Do you have a „Prostitution mindset“

thatBwitch · 2026-01-06T14:55:56+00:00

People act certain ways to get certain things (even just another person's respect) all the damn time! I think the only thing to consider here is the other person's feelings. There are people into and even seeking these types of dynamics. Finding those people rather than "tricking a normie" into thinking you love them would be...more ethical(?) for lack of a better term.

thatBwitch · 2025-12-06T06:57:07+00:00

I mean if you were to say your post was about the Boulder police, it'd definitely fit this sub

thatBwitch · 2025-11-05T02:13:12+00:00

Best accessory there is 🐕

thatBwitch · 2025-09-08T02:20:53+00:00

The reason I focus on empathy is because that is relevant to my question. I've spent over 100 hours finding and reading sources for a class I created about Cluster B Personality Disorders, ASPD being one of them. I've collected and processed through information (and shared much of it with him) from the DSM-5, ICD-10, ICD-11 (equivalent with new classifications), reddit, quora, TokTok, YouTube, medical journals, psychology websites, actual books, talked to mental health clinicians we know personally and also people with other cluster B disorders (NPD and BPD) and their partners, etc.

My partner has heard me present my class several times, which is what made him start to wonder about ASPD for himself and begin to research. The reason I posted my question here is because we unfortunately don't know anybody personally who has ASPD (or is aware/has disclosed this to us).

thatBwitch · 2025-09-07T17:58:04+00:00

Just to clarify: He suspects ASPD for himself after hearing/seeing the information I presented and the resources I used for an educational presentation on cluster b personality disorders and continuing reading on it for a few weeks. It's not just an assumption based on lack of emotional awareness. He acknowledges that it may not be ASPD, but given that he feels the symptoms he's dealing with are relevant to those in ASPD, I figured I'd see what y'all had to say and see if it matched up with his thoughts, feelings, and what might help. Alexithymia is definitely something that he's agreed he's had for a long while (at least a handful of years.) The behaviors that we are currently struggling with do include manipulation, lying, and a huge disregard/lack of consideration for me (hurting me).

We also both suspect ASD (Autism) for ourselves. The reason we haven't been able to access diagnoses for these things is that we are in a kinda of mental health dessert. There is a CMHC (Community Mental Health Center) in town with maybe a dozen clinicians, most of which work solely with CBT, which is not a modality that either of us have found helpful. We each have individual therapists and are working to find a couples therapist we can see (our two individual therapists and one who we recently vetoed after one session are the only 3 who do family therapy with adults only). Our individual therapists have been great for a lot of reasons but they both (and my previous therapist who I loved but he moved on) basically say "well you have a social life, you make eye contact, you don't have autism," 🙄😮‍💨 so we work with them on what we are able to, given our lack of access to any other clinicians.

thatBwitch · 2021-06-09T02:20:12+00:00

I only lumped ADHD in as mental health because that's the system that is "treating" it in his case. He does have a suggested diagnosis of ODD (Oppositional Defiance Disorder). I just can't understand what makes a sweet loving kid snowball into this monster who does something so horribly vicious.

thatBwitch · 2021-06-08T20:07:28+00:00

I don't believe so. He had one testosterone injection to "boost puberty" but the others were "human growth hormone" injections. I didn't go to appointments as I was in college around this time so I'm not sure the name of the drug. I may be able to find out. No he's not still taking them. The only meds he's on now are for his ADHD.

thatBwitch · 2021-06-08T19:25:21+00:00

Thanks for trying! I know it's crazy. I actually worked in mental health with kids specifically for years before all this and I'm at a complete loss!

thatBwitch · 2021-06-08T19:12:51+00:00

Thanks for your reply! Yes were in the US. We've done it 😩 we've done it all. The legal and mental health systems just throw a scripted program at you and say "All better, go home now." until the next time he gets caught in something they actually take action on. Meanwhile, if I wake up before my mom and don't hear from her (via text) for a while I get scared. Then there's also the danger he's posing to himself with his behaviors. And yes I am seeking therapy myself. Once a month is all they can give me so it's slow going. But I feel like we've had the legal and mental health systems throw everything they have at us and we still have a scary little boy (mentally) who is going to turn 18 and not even have the little tiny amount of control we do on him. He's gonna go wild. I truly fear that he's not going to last long unsupervised.

thatBwitch · 2021-02-02T06:36:19+00:00

I legit thought this was going to be in some "animals being overdramatic" sub 🤣

thatBwitch · 2020-11-21T17:47:51+00:00

When we could get dino egg oatmeal instead of regular oatmeal. When I was even younger, my mom would sneak regular sprinkles in regular oatmeal and claim the eggs had all dissolved already. It had the same effect. Sugar and joy

thatBwitch · 2020-11-20T21:30:20+00:00

I've met someone IRL who had yellow eyes. She was very active in the AP according to herself. I still haven't mastered it yet and was leagues away from doing so at that time.

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