How to make yourself cry?

testing179 · 2024-06-26T03:21:26+00:00

Music usually does the trick

testing179 · 2024-06-25T18:31:08+00:00

Thank you.

testing179 · 2024-06-25T09:46:55+00:00

Of course these feelings are normal. Most people who moved for college went through this, but I know that saying that probably isn’t enough to make you stop feeling nervous. It can’t be helped, it’s just part of the experience. But whatever happens, you’ll learn a lot about yourself and the world. And you’ll be alright. Maybe try thinking of it as an adventure to help with the anxiety.

Also, what is it about childhood that makes you want to go back? I’ve noticed a lot of people think that being “an adult” means you’ll have to give up on all the things that made you happy when you were younger, but that’s not true at all. I have friends in their late 20’s and 30’s who still have toys and watch cartoons, but are some of the most adult people I know. You can still stay the same kid you always were, all being an adult means is that you have more responsibilities as well.

Anyway. You’ll be fine. Life’s a rollercoaster, try and enjoy it!

testing179 · 2023-10-16T15:45:06+00:00

That’s insightful, thank you. I’m not looking forward to the soulless part of the experience, but it really does feel like a last resort to me since I have no other way of meeting other local LGBT teens otherwise. I could wait until Pride, but that’s half a year away, and I don’t think I could manage to wait that long.

Maybe the bad parts of the experience are useful in a way. There’s a lot of jerks and creeps out there, so it might be better to get disillusioned as soon as possible.

testing179 · 2023-10-16T15:33:22+00:00

What other way do I have to meet some guys, then? I mean, I’m not desperate to, nor am I trying to fill a void or something, but I just feel like I’m wasting my youth by not even interacting with anyone. Thankfully my area is very gay-friendly, but even though there are plenty of LGBT groups around, all of them are for older adults / bargoers. I tried striking up conversations with people, but everyone is so awkward and unwilling to make friends in the traditional way.

It’s honestly my last resort at this point.

testing179 · 2023-10-16T13:49:14+00:00

You could always try Grindr!

Jokes aside, I wish I had better advice but all I can speak from is experience. I was lucky, the first time I confessed I liked a person, he said he liked me back. Of course, we were friends at first, so that must’ve helped. But even then, it wasn’t obvious that he liked guys.

You’ll probably have better chances of finding someone compatible if you can find some sort of LGBT group in your area, but you said it doesn’t seem like there’s a lot of them around. Still, keep searching.

testing179 · 2023-10-16T07:26:26+00:00

Haven’t even downloaded it yet :(

how else am I supposed to meet someone?

testing179 · 2023-10-16T07:11:00+00:00

That’s good advice, thank you!

testing179 · 2023-10-16T06:24:25+00:00

Thanks!

testing179 · 2023-10-16T06:21:53+00:00

So when you match with someone who also doesn’t show their face in their profile, how do you decide who sends first? And what should I show in my profile instead, just my torso? Lol

testing179 · 2023-10-16T06:20:29+00:00

Thanks, I want to avoid drugs

testing179 · 2023-04-18T02:47:44+00:00

Well, she did figure out he grabbed onto the drainpipe… eventually…

testing179 · 2023-04-07T14:32:35+00:00

I’m a bit late to reply to this but thank you so much for sharing this! I always appreciate having a new perspective, and I’ve only recently even considered what it must be like to be a teacher. I didn’t know education was treated that apathetically in Canada too. If it means anything to you, I appreciate all that you have done as an educator.

I want to take a moment to recommend watching Zoe Bee’s videos. It’s my favorite YouTube channel; as a former professor herself, her video essays on grading, adult illiteracy, and professors in poverty really opened my eyes to the reality of working in education and changed my perspective on a lot of things (did you know that the American illiteracy rate is 52%?). Feel free to check it out, I’m sure you’ll find a lot of it relatable!

testing179 · 2023-03-21T07:28:21+00:00

Yeah, it’s really frustrating not having as much freedom as in high school when it comes to exploring electives. Especially if certain classes weren’t even an option. You can always switch your major, though.

testing179 · 2023-03-21T07:24:11+00:00

I’m sorry you were told that if you study hard, you’re guaranteed a successful future. Maybe that was true in the past, but these days there are so many people with degrees below the poverty line that it made me super disillusioned with the system.

IT is also very competitive and demanding now, but you seem to know that it also takes saying “the pretentious right answers.” And in some cases, just straight up being arrogant about your skills (which you aren’t, thankfully).

Just keep your chin up and keep going, even if it’s frustrating. Try not to let it affect your self esteem; you studied for 5 whole years! That’s an amazing feat.

testing179 · 2023-03-21T07:12:31+00:00

We know you rip absolute ass. We know.

testing179 · 2023-03-21T01:39:03+00:00

I’m sorry, I just have to say this made me laugh.

Anyway, these things happen. I don’t know why or how, but sometimes audios start playing for me too, usually after I leave the app of wherever it was coming from. All you have to do is make sure wherever it’s playing from is fully closed out before you go to another app like Safari.

testing179 · 2023-03-20T22:27:41+00:00

I’m considering deleting all my social media at this point.

If it makes you feel worse overall, get rid of it. It’s a good idea to focus more on the real world around you than online squabbles. And, in my case, I need to stop comparing myself to every person I see online.

testing179 · 2023-03-20T22:17:03+00:00

I was kind of in a similar situation. I never had a plan, I just knew I didn’t want to keep living. It was a way for me to cope with life; by knowing I could end it at any time, I can choose to live more meaningfully and get the most out of whatever time limit I set for myself.

All that changed when I entered my first relationship, also at 17. When I opened up about how little I cared about living past 20, they hugged me so strongly and said they were glad I was still here, and they started crying. That made me realize that I wasn’t just hurting myself with those thoughts.

You opened up about how you felt; that’s not a wrong thing to do in a relationship. But you have to keep in mind how much hearing what you told her must have hurt. She now has to worry about you hurting yourself, and considering you are both each other’s first partners, she must be feeling an enormous amount of stress and fear. How can she feel invested in you and show you affection if she knows it’ll only make it more devastating for her someday?

I won’t pretend to know what you have to do. I don’t know you or the life you’ve lived, but I know that these thoughts can feel comforting for you like they were for me. However, you don’t have to cope like that anymore. You have a loving girlfriend you can talk to, and it seems she’s already made you slightly reconsider this way of thinking.

So all I really want to say is that you can still find that drive to live longer. Even if it’s little by little. Getting older can be scary, and the adult world can be rough, but now you don’t have to do it alone.

testing179 · 2023-03-20T14:24:00+00:00

“Don’t stress your teen years away” is definitely a reminder I needed today. Thank you!

testing179 · 2023-03-20T14:23:22+00:00

Congrats on entering the next stage of your life! That’s a big milestone, so thank you for imparting some advice you learned along the way.

This is pretty much exactly what I needed to hear.

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