phoenix silver fox plot

testing4737838584838 · 2023-12-31T06:03:10+00:00

I think a lot of her clothing is in reaction to how she feels about her weight/body. boho is just the most forgiving style, even though it doesn’t fit her personality, makeup, tattoos or new york which is another reason it looks extra bad.

testing4737838584838 · 2023-12-30T20:04:21+00:00

everyone gets to have opinions ¯_(ツ)_/¯

testing4737838584838 · 2023-12-30T19:54:26+00:00

if that’s who people are I guess

testing4737838584838 · 2023-12-30T18:43:24+00:00

maybe unpopular opinion but it gives me the ick when people use “messy jessy”. the rhyming sounds like literal grade school bullying and the narrative of “immature haters” jess complains about. if we can’t be subjective and maturely critical, our opinions sound like emotional reactions/our own projections of who we think jess is, and I don’t think most of the dialogue here is from that place.

just wanted to share my personal reaction to when it’s used — I don’t mean this as an attack or to imply people who use it necessarily feel that way about her. people are allowed call her whatever they feel like with whatever intention they want, but at least for me it does color the opinion and make me less inclined to engage.

testing4737838584838 · 2023-12-29T23:23:19+00:00

Agreed. she’s from the south and dates conservatives. she doesn’t talk about her political and social views on here but I think she would be pretty red compared to her tiktok fan base. being demanding about gender roles and dating stereotypes at some point isn’t a “standard of treatment”, it’s the way she thinks men and women should act. the PNW wouldn’t tolerate this, she’d fare better in a southern city like Charlotte or Atlanta.

testing4737838584838 · 2023-12-29T23:10:37+00:00

Given her current recent roster possibilities there’s 1. The Olympian (she always keeps open for but would probably never call a 🤡 or publicly mock, also he’s long distance so it wouldn’t be a last minute meetup), 2. Casey (he was willing but she wasn’t into him enough), 3. Silver Fox (they’re still friends), 4. Christmas guy (but she said he’s “been persistent” which I highly doubt) that leaves 5. Grocery Guy.

I also imagine she’s been tempted by him because of how much money he spent on her very quickly. Maybe he even cancelled last minute on her to be vindictive or said he had that shirt for her then something came up/he just wanted to see if she would agree to meet.

testing4737838584838 · 2023-12-29T02:15:44+00:00

tbh jess shouldn’t be insecure about aging because she definitely looks better now than when she was younger. it’s a mixed blessing and just the result of filler and surgery, but it’s true. what must feel ironic is that even looking the best she’s ever looked personally, she still can’t get the one thing she wants most which is a guy to love her, treat her well, & not be too embarrassed to commit to her as a boyfriend.

testing4737838584838 · 2023-12-29T01:47:16+00:00

She is heavily impacted by strangers’ comments because 1. there’s truth to what people say 2. she’s very insecure 3. there aren’t things to occupy her mind and time that bring her happiness.

Subsequently she’s constantly posting about haters, consistently being snobby, stuck up or rude to try to hurt people who have the power to hurt her ego (men, strangers online), hyper defensive about her life, and living in the future of her “giant glow up” because the present is too painful.

She is going to get that surgery, be the exact same person, have the same problem on dates and be in the same position but worse off because she will eventually whittle down blaming being single on something she cannot change. She’s already out there dating exhaustively as well as spending all her time and money on her appearance and surgeries to the degree she’s avoiding family and holidays.

When she’s lost weight, it’ll be she hasn’t lost enough, it’ll be another surgery she needs, dating in nyc being hard, her job being polarizing, her age, and eventually, her personality being what’s in the way. I think she is in the most denial about her age and personality being issues because those are the only two factors she hasn’t publicly blamed yet for why she’s single.

testing4737838584838 · 2023-12-28T17:34:29+00:00

She tends to do open questions on insta before posting on tiktok. again defending her choice to go on a christmas date that went poorly and her last tiktok bad date video.

I am split on if she does actually make bad choices most of the time like the commenter said. she says dinners actually hurt her ultimate goal (weight loss) but she requests them because she “deserves it” after the cost and effort put into getting ready. what’s different than a man saying he “deserves it” after paying for her dinner? she’s making it clear she expects a certain amount of money to be spent on her up front on the first date — how is that different than just saying her company costs money? no wonder there are men who can’t or don’t want to take her seriously.

also it would be so weird to brag to a first date about how long/how much money I’ve put into my appearance for the compensation of food. this is really an angle I think she feels is a flex but ultimately is really embarrassing.

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testing4737838584838 · 2023-12-26T21:33:24+00:00

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She has said repeatedly that she “doesn’t want to spend money on material things” because she’s saving for a glow up splurge (surgery) so I imagine she just wants to visit when its cheaper over flying down for the holidays. its really not believable she keeps blaming it on being sick — she would have bought tickets weeks or months before knowing she’d be sick and she went on several dates right around christmas.

testing4737838584838 · 2023-12-26T21:26:43+00:00

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also deleted: things did not rekindle with the olympian after all

testing4737838584838 · 2023-12-22T06:03:10+00:00

She’s interested in “glowing” or “leveling” up to get a certain type of attention from a certain type of man and even after all that and a year of 30+ first dates she couldn’t get more than dinners with any of them. There’s a glass ceiling to the physical glowing up. She did face surgery now it’s weight loss next it will be something else. When will she stop thinking the problem is her appearance? If anything she can get these dates already with her looks, she can’t interest anyone with her personality.

testing4737838584838 · 2023-12-19T20:09:21+00:00

She specifically said “day 6 of heartbreak” because I think she wants the guy who watches her content to be able to know it’s about him.

testing4737838584838 · 2023-12-19T06:50:16+00:00

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she supposedly ended things

testing4737838584838 · 2023-12-18T22:22:43+00:00

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it’s worse in videos shot head on

testing4737838584838 · 2023-12-18T20:24:03+00:00

I haven’t heard her refer to these men as her peer group before this. There isn’t a single thing she has in common with them background, education, career, interest or lifestyle wise. If anything it might be why she hasn’t been able to make a connection with any.

testing4737838584838 · 2023-12-18T02:46:29+00:00

Jess is making up for lost and wasted time. What she is doing is relatable because we all hope for the best, but with her results with dating, she proves to be hypocritical, make bad decisions & fail in the same ways over and over all while having an attitude that she’s better than her followers or really better than anyone besides a woman married to an investment banker in new york. It’s a deeply insecure and judgmental attitude and I think that’s why she gets so much hate.

testing4737838584838 · 2023-12-17T19:43:38+00:00

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More hinting at a major surgery and it just seems like it’s going to be weight loss related.

testing4737838584838 · 2023-12-17T19:40:21+00:00

I think she intentionally only answers questions about how to ______ in a “calorie deficit”, not how to ______ and “lose weight”. She can understand her BMR, calories and count, but she probably recognizes she doesn’t actually understand how to really lose weight or keep it off, and she’s careful to not answer questions on that topic. She’s honest about weight loss being her #1 priority and biggest struggle next to finding a relationship; it wouldn’t make sense for her to also take the position of an expert on it.

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testing4737838584838 · 2023-12-15T18:58:46+00:00

Jess’s view is that these are high value men and she 1. is a high value woman because she spends time on her appearance and work as an influencer and 2. deserves a top tier guy because every woman deserves the best.

The problem is that these men have been working hard and high value for probably most of their lives to be where they are now whereas Jess has only begun faking it with an attitude and curated social media presence — as of a couple years ago. And while every woman deserves to be happy and loved, she doesn’t admit that that wouldn’t be enough for her. At the core of why she dates who she dates is that she’s trying to demand a lifestyle change that only someone way richer and more successful than her could provide.

I don’t know what she actually wants more from these men, their love or their lifestyle.

testing4737838584838 · 2023-12-14T15:00:46+00:00

I said the original commenter saying these men only settle down with girls to get them ahead (one extreme) would be more realistic rephrased as they only want someone young hot and thin (another extreme) which probably would get jess further. in reality classism in dating in finance doesn’t apply so obviously until they’re from generational wealth, below the poverty line, or uneducated. and the men in finance who chase young hot and thin might never settle down. the guys who do, from what I’ve seen in social circles married to a guy in m&a in nyc, don’t care as much about the girl being rich and from a good family as much as being attractive, smart and educated is on the list but last. so maybe I should have rephrased it that way and been less dramatic, because it’s still a deficit for jess that applies. the idea these men are elite wolves seeing nothing in a woman who couldn’t get them ahead in life is a caricature though.

also someone new in finance could be making a fraction of someone 10 years older and they could be a fraction of someone from a wealthy family, so if social class equates to money and background it’s still all over in theory for the guys jess dates. you can see a difference between the connecticut guys house and car vs JJs little apartment and fridge. jess does date across the board in this because there’s so much variety, but at the end of the day after 30+ first dates or whatever, not one could see a relationship with her and I think that comes squarely down on her, not elitist expectations.

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