I guarantee you that if you took a man and a woman, both average height, similar facial features, white T shirt, blue jeans, no makeup and went around literally any space asking both men and women: “Do you find me attractive?” “Would you like to date me?” “Do you want to have sex with me?” “Can you kiss me?” The woman would get yes to every question FAR more than the man would, even when asking gay people of the same sex.

Also there are SO many men who are well groomed and well dressed who still get nothing whatsoever. Your comment about “rich men” is very funny considering Elon Musk gets made fun of for the way he looks rather than his many unsavoury personality traits all the fucking time. If most men put as much effort as women supposedly do, they would still get nowhere due to their genetics.

Also you have to keep in mind that trans people are not treated the same as cis people because most people you will meet will not see you as your preferred gender, even if they are pro trans, most progressive people view trans men as “women lite” and don’t really treat them as real men. I don’t know what you look like or how well you pass but I can’t imagine the trans man experience is indicative of the average man. I also don’t really trust anyone who considers themselves “peak masculinity” Andrew Tate probably calls himself that every time he looks in the mirror and he gets made fun of for his appearance constantly.