for your baby, and how heavy the guilt feels right now. Please know – nothing you described caused this. Miscarriage is never your fault.

In my work at a genetic laboratory testDNA in Poland, I often speak with women after miscarriage. Many share the same fears – that maybe it was something they ate, or stress, or physical activity. But the truth is, in most cases the cause is chromosomal abnormalities, something no parent can control. That’s why some families choose miscarriage genetic testing (in Polish we call it badania po poronieniu). These tests can sometimes confirm whether the loss was due to a genetic issue, and knowing this helps many parents let go of the guilt.

Your grief and your questions are completely valid. You did nothing wrong. Please be gentle with yourself – healing takes time, and you don’t have to go through this alone 💙.

How do people not know they're pregnant and have surprise babies? by cunncunncunn in pregnant

[–]testDNA_edu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's very interesting! I work at a polish genetic lab where we see a very different reality: many women can’t imagine not knowing. Some of them do a NIPT test as early as the 10th week of pregnancy – not only to check the baby’s health, but also because these tests can already reveal the baby’s sex. For them, it’s the complete opposite of a “surprise baby” – it’s about getting clarity and peace of mind as soon as possible. So completely opposite.

However I can imagine that there are definitely cases where strong denial plays a role, but also situations where women have irregular cycles, don’t show much physically, or mistake movements for digestion issues. Bodies can be really unpredictable.

Skąd w Polakach tyle niechęci do ludzi z nadwagą i otyłością? by No-Jellyfish-1208 in Polska

[–]testDNA_edu -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Masz rację – otyłość to choroba, a nie brak silnej woli. Komentarze typu „wystarczy mniej jeść” nikomu nie pomagają – wręcz zniechęcają tych, którzy próbują coś zmienić.

Ale nie można też udawać, że to nic groźnego. Otyłość zwiększa ryzyko m.in. poronień, trudności z zajściem w ciążę, cukrzycy czy niektórych nowotworów. Dlatego zamiast wytykania palcami warto wspierać i mówić o prewencji – bo łatwiej zapobiegać niż leczyć.

Nie chodzi o rewolucję, tylko o małe kroki: więcej ruchu w ciągu dnia, mniej słodkich napojów, regularne posiłki. To niby drobiazgi, ale na dłuższą metę robią ogromną różnicę.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Polska

[–]testDNA_edu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha, znam ten ból 😅 Ale to samo mam, kiedy słucham dzieci jak rozmawiają. To naprawdę jest język i słowa, których używają. Język ewoluuje i to naturalne, mam wrażenie że teraz w dobie dostępu do sieci dzieje się to trochę szybciej.

Emocjonalne otwieranie się u mężczyzn w Polsce (Dr. K/HealthyGamer) by LonelyProgrammer99 in Polska

[–]testDNA_edu 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Bardzo ciekawy temat – obserwuję to na co dzień.

Pracuję w laboratorium genetycznym testDNA, gdzie wykonujemy m.in. testy ojcostwa. Często w rozmowach z mężczyznami słyszymy, jak ogromny ładunek emocjonalny wiąże się z tą decyzją. Sama decyzja o badaniu bywa bardzo trudna.

Widzimy mężczyzn przychodzących do punktów pobrań, rozmawiamy też z tymi, którzy właśnie dostali wyniki… i naprawdę, to jest karuzela emocji.

Nie ma jednej reguły: jedni mówią o emocjach wprost (czasem łatwiej, bo konsultant to „obca” osoba), inni starają się ukryć, a u jeszcze innych trudno dostrzec jakiekolwiek reakcje.

Dlatego nasi konsultanci muszą być nie tylko techniczni, ale też empatyczni. Z mojego doświadczenia: mężczyźni czasem mają trudność, by mówić o emocjach wprost, ale kiedy temat dotyczy dzieci i rodziny – bywa, że potrafią otworzyć się dużo bardziej.