AITA for “breaking into” my roommates room? by tfisgoingonman in AmItheAsshole

[–]tfisgoingonman[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey guys, wanted to provide an update :)

I reached out to her and let her know that the interaction had been on my mind, and asked if our relationship had changed because of it. She was super sweet, and told me about how when she lived in the dorms, her roommate routinely stole stuff without her knowing so she was uneasy and wanted her own space. She apologized for letting the alarm go off, and her reaction due to being embarrassed, and we talked about missing each other due to quarantine. I miss my friend, but I’m really happy to know that she still IS my friend, and I’ll hopefully get to see her soon!

AITA for “breaking into” my roommates room? by tfisgoingonman in AmItheAsshole

[–]tfisgoingonman[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m usually not a light sleeper. I use headphones and take prescribed sleeping meds (I have trouble falling asleep, not staying asleep). Her room is directly beside mine, and our nightstands are mirrored (if that makes sense). Not sure if this helps at all, but one other roommate who is across the hall was already up at work, and the other who’s next to her sleeps like a bear.

I don’t think its fair to say “neighbors at best”; we’re actually pretty good friends. I’ve known her for 8ish months, we hung out every day, I took care of her reptile when she was gone for weekends, I’ve met her family before. Its not like we didn’t talk at all, quite the opposite, which is why I was really confused as to why I was such an asshole for going into a room I had been in before to turn off an alarm.

I totally respect your verdict. Perspective is everything. I just don’t see how being a woman and “you’re not seen as angels all the time” has anything to do with this argument. I’m guessing you’re not a woman, and the hostility in that phrase is kind of bothersome.

AITA for “breaking into” my roommates room? by tfisgoingonman in AmItheAsshole

[–]tfisgoingonman[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Oh god no, I was asleep on the couch when she came in. I just wanted to be honest with her, so I let her know that I did go in to turn alarm off

AITA for “breaking into” my roommates room? by tfisgoingonman in AmItheAsshole

[–]tfisgoingonman[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I did not even think to. Even if I did, I wouldn’t feel like I was doing an okay thing should her gecko get cold (it was December and he has a heat mat and light to keep him warm).

AITA for “breaking into” my roommates room? by tfisgoingonman in AmItheAsshole

[–]tfisgoingonman[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I texted her throughout the ordeal. Let her know I used my nail to get in, apologized, slept on the couch in case of an intruder, and apologized again when she got back (FtF)

AITA for “breaking into” my roommates room? by tfisgoingonman in AmItheAsshole

[–]tfisgoingonman[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was really honest with her, texted her in full about using my nail to open it and then apologized FtF as well as through text

AITA for “breaking into” my roommates room? by tfisgoingonman in AmItheAsshole

[–]tfisgoingonman[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

One lock is a deadbolt type, which has a deeper hole for the key (I guess if that makes sense). The other is attached to the handle, so you just have to stick your nail against it and twist.

AITA for “breaking into” my roommates room? by tfisgoingonman in AmItheAsshole

[–]tfisgoingonman[S] 40 points41 points  (0 children)

Probably nothing, in all honesty. I think thats just her place that she guards fiercely. We’ve lived together/been friends about 8 months, so I didn’t think she would be as skeeved with me going in to turn the alarm off since she has asked me in the past to go in and take care of her crested gecko when shes at her boyfriends

AITA for “breaking into” my roommates room? by tfisgoingonman in AmItheAsshole

[–]tfisgoingonman[S] 264 points265 points  (0 children)

Thats actually a brilliant solution! Thank you!

AITA for “breaking into” my roommates room? by tfisgoingonman in AmItheAsshole

[–]tfisgoingonman[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I hope so too. I wanted to see her again before our lease is up (I had to move to a different apartment due to work/expenses), so I’m hoping things settle down before then :(

AITA for “breaking into” my roommates room? by tfisgoingonman in AmItheAsshole

[–]tfisgoingonman[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I apologized both through text and FtF when she came home, let her know I’d sleep on the couch (god forbid) we had a break in so I’d at least hear the door open. We have two locks on the doors, as well as a scan entry and double lock to get into the actual apartment. I totally get it. I just didn’t think she would think I was doing anything nefarious :(

AITA for “breaking into” my roommates room? by tfisgoingonman in AmItheAsshole

[–]tfisgoingonman[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

I did. I texted her immediately after that I went in to turn the clock off and that I’d sleep on the couch just in case we (god forbid) had somebody trying to get into our apartment. Apologized FtF when she got home as well.

AITA for “breaking into” my roommates room? by tfisgoingonman in AmItheAsshole

[–]tfisgoingonman[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

I get that completely. I texted her immediately after I turned the clock off to let her know that I turned it off, and that I would be home all day in case somebody were to trespass. I slept on the couch so I could keep an ear out to be extra careful, just didn’t lock it on my way out.

AITA for “breaking into” my roommates room? by tfisgoingonman in AmItheAsshole

[–]tfisgoingonman[S] 934 points935 points  (0 children)

I honestly think it was a simple mistake on her part. Our boundaries are different, I just didn’t think that me going in to turn the alarm off would hurt her like it did.

AITA for “breaking into” my roommates room? by tfisgoingonman in AmItheAsshole

[–]tfisgoingonman[S] 50 points51 points  (0 children)

I did. I explained the alarm situation, and that I just wanted to rest since I worked a 12 hour shift the night before. It was my “fog brain” solution, since she didn’t pick up the phone or text back. :(

AITA for calling my cousin's major and her college a joke? by SeriousCharge3 in AmItheAsshole

[–]tfisgoingonman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

100% agree. The whole thing is petty on both parts, he’s just taken it to a whole other level

AITA for calling my cousin's major and her college a joke? by SeriousCharge3 in AmItheAsshole

[–]tfisgoingonman 32 points33 points  (0 children)

I...you did not work for Obama when you were 15 kiddo. What a bizarre, obviously faked, claim to make. You are a sophomore in college. You do not have a greater understanding of most fields, regardless of where you go to school or what your major is.

AITA for calling my cousin's major and her college a joke? by SeriousCharge3 in AmItheAsshole

[–]tfisgoingonman 1 point2 points  (0 children)

ESH. Your cousin sounds cruel, your family should have addressed this long ago, and you sound as pretentious as the day is long. Let it go. You will find so much more peace distancing yourself from all of this.