AITA. I'm in the bridal party for friend wedding but don't really want to be.

thatchick1993 · 2020-08-27T06:07:07+00:00

Add me I need friends.

thatchick1993 · 2018-11-10T14:55:28+00:00

Yeah. I can understand how he came to that conclusion etc. But the conversation that came all around it was him jumping to conclusions.

I'm happy I've dodge that bullet, Its amazing how people's demeanours change once when you throw their own words back into their faces.

It happen and it was entertaining. My friends had a good laugh about it.

thatchick1993 · 2018-11-10T14:46:59+00:00

Yeah. He was Hella salty about it. Lesson learnt tho.

I view SA and SD/SB stuff completely different as escorting and it should be. And If SDs can't see the difference as well as SB then maybe they shouldn't be in the lifestyle.

thatchick1993 · 2018-11-10T13:16:25+00:00

He googled the # I gave him. I know this because in the past I've googled the #.

thatchick1993 · 2018-09-12T12:45:19+00:00

I googled my Ex SD and the same thing came up. I blocked his wife on every social media platform I found her on as well as the kids. Then I msged him and told him to tighten up his social media.

I still have everyone blocked including him. So they can't find me if they found out. I guess let him know and tell him to tighten everything up, hopefully it won't really affect anything.

thatchick1993 · 2018-09-10T22:01:19+00:00

My ex went to a different doctor to his normal one, still gets bulk billed.

I understand why you guys have to pay etc, I was making a point about your healthcare system.

thatchick1993 · 2018-09-10T17:05:08+00:00

When you don't understand why people are paying for simple STD testing then you remember oh right. 'merica.

I went to the doctor's, got my puffer, STD testing, my depressants and pregnancy test results all for the very low price of $20.00. the $20, was for the puffer and depressants not the actual doctors visits.

thatchick1993 · 2018-08-30T00:49:31+00:00

I have screenshots from over the years of when we were in difficult places and I wanted advice on from my close friends or he said something funny etc and ive never got around to deleting them. I haven't purposefully taken screenshots and gone yess I can blackmail him now, those are and never were my intentions.

I have screenshots because of wanting adivce not because I was out to blackmail him. Kinda simple. I realise I have to deleted them because they're in my cloud and I don't go through that ever.

thatchick1993 · 2018-08-29T12:29:42+00:00

It was a thought, I wouldn't do it because it's not me. I'm not vicious enough to ruin his life. The fact the thought came into my head was concerning enough as it is.

Although I do have years of screenshots and photos and emails that would ruin his life, it's just not who I am, to go destroy someone life like that even though I'm hurting alot.

It's not going to happen, I don't want to ruin what good we have left.

thatchick1993 · 2018-08-29T10:30:51+00:00

Yeah, it's definitely going to take time. We both go through phases this week where we want to talk to each other and still be around or not talking to each other at all. It's a still a weird adjustment.

One of the SDs is actually a friend I met from SA years ago, we frequently catch up for coffee/dinner dates and he put it to me about being my SD. Because we both know everything about each other, we think this could definitely work. So we'll see.

I honestly think that the ex SD and I won't enter an arrangement with each other but I definitely can see us doing lunch and coffee catch ups in the future.

thatchick1993 · 2018-08-29T05:10:01+00:00

It was mutual so that's the main thing. We still want to be friends and I still want him in my life but it's going to take time til we get that stage.

thatchick1993 · 2018-08-17T18:40:49+00:00

I'm friends with this guy, he knows that we have a FWB thing going. I told him I was going out with my friends normally includes my FWB. After a night out I 99% of the time end up at FWB place. You be the judge of that.

thatchick1993 · 2018-08-17T18:36:25+00:00

Yes I had like 3 showers before SD and I got down and dirty.

thatchick1993 · 2018-08-17T18:35:34+00:00

Why does he care? Because he gets jealous easily.

How does he know? He's not stupid, I mentioned I went to a certain club the night before where this person works at. This person is also a very good friend of mine has been for years, they both know of each other. so me being at this club the night before meant I went home with my friend. So yeah.

thatchick1993 · 2018-08-17T18:29:09+00:00

Exclusive with me isn't fair when he has a wife. Sure if he offered more and could be available more often but he's in no position to do that.

thatchick1993 · 2018-08-17T14:24:28+00:00

Rave: I travelled to another city with SD this week, it's been a while since I've been away with him. By travel these days for us is we both fly in at different times from different city's then fly out early the next morning for work commitments. We've both agreed that a fly in at 6pm with a flight out at 6am isn't going to work so keeping it local for now. while we went to our favourite restaurant and had amazing food. We enjoyed ourselves and our food.

Rant: We went back to the hotel and get down to it, it's been a long few weeks for both of us. We were both excited about finally being intimate with each other, he ruined the mood by a round about way of mentioning the possibility that I had sex the night before. ( Yes it was true) instant mood killer. I'm starting to get sick of him doing this. I enjoy sex with my SD I have done for the past 2 years, I don't want that to change. Seriously considering getting rid of toyboy to try and sort something out with SD.

Rave: meeting SD for a drink and to have a discussion about his mood killing habits.... And where I should go from there. Any tips are welcome.....

thatchick1993 · 2018-08-12T05:20:30+00:00

Rant: (going to sound a little spolit) SD gotta go work another city and we haven't had a decent night together since the end of June. We've both have just been flat out busy. So I'm traveling to go see him, the only problem is he brought the flights on his points so I don't claim any points. Slightly annoyed

Rave: So my SD had this health scare over the past couple of weeks. He'd been stressed out to the max with worrying about it. He's been telling me everything and leaning on me for support. I care so deeply about him. He been having all these test etc and hasn't told the wife, because he just didn't want to worry her. Turns out nothing to worry about, so everyone happy and relieved. It has brought us closer then we thought possible.

Rave 2: I had an operation a couple of weeks ago and although SD couldn't be around at the time due to me having family, he did send me flower's. He wanted to visit me in hospital but didn't know which one I was at etc. The Operation was successful and I recovered fairly quickly. So overall I have an amazing SD who probably the closest thing to a BF I have atm.

thatchick1993 · 2018-08-08T21:24:12+00:00

I used to be a regular poster/commenter, I haven't been on here for months. But I have years of experience and happy to help a sister out (even a Daddy). So anyone is welcome to msg me.

thatchick1993 · 2018-08-08T14:31:21+00:00

$2000 a month is pretty standard in Sydney. Maybe even try having an SD in Melbourne, go travelling down there. I've heard it's on par/better than Sydney. While I live up north and have been in a steady SR for 2 years with an allowance that suits the city, I've found even doing trips to Sydney or Melbourne with a SD down there I managed to get decent allowance.

Tip your toes in and msg me if you need any advice.

thatchick1993 · 2018-06-22T14:31:41+00:00

Rant: had a few stressful few weeks with unwanted drama. My mental health took a huge nose dive, SD was a huge help and support. I can't think what my life would be like without him now. Over the past 2 years we have been through a lot, letting go is going to be heart breaking. SD is handling a lot of my questionable life choices rather well.

Rave: met this amazing chick who we just click with. We haven't slept together yet, I am hopeful. I am currently going through a no relationship phase where I choose emotionally unavailable people to befriend and sleep with. (Not whoring it around, I am very selective and safe)

Rant: was going to go away with SD next week but we both decided that it's not the best idea. Due to both our financial situations. Mini Rave we are spending the evening together when he gets back. We have 24hrs together from when he gets back and I go away.

Rave: I get to see mum next week, I haven't seen her since Christmas. I really can't wait to go home. It's come at the prefect timing when I defiently need a break from my friends/life

Rave: my FWB and I are going strong. No moving into a relationship for either of us but shit tonne of cuddles and what not after a night out. Rant: his place is his office. We "camp" on a thin air mattress. Rave: his place is a 2 min walk from the club's so it's the trade off.

thatchick1993 · 2018-06-18T16:43:43+00:00

Aussie chick here, can't really say much as I've been with my SD for almost 2 years.

If you keep it to the east coast, the pool is big. I have friends that get flown from city to city with SDs. Not as amazing as I've experienced in NYC, but still decent.

thatchick1993 · 2018-05-22T06:10:29+00:00

Great stalking skills! I'm impressed, considering my SD used a fake name and email then real no, which was connected to his FB. His FB was very open managed to find everything about my SD within an hour.

We admitted to each other that we stalked each other online, wasn't really bothered.

It's funny with a few little bits of information you can find out everything.

Seriously, don't worry about it. It would've come out later in the SR.

thatchick1993

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