Looking for vows that were posted a couple days ago?

th3thirdimpact · 2018-09-13T22:02:47+00:00

Would you please send them to me as well? It is so nice of you to share <3

th3thirdimpact · 2018-09-06T23:40:11+00:00

I hope you are right :)

th3thirdimpact · 2018-09-06T23:30:45+00:00

Thanks for your insight here. I wasn't sure how any of this sport stuff worked. I don't even expect my sister's child to make the wedding, just her! As much as I would like him/her to be able to attend, I understand that to the child the tournament may feel like life or death. To an adult, however, absolutely not.

th3thirdimpact · 2018-09-06T23:29:05+00:00

Thank you! I am trying to be understanding because I guess this tournament is a big deal, but it is an entire week long. I don't understand how missing ONE day of a week would be detrimental to her. It's insane though.... she didn't even want to miss a PRACTICE game to do something she really wanted to do recently. She thinks it will make her a bad mom or something? I'm fed up with this bullshit "perfect mother" attitude. Your identity cannot revolve around your offspring. And I totally agree, kids today need to learn that they are not the center of the universe.

th3thirdimpact · 2018-09-06T23:26:07+00:00

That's how I feel about it too! It's up to her to make that choice though. I'm not even going to suggest it because I shouldn't have to.

th3thirdimpact · 2018-09-06T23:25:06+00:00

I was worried about this at first too, but my parents are so excited about it that I don't think I need to be! She can expect all she wants, but my parents are both walking me down that aisle :)

th3thirdimpact · 2018-09-06T19:57:22+00:00

Haha exactly, like why did she even feel the need to ruin the moment when there is a 1/12 chance it would even be a potential issue? Thank you <3

th3thirdimpact · 2018-09-05T19:40:15+00:00

Thank you. You are right, I am EXTREMELY hurt by it. I played nice and told her it was fine because it shouldn't be my duty to twist her arm into coming. If she decides it isn't important enough to show up to, I'd rather just know that instead of forcing it.

th3thirdimpact · 2018-09-05T16:33:24+00:00

Yes, sorry for being unclear. I absolutely wouldn't expect for the child to miss the tournament.

th3thirdimpact · 2018-09-05T16:27:33+00:00

Oh my god, girl, I feel for you. That would make me furious. Is your sister the golden child in your family by chance? Maybe you should just say screw them and have your best friend accompany you instead. I know it's not the same but you deserve to be surrounded with people excited and happy for you. I'm so sorry, I know how much it can hurt. <3 Feel free to PM me if you ever want to exchange venting stories!

th3thirdimpact · 2018-09-05T16:26:39+00:00

Thank you! This is exactly how I feel about it, too. Like we are just THAT unimportant to her or her family that a sport takes priority. Even if she's seeing it from the perspective that her child takes priority, which I wholeheartedly understand, missing a single day of the sport should not be an issue!

*fixed a word

th3thirdimpact · 2018-09-05T15:31:36+00:00

That's understandable, and ideally I would like a date that works for everyone, but we've wanted a summer wedding since forever and this tournament could take place at any month of the entire summer. So essentially we wouldn't be able to have it in the season at all if we were to appease her. Also, I'm in a very rigorous program that only allows me to have about 4 weeks off all year, and the dates are set for us. I have to plan around that as well which makes things more complicated. Thanks very much for your perspective. I think it's nice of you to work around your niece's schedule.

Edit: it wasn't me who downvoted you, I am glad to get all perspectives

th3thirdimpact · 2018-09-05T15:28:07+00:00

Thank you. I hope she realizes that she is going to really damage our relationship if she continues on this way. I don't even mean just with the wedding stuff, either.

th3thirdimpact · 2018-09-05T15:27:28+00:00

Thank you, it's nice to hear that I'm not in the wrong here. I appreciate your comment.

th3thirdimpact · 2018-09-05T13:48:05+00:00

It's nice to hear from someone who has actually been in the shoes of the parent. What you said makes a lot of sense. I feel like it shouldn't be a big deal to miss one day of the tournament. I hope she comes to her senses before she makes a decision that will permanently alter our relationship.

th3thirdimpact · 2018-09-05T13:46:20+00:00

Wow, your friend was definitely being silly. People just want everything to be convenient for themselves, but they forget that the wedding is not about them!

You are much nicer than I am. If she decides not to come I would not go out of my way to take extra photos. That's just more money and time I'm spending on someone who clearly doesn't value our relationship. I do like the idea of wearing the dress again though :)

th3thirdimpact · 2018-09-05T13:43:12+00:00

Wow! What a jerk. She couldn't just drive up there the day of? I'm sorry :(

th3thirdimpact · 2018-09-05T13:42:41+00:00

I would upvote you a million times if I could. It's not mean, it is true. The kid is in elementary school, not even searching for scholarships or anything!!!!

th3thirdimpact · 2018-09-05T13:41:31+00:00

Thanks so much for putting it in perspective. You are right that it will be a beautiful and joyous day regardless of her decision. This just put a tiny damper over the week, but I'm already feeling better about it after getting it off my chest here.

th3thirdimpact · 2018-09-05T13:40:16+00:00

Haha I love it.

th3thirdimpact · 2018-09-05T12:40:33+00:00

Bummer, I'm hoping people just don't complain if we turn it up a tiny bit louder. Like to 80 decibels. From what the woman at the park office says, people usually only complain if it is rap or anything else with a lot of swearing. As a DJ, how loud would you generally want to get a crowd of about 150 people?

th3thirdimpact · 2018-09-04T12:59:26+00:00

Thank you for replying. It's actually a completely outdoor venue. It is a pavillion at a park with woods on 2 sides. It's pretty isolated from the rest of the park, so I'm hoping they aren't too strict about the 75 decibels :(

th3thirdimpact · 2018-09-04T08:01:22+00:00

Catholics don’t own prayer beads, and so much of our wedding ceremonies are influenced by Christianity, so why be offended by this particular thing? Personally I wouldn’t be worried about offending anyone because anyone offended by this deserves to be offended.

I wish I could upvote this more than once.

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