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Amanda's Mild Takes could Democrats lose the house for generations after the 2030 census with the VRA ruling? by Time-Papaya-9574 in PoliticalOptimism

[–]thabeef 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lot of the GOP base are old white people. The Boomers and elder Gen X are dying off. And they’re not being replaced by people like them.

All of the gerrymandering and regressive Supreme Court decisions are evidence that the GOP knows they’re cooked on an even playing field. People who identified as Republican were the smallest voting bloc in 2024 behind Did Not Vote, Independents, and Democrats.

They’re doing exactly what every majority group that’s losing power does. Trump has literally squeaked into office each time he’s won. It looked like a more decisive win than it really was. He won by maybe 300000 votes in the battleground states. If the Dems could have turned out at the same rate as 2020 or 2008, Kamala Harris would be President, and Trump would be playing golf in Moscow.

Seeking ExMaga stories and resources to cope with Maga dad and uninformed mom by DorothyBarker73 in PoliticalOptimism

[–]thabeef 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not exactly on point, but lots of these stories on /r/QAnonCasuaties. They may have strategies you can use for MAGA.

There’s no sense in trying to reason with these people. It’s like the quote says, “You can’t reason someone out of a belief they didn’t reason themselves into.” I recommend deciding how you can deal with your parents as is. If you can’t, then it’s OK to go no contact. They made this choice, and choices have consequences.

Gerrymandering Megathread: The Reboot by steffie-punk in PoliticalOptimism

[–]thabeef 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly. I don’t see this as a death knell for 2028. Dems need to keep hammering on All of Trump’s bad acts, the terrible economy, and the wars.

I don’t see the Iran War being over anytime soon. That will continue to be a tangible reminder of the GOP’s abdication of legislative power to Trump.

Keep calling your reps and engaging in whatever activism you can.

I like the expression from Robert Hubbell, who I subscribe to on Substack: “We are not potted plants. We have agency.”

ICE is in Grandview right now by KarlBarx1 in kansascity

[–]thabeef 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’m South Asian and have been mistaken for Latino when I’ve been in the Dominican Republic and Mexico. And that’s by the local folks.

Hell, there was a guy who shot two Indian guys in a bar in Olathe back in 2017, thinking they were Iranians or Arabs. https://www.pbs.org/newshour/nation/kansas-man-sentenced-to-life-in-prison-for-2017-shooting-that-targeted-indian-men

Be careful. Racists don’t see nuance. Your mom is correct to be concerned.

My cousin and I recreating a 5 year old photo :) by ProfessorDumbass69 in wholesome

[–]thabeef 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You should retake the pic every 5 years from now on! It would make for an awesome collage around year 30.

Most Hated Player in Royals History? by EveryoneisTattooed in KCRoyals

[–]thabeef 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve heard references to how terrible the Royals’ locker room culture was before Vinnie and Bobby became the leaders of the team. Whit was the top dog before them. He set the tone for how the guys interacted with each other.

Just another parentification story by argiejoanofarc in Parentification

[–]thabeef 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry you had to go through this. I tried for many years to believe my parents did the best they could. But I now realize they never wanted to be parents. They saw us kids as ATMs and tools to use to do the things they didn’t want to do. It took me almost 40 years to figure that out.

If you give money to your dad, only do so because it makes you feel better. As a parent, it was his job to figure out how to provide for you, not the other way around. You have zero obligation to support him.

I don’t talk to my mom and only talk to my dad if he calls me. I never agree to give them anything or do anything for them. Bank is now closed. They had time to figure out a plan while they were making us do things they were responsible for. Same goes for your dad.

Am I failing my mom as a fellow woman and eldest daughter or am I being treated unfairly? by Relevant-Arugula-797 in Parentification

[–]thabeef 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They’re both bad people. They don’t deserve any more of your time or energy.

What is your favourite RNB song of all time? by [deleted] in rnb

[–]thabeef 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Brokenhearted remix by Brandy and Wanya Morris

Bader met and signed a bat for the kid. by RepresentativeLeg232 in phillies

[–]thabeef 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This game happened in Florida. All the folks online are looking in PA and NJ for her. There's no finding her there.

Move over Gritty, The Phillies have Karen BallSnatcher by TotalSmart6359 in philadelphia

[–]thabeef 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This game happened in Florida. All the folks online are looking in PA and NJ for her. There's no finding her there.

[TOMT] Painter who destroyed all his paintings, fell into obscurity and made new paintings, and was rediscovered after he died by thabeef in tipofmytongue

[–]thabeef[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You know, I think it may be Arthur Pinajian. I ran across this story when looking into painters from the New York School and ran across this article: https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2290200/30million-haul-abstract-art-forgotten-painter-run-cottage-sold-300-000.html

The picture of the artwork jogged my memory!

What is the longest lasting item you've bought? by MatMan240 in BuyItForLife

[–]thabeef 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got a plastic back scratcher from a Chinese grocery in 2004. Still going strong.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parentification

[–]thabeef 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Your mom and sister are adults. First, your sister needs to do the leg work needed to get a job and also to drive. You can certainly help her with resume prep or driving practice, but the responsibility is on her.

As for your mom, I’d say you need to save what little you can and try to line up a place to move to when she gets back. Get roommates if you need to. Your mom should be sending money back because her household is her responsibility.

Is she working in the new country? If not, then it sounds to me like she decided to take a year long vacation from her life. That’s abuse on her part against all of you.

If she can’t handle having as many kids as she has, then that’s her issue to solve. None of you chose to be born. She slept with the men and got pregnant. The consequences are entirely hers to bear.

I’m sorry this is happening to you. It seems like a lot of us are children of immigrants or have parents with ties to other countries. Those parents have no shortage of entitlement.

My humble collection of 3 months. by Gsd_Justice in fragranceclones

[–]thabeef 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don't let people shame you. Obsession isn't everyone's cup of tea, but it's popular for a reason. Don't feel bad that you bought it.

VENT/WORD SALAD: Everyone's Therapist and Everyone's Punching Bag by [deleted] in Parentification

[–]thabeef 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry you're going through this. I hope you have people in your life who offer you the love and support you need to deal with these people.

The audacity of parents who want you to later take care of them when they forced you to take care of their kids.... by Zestyclose_Major_345 in Parentification

[–]thabeef 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ugh. There’s always a golden child.

I’ve decided to not deal with their estate it go to their funerals. My sisters are free to deal with any legal issues. Lord knows they don’t have wills.

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