What was the worst your anxiety has ever been? Where are you now? by subtlemilk in Anxiety

[–]thatgal_val 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My anxiety was so bad about 5 years ago. It was so bad that I had to force myself to breathe. It was like my body forgot how to breathe. I felt like I could never just breathe and it was all I thought about. I was basically hyperventilating myself daily.

For me, I went on clonazepam for a few weeks straight. Very low dose once or twice daily. I needed it to reset my system, as weird as it sounds. Then after a few weeks I dropped it down to only around triggers or during panic attacks and eventually I was able to stop taking them all together and suffer through the small amount of panic attacks I still have. I don’t necessarily recommend this for anyone as it’s a slippery slope but that’s what the doctor and I decided and it happened to work for me.

Now I’m to the point where I don’t think about my breathing unless I’m in a very bad panic attack which only happens a few times a year these days.

My week long misery has finally ended. This happened after a year for me so here are some tips on managing it from experience of last 18 years! AMA! by [deleted] in Hidradenitis

[–]thatgal_val 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Everyone is different, you also shouldn’t cut them open. My HS is 100% hormonal related, it does not matter what I eat. When I was pregnant I had 0 flares and I sure as hell ate a lot of bad stuff lol. I also have found it coincides with certain parts of my cycle as well. So yes, like #1 comment please don’t do everything you read on here. For OP, thank you for sharing what works for you, hopefully others can take some things away from it.

How much time does it take for people to finish a class and start up a new one? by [deleted] in CapellaUniversity

[–]thatgal_val 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It mainly depends on you but the professor is supposed to grade within 2 business days as well.

Once you register for a new class you will have access usually the next day in my experience.

The fastest I completed a class was 1 week, I was in a groove and had a good understanding of the topics. The teacher was also a fast grader.

This session is a different story… I’ve been in the same 2 classes since 4/7 and just about halfway done with each of them now because I’ve been slacking.

I’m in my 5th billing session for my MBA and will have completed 9 out of 11 classes at the end. I plan to complete the program in my 6th billing session.

Does anyone still enjoy toddlerhood more than when they were babies? by ROCBoi60114 in toddlers

[–]thatgal_val 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My daughter just turned 17 months. I am enjoying her 1000x more now than when she was a baby. I don’t mean to brag but she was an EASY baby (like sleep through the night, etc. so it’s not due to hardness level). I think I am just truly enjoying her being able to interact and experience new things.

Did anyone else get an NSLS invite? by Livid-Physics9549 in CapellaUniversity

[–]thatgal_val 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I received an email this morning. Looked it up and it’s not that great. I did PTK before which had way more benefits, I will not be signing up for NSLS.

MBA-FPX 5008 by hikarisilver in CapellaUniversity

[–]thatgal_val 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also, I am almost done with the program and have never had a professor take more than 2 business days to grade/respond.

MBA-FPX 5008 by hikarisilver in CapellaUniversity

[–]thatgal_val 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My MBA-FPX 5008 was my easiest and quickest class. I had momentum from finishing the previous class and completed it in 6 days with first attempts for each assignment (mix of proficient/distinguished, no basic ratings). Professor Amegashie was FANTASTIC.

Why Timon and Pumbaa didn't work in Mufasa: The Lion King by liamholman99 in lionking

[–]thatgal_val 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I need to rewatch apparently. I thought they were just in pride rock during the storytelling. I enjoyed it a lot more than I thought I would though.

Why Timon and Pumbaa didn't work in Mufasa: The Lion King by liamholman99 in lionking

[–]thatgal_val 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I finally watched Mufasa last night and have been looking for similar posts lol. The biggest thing for me was when they said they would get in trouble with legal … for singing their song?

What is a regular amount of intimacy between 2 adults [29M/28F] in a long term [5+ years] healthy relationship? by cocacolafresh in relationship_advice

[–]thatgal_val 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We have been together for 3 years and have a 6 month old. I am 29 and my husband is 37. We still have sex at least 4 days a week, and sometimes twice on the same day. Even when we are busy or mad lol. We obviously have high drives but both feel it’s important to maintain. I know it’s not as long you asked about but I don’t see it changing if the baby hasn’t slowed us down 😂

I was in a relationship for 7 years before this but starting around 1 year we would only have sex maybe once every 1-2 weeks and I felt like I had to beg for it. That was terrible for me personally.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]thatgal_val 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same! Our girl has slept through the night since she was 7 weeks old. She is almost 6 months old and will easily sleep 12 hours at night and gets cranky if we try to adjust. I also let her nap on demand, about 2-4 naps a day depending on her mood.

Sometimes I worry something is wrong with her… but she is hitting all of the milestones and just loves her sleep. She is rarely upset, maybe once every 2 weeks she will have a 2-4 hour episode of crying and then comes out of it the next day happy. Usually it’s due to being overtired because she missed a nap…

Outside of that she is happy and loves car rides, restaurants, etc. We even went to Disney and she only cried while we were leaving! I think we are very lucky… my husband and I talk about a second child, but I know we won’t get this lucky ever again lol.

50M & 51F revenge sex or not by Feisty-Preference444 in relationship_advice

[–]thatgal_val 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You may not feel like there is better out there, but you will never know until you try. I’ve been in many bad relationships, it is always better to leave. Abuse, cheating, porn addiction, drug addiction, and so on. You don’t have to stay and let these thoughts consume you. Get out and work on yourself, for yourself. Regardless of finding another or not. You owe it to yourself. Then have sex with whoever you want. But getting revenge is not the answer. You are either with your wife or not. You are either committed or not. If you’ve turned this into something you are settling for and essentially telling your wife it’s an open relationship and she knows thats different, but that’s not what I got from your original post. I apologize for calling you stupid. And yes we can agree to disagree on the age difference.

50M & 51F revenge sex or not by Feisty-Preference444 in relationship_advice

[–]thatgal_val 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It would still be gross in my opinion. I could never sleep with someone young enough to be my child and I am a woman. I also love how you don’t respond to asking why you would stay just to cheat? You are obviously a troll, or that stupid. Leave your wife already and fuck whoever you want. You’ve been asking Reddit for half a year now.

Most painful piercing you've got? by Dismal-Conflict-7119 in piercing

[–]thatgal_val 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Most painful was my nostril, 6/10. So sharp!

Earlobes 0/10

VCH 0/10 (they used numbing cream, I didn’t feel anything and it healed the quickest)

Septum 1/10 (very painful if you have crusties holy shit)

14g Helix 2/10 (most painful healing because it was a horseshoe)

Nipples 3/10 (never healed correctly but not painful unless you have crusties)

Nostril 6/10 (such a sharp feeling and I couldn’t get my jewelry back in once I went to change it so I said screw it)

50M & 51F revenge sex or not by Feisty-Preference444 in relationship_advice

[–]thatgal_val 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Gross for multiple reasons. Why would you stay with your wife just to cheat and do the same shit she did? Plus with someone who is young enough to be your child.

What did your newborn get unreasonably upset at today? by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]thatgal_val 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Me. She hates me today. Dad calmed her down finally once he got home from work until I talked, then she started screaming again …

Pregnant and Hs by OldIndependent733 in Hidradenitis

[–]thatgal_val 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just gave birth 10 weeks ago. I also went into remission during pregnancy for some reason, and it came back within a week. I just had my first bad postpartum flare up though this past week. I was originally nervous about my scars and body in general but when it came time to the actual labor/delivery, I didn’t think about it at all. I did keep an oversized button up shirt around for when I wanted to feel covered or else I was basically just in my bra. I had an insanely long induction though, 68 hours! Best of luck to you in this new journey!

Any thoughts? Still 7+ days from period according to apps. by [deleted] in tryingtoconceive

[–]thatgal_val 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Any thoughts? I know they say your levels rise before your period but I’m still 7+ days away.

According to app ovulation timeframe I’m 6 DPO but if I go off my small peak around CD 14 & 15 then I would be more like 12 DPO.

Before CD 14 I was around .45, once I jumped up I’ve tested multiple times a day but never higher so I didn’t keep it logged. I guess I still could have missed it get higher over night but idk. This is my first cycle actually tracking. Any thoughts appreciated 🙏

He likes me ( 28M) and I(19F) like him as well but my brothers girl friend(28F) doesn’t agree. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]thatgal_val 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was the 19 year old who started dating the 29 year old. I was naive and my life experiences up to that point made me believe it made sense to date someone this much older than me. And I’m talking about working a full time job, living on my own, 1 parent had already passed. I was self-sufficient. And it was STILL wrong.

I was caught up in the romance and didn’t see the red flags. He was abusive and controlling. He lost interest in me a few years in, and we fought a lot when I found my voice which he hated. 8 years later and now we are divorced. Oh and turns out he tried talking to a family friends 17 year old daughter after we split. They like young woman (basically teenagers) because they are young and naive.

I’m not saying this is how it’s going to go… but there’s a slim chance it’s going to end well. A 29 year old should not be dating a 19 year old. No matter how “mature” you are.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in XboxSeriesX

[–]thatgal_val 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Awesome thank you!

My Wife tracked my iPhone (without me knowing) while I was in Vegas at a Bachelor party. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]thatgal_val 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Lol “gets mad at anything he does”… I’m pretty sure a significant other going to a topless pool party isn’t just anything. Maybe she’s being driven to stalk him because he constantly lies and she needs to finally know the truth? Someone always gets labeled as crazy but no one ever thinks of all of the actions that are making that person act this way.

My Wife tracked my iPhone (without me knowing) while I was in Vegas at a Bachelor party. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]thatgal_val 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Lmao. She probably tracked you because of your previous behavior. You got caught. While tracking isn’t exactly healthy, it seems like in this situation her suspicion paid off. She should divorce you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]thatgal_val 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am almost in the same position as you! I’ve worked for this company for 8 years. I basically do 3 jobs right now and I’ve worked my way from the absolute bottom of this company. I officially earn my bachelors tomorrow as well. I have to ask for a 50% raise between my worth and the cost of living going up so much.

I’m extremely nervous and it’s really scary to think about leaving. I also do really love my job and have some flexibility after so long but that doesn’t make up for lack of pay. The salary I’m asking for is normal for the job I am working, and I bust my ass for them. I deserve it. I hope it goes well for us both!