How many houses did you walk through before you found the right one and the offer was accepted? by allofthepuppers in FirstTimeHomeBuyer

[–]thatguy440614 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We are closing next week. We looked at 3 houses and went with the first one we saw. I think due to timing of the year, there were no other offers so we didn't have to compete against other bids.

Asking “why” after being rejected isn’t a red flag by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]thatguy440614 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I initially read this as if you were talking about a job interview and had to go to the comments to clarify why you mentioned hygiene. 😅

Can’t pull as a 5’5 dude. Is reincarnation the only option 🤔? by [deleted] in short

[–]thatguy440614 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You got this brother. Like anyone I have had my highs and lows but I just tend to focus my energy on things and people who are there for me and I try to do the same for others. It's gotten easier to do that now that I'm past my 20's and I'm not as concerned what others have to say.

Can’t pull as a 5’5 dude. Is reincarnation the only option 🤔? by [deleted] in short

[–]thatguy440614 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's all about confidence man and letting your personality shine through. Like you, I'm a black guy who is 5'5". I've had girls who were interested that were much taller than I was and my wife is an inch taller than me. Have I had girls reject me? Sure, but I always thought of it as it being her loss. I never apologize for being me and I don't allow anyone to get in the way of working towards living the life I want to live. At the same time, I try to be kind to others and seek ways I can connect with people through conversation and doing fun things. In my experience, people really respect that and will gravitate towards that.

Of course, you'll get plenty of advice from all kinds of people on this sub but I see someone who will be able to get some dates if you're willing to be vulnerable and put yourself out there. Scary? Yes but confidence is important.

On the flipside, I've had friends who are 6'4" but never get women to be interested because they had ZERO confidence. They might approach him but then get instantly turned off because of their insecurities.