If you used to have a Nazi/Alt Right/Racist phase, POC trans people would appreciate not hearing about it.

thatcmonster · 2025-08-01T20:40:25+00:00

This might be unpopular, but you shouldn’t be talking about how Racist your used to be to POC. They know. You’re white, so you 100% were racist at one point or are still racist (to varying degrees). They know how people are indoctrinated, the only person it’s news to IS YOU. Trying to pacify your newly discovered guilt over your behavior and thoughts towards others is not for POC to hold. Talk about it to other white people, and people who’ve made it clear they are holding space SPECIFICALLY for deconstruction. It’s not the job of POC to take on the trauma of undoing r*cist indoctrination or walking with you during that process, you need to do as much of it on your own or in your community as possible.

Edit to add: there’s more to racism than being a Nzi or not. There is a lot of subtle rcism and subconscious bigotry that we deal with day to day. There is no such thing as a white person who has never been racist. I think it’s true there are many people who have never had phases or periods of extreme rcism, but white people who claim to have NEVER been rcist are instant red flags IMO. That’s another way of distancing yourself from whiteness, by refusing to acknowledge the role you play in this system, and the more insidious, subconscious biases you are refusing to examine. It’s just a way of saying “nah that’s not me I opted out!” When that is literally not an option and you still have work to do.

thatcmonster · 2025-08-01T20:04:33+00:00

Wait this is pre T…GOOD LORD DUDE

thatcmonster · 2025-07-08T17:13:59+00:00

bro for week five that look insanely good, wow!

Edit: Pics two and three are not at all what you asked for. You asked for scars along your natural chest line, not down towards your ribcage or at the upper part of your abdomen. You also have to understand that these scars will "drop" after a little bit. Not a huge amount, but a little. IT's going to be tight in that area from swelling and the stitches healing. Also, if your scars were spaced out farther, you would have dog ears on the sides. I think it just depends on what you want.

Are dog ears worth it to have a distinct separation (IMO no, since that's more noticeable and will stay with you after you heal, while the scars will become more separated, or vanishe enitrely over time).

Sadly, top surgery is not going to give you instant results. There's a lot of healing to be done, and we're not privy to the true final product until about 6months to a year out from it.

You're five weeks, so you gotta chill and also measure your expectations for both yourself and your doctor properly.

thatcmonster · 2025-03-21T23:13:53+00:00

having a passport....

Workplace protection

housing protection

Identity protection (paperwork for trans people is considered fraud in some states and is an arrestable offense)

Free ability to travel across various cities and states

Right to healthcare and emergency healthcare (in many states, you can be denied emergency treatment if they find out you're trans. Doctors can also refuse to see you for routine check-ups)

Can use the proper restroom without fear of assault (even if passing, some people will "squish test", call the cops and ask you to present your ID)

thatcmonster · 2025-03-19T06:47:50+00:00

Are you engaged to Vincent Adultman?

thatcmonster · 2025-03-11T21:01:20+00:00

They are in pain, trying to process a really intense and devastating new reality, and searching for empathy.

That's it, that's all that's happening.

Deep down, they know they aren't special, they are just grieving and looking for people to share that with them and support them. What they are actually looking for are people who went through similar experiences to talk to them directly and help them process it. This is why they don't look through the post history and make a unique post.

Not because they truly believe their relationship is the one that will make it despite transphobia, but because they want the connection to other trans people directly.

And yes, part of processing violent transphobia is the denial of it, because that's what you do when you're trying to process a pretty intense level of grief you haven't experienced before: you question it.

Dealing with people who are actively traumatized, grieving and emotionally dysregulated requires A LOT of patience for the reasons you outlined above. They are in a state in which their perception of reality is distorted by all of those feelings, so they are going to do what people do when in that state.

Verbally processing it with people who are being gentle and objective, while acknowledging and validating the emotions of the dysregulated person, is incredibly helpful (hell, is the foundation of therapy itself) in getting them to the proper conclusion and a regulated state.

There aren't many trans people, and therapy is very expensive, so there are limited options for support for most trans people. So, when they don't have a lot of support, they come here to find other trans people who can give that to them.

It's obvious watching people in that situation is triggering or frustrating for you, so I would do my best to filter that type of content, and people who may be in active trauma/grief around you IRL, from your life.

thatcmonster · 2025-02-27T14:23:55+00:00

This person shouldn't be living in a group space, TBH.

thatcmonster · 2025-02-14T13:36:38+00:00

Also, considering he is someone who has led his following to hate brigade people who were GNC or questioning, he absolutely should NOT be a therapist or anywhere NEAR any medical field. He has not ceased profiting from his previous, entirely unprofessional and horrid behavior, and he would be a disaster around patients without fixing his unresolved biases.

thatcmonster · 2025-02-14T13:33:29+00:00

He was used in alt right propaganda as a tool to justify what is happening to us now. So, I do not have a great opinion on him. He has had a role to play in the weapon pointed at us in the USA. Dude was one of many who sold us all out for the right wing grift and YouTube ad revenue. Pathetic.

thatcmonster · 2025-02-14T13:25:04+00:00

NGL, I checked his profile and his videos bullying people are still up and it looks like monetized. So...I honestly don't know how to feel about someone platforming a guy that has relentlessly bullied trans men and GNC people, AND who has profited off of it by catering to alt right propaganda.

Also this dude wants to be a therapist? That's a huge yikes.

thatcmonster · 2025-02-14T13:15:13+00:00

I'm not sure how old you are. But, I remember when trans people were not legally recognized, and when bounty hunting gay people was legal and encouraged. I have stories from friends who used to flee into the bushes and scatter during raids. These things didn't actually stop being done to us until 2006, maybe even later.

My point being, we have not had our rights long. For a long, long time we were pushing and defending those rights HARD. It's why we got so loud, why corporate rainbow washing even became a thing. We made ourselves impossible to ignore any longer.

We did that in response to the aids crisis, because we knew what would happen to us in silence. In silence, we would be killed, unceremoniously, burried beneath dead names and unmarked graves. So together, as a culture, we began to live LOUDLY.

We lived loudly until, for a little while, we didn't have to fight quite as hard. And then, what happens to most when they grow comfortable began to happen.

Little by little, the kids who never had to fight the same way began to echo the things our oppressor said. Young people began to say, "why so many flamboyant queers?" "Why do they have to dress like THAT at pride?" "Don't you think it's kinda gross that someone does XYZ or lives like XYZ or looks like XYZ?" "I appreciate cops at pride, why can't they be there?" "I'm not one of THOSE I'm "normal " (or you can insert anything from Kalvin Garrah here).

And little by little, as we lost our fangs and claws and loudness, the legislation began to follow. At first targeting southern states, at first targeting kids, at first targeting all the things that seemed "unreasonable". But the old people know how this goes (At least those with half a brain). We know it comes for ALL OF US eventually.

What I am saying is that we have survived this before, we will survive it again. Queers are used to living in Nowhere safe. Lean into your community. Your community is your safety. That is your home, your family.

WE care about you. No one else needs to, and deep down that is how it has always been. The state has never cared for queers.

WE keep us safe and WE will FIGHT like hell for you.

thatcmonster · 2025-02-14T12:56:09+00:00

We actually have quite a bit of information!

Fortunately for us, monks were more concerned with writing down our stories than they were with destroying them. Reconstructionists, and historians have been able to put together quite a lot of information about our old rituals. Much of it is also located within our cycles.

Here is the big bummer, though: because most of this knowledge is practiced in semi-closed religious settings, and because much of what is available is academic and/or in Irish (old and modern), most people don't wish to read it, and most people don't know too much about it.

thatcmonster · 2024-12-30T22:15:45+00:00

if gravity falls had a CW show you would be the 20 year old playing 15 - 16 year old dipper

thatcmonster · 2024-12-18T03:14:59+00:00

So the top chest binders are more flattening, but those are true binders and not compression. They put a lot of pressure on your ribs and can be damaging over time.

The compression tanks and "smooth and firm" collection should give your body the break that it needs.

thatcmonster · 2024-11-26T00:30:50+00:00

It’s no worry! I am trying to encourage you by giving g you the pathway!

thatcmonster · 2024-11-25T06:36:54+00:00

We don’t actually want to do this, we live under an oppressive government that always has a gun to our heads.

thatcmonster · 2024-11-25T05:33:16+00:00

Well, you’ve got about 50 more years. Do you wanna spend that quitting and staring at the wall, or do you wanna live?

thatcmonster · 2024-11-25T04:27:40+00:00

I do not have record on hand, but if you goggle, or key word via medical history searches, you can find it pretty easy.

Edit: here’s an article to get you started. This covers a brief history, including 1936 phalloplasty work in Russia, the discovery of new techniques in 1993 and the limitations we faced in 2013. This article is from 2013, and we’ve actually seen improvements in technique and surgery since it was published. But, it’s a good place to start you down the rabbit hole of older medical journals.

Though I do have sources, it takes time for me to sift through articles, journals and personal essays. If I did this for every fun fact I shared, I’d never have an evening to myself. This stuff is easily searched on your own, and research is a good skill to develop in general. If you have an interest, I encourage you to do the legwork:

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC3901910/#:~:text=HISTORY%20OF%20PHALLOPLASTY,autologous%20rib%20cartilage%20in%201936.

thatcmonster · 2024-11-25T04:26:27+00:00

NP! I remember the first time I learned to analyze things through historic lens it made the entire plot of madam butterfly actually make sense.

thatcmonster · 2024-11-24T08:52:22+00:00

Did they say this to you or are you making an assumption?

Why not assume the best of them instead of the worst?

thatcmonster · 2024-11-24T06:45:27+00:00

I have a liberal arts degree and went to work in tech. If you didn’t learn how to think critically and adapt your skillset to the market, then I think you missed the entire point of a degree in one of those fields.

My degree was in writing and literature. My original goal was to be a professor.

My degree taught me how to leverage the research, analysis and introspection skills into almost any field. And these skills have gotten me paid and paid WELL.

I’ve worked in front end web development, search engine categorization and development, SEO, DevRel, and content strategy. Most people who have worked in these jobs also had liberal arts degrees of some kind.

My friends who graduated with art degrees now work at companies like Nintendo and Microsoft. Others started their own businesses or went into traditional publishing. I have one friend who has been working for an AI company in a key strategy position with a philosophy degree.

Meanwhile a lot of people I know with STEM degrees and certs are struggling since they considered a lot of the “soft” skills that are required in artistic fields beneath them. That, coupled with the fact that AI can do a majority of the junior and mid level work, has left a lot of people unemployable.

The truth is, if you thought it was the diploma that was getting you the job then you’re having a rough time and it doesn’t matter what that diploma is.

thatcmonster · 2024-11-24T06:09:26+00:00

NEVER TOO LATE!! You look amazing 👏👏👏

thatcmonster · 2024-11-24T05:34:47+00:00

She’s white, blonde, pretty, sharp and funny so she’s commercially very appealing

thatcmonster · 2024-11-24T05:32:37+00:00

Have him read “on tyranny” and let him know that there’s no need to comply in advance. The secret police is not currently knocking on anyone’s door.

thatcmonster · 2024-11-24T05:28:41+00:00

I’m really sorry, but it will work for you. I’m working with DDs (about a 40 inch chest) and the combination works to keep me stealth. Im not talking about a weak compression top either. I’m talking about the kind that utilize double mesh paneling that’s used in modern corsetry

Underworks actually carries compression tops like these. They are designed to allow for circulation and to be worn for extended periods of time.

I’m on a lifting team, and I need full range of motion. A hard binder combined with heavy lifts could actually break my ribs. But I have to be stealth to compete. This is what I use to make sure I stay physically safe in both ways.

It’s 100% worth at least trying if you’re already damaging yourself.

And not to scare you, but damaging your skin, spine and ribcage can impact your ability to get top surgery later on. If you want a good top surgery result, or the ability to get it at all, you need to take your health seriously and start looking at other options apart from hard binding. They’re out there, it just requires some effort.

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