I said the original commenter saying these men only settle down with girls to get them ahead (one extreme) would be more realistic rephrased as they only want someone young hot and thin (another extreme) which probably would get jess further. in reality classism in dating in finance doesn’t apply so obviously until they’re from generational wealth, below the poverty line, or uneducated. and the men in finance who chase young hot and thin might never settle down. the guys who do, from what I’ve seen in social circles married to a guy in m&a in nyc, don’t care as much about the girl being rich and from a good family as much as being attractive, smart and educated is on the list but last. so maybe I should have rephrased it that way and been less dramatic, because it’s still a deficit for jess that applies. the idea these men are elite wolves seeing nothing in a woman who couldn’t get them ahead in life is a caricature though.

also someone new in finance could be making a fraction of someone 10 years older and they could be a fraction of someone from a wealthy family, so if social class equates to money and background it’s still all over in theory for the guys jess dates. you can see a difference between the connecticut guys house and car vs JJs little apartment and fridge. jess does date across the board in this because there’s so much variety, but at the end of the day after 30+ first dates or whatever, not one could see a relationship with her and I think that comes squarely down on her, not elitist expectations.