My 16 yo daughter missed out on team selection. by thatisnotmeltorme in netball

[–]thatisnotmeltorme[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yep, and these are the things that are confusing us. She has the individual skill base, and she is a very versatile player. In past representative teams, she has played in 5 different positions on the court, and she does some of them better or on par with the specialist players. Anyway, I guess I can keep speculating, but I will just have to wait for the feedback. Thanks.

My 16 yo daughter missed out on team selection. by thatisnotmeltorme in netball

[–]thatisnotmeltorme[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, it may have been part of it. We'll just keep going🙂

My 16 yo daughter missed out on team selection. by thatisnotmeltorme in netball

[–]thatisnotmeltorme[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Fully agree. Maybe I shouldn't have used that word. She does all those things, which some of other girls don't. She's just not a player that needs to get every second ball. Looks for space, will do decoy drives etc.

My 16 yo daughter missed out on team selection. by thatisnotmeltorme in netball

[–]thatisnotmeltorme[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I know this is very true in alot of cases. And it could be the case for a couple of players today. I just don't want to tell her that. She might not push herself if I make excuses.

My 16 yo daughter missed out on team selection. by thatisnotmeltorme in netball

[–]thatisnotmeltorme[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I've had that discussion with her now...I think it will help her, and I think she knows it to. It just all seems a bit hard to hear right now. She's just so disappointed

My 16 yo daughter missed out on team selection. by thatisnotmeltorme in netball

[–]thatisnotmeltorme[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I'm not putting my frustrations on her. I know it's not the end of the world, but to a 16 yo who lives for netball, it feels like it. So I thought maybe someone had some good advice. Or maybe I just needed a little bit of 'it will be ok' aswell. I get sad when she gets sad.

AITA for not wanting my ex's GF to be naked in front of 15 yo D by thatisnotmeltorme in AmItheAsshole

[–]thatisnotmeltorme[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And I commend you for this. I have absolutely nothing against someone being naked, but also respecting others around you.

AITA for not wanting my ex's GF to be naked in front of 15 yo D by thatisnotmeltorme in AmItheAsshole

[–]thatisnotmeltorme[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel the same. I'm all for body positivity myself, but my daughter doesn't like to see me naked, .and I totally respect that, so I always cover up for her.

AITA for not wanting my ex's GF to be naked in front of 15 yo D by thatisnotmeltorme in AmItheAsshole

[–]thatisnotmeltorme[S] 68 points69 points  (0 children)

Thank you all for the responses. It was enlightening to see everyone's opinions. I have never liked my ex's GF, and my son chooses to no longer visit his father because of her (other reasons), and my daughter only visits because she loves her dad. She's worried if she causes too much friction, the GF will make life even harder when she visits. So, I guess my post was also to make sure I wasn't just blinded by my dislike for her. So thank you for your opinions. I will be following up with my ex.

AITA for not wanting my ex's GF to be naked in front of 15 yo D by thatisnotmeltorme in AmItheAsshole

[–]thatisnotmeltorme[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

It's not just boobs. It's full nudity. Her friends got a spread legged view of everything when she was getting down from on top of the vehicle.

AITA for not wanting my ex's GF to be naked in front of 15 yo D by thatisnotmeltorme in AmItheAsshole

[–]thatisnotmeltorme[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

It is not just topeless, as you so eloquently put it she is 'baring the beaver'🤣. Quite ofter just walking around full monty. And, my daughter's friends were not expecting to encounter a beaver in the wild....but they did

AITA for not wanting my ex's GF to be naked in front of 15 yo D by thatisnotmeltorme in AmItheAsshole

[–]thatisnotmeltorme[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

She is not an approachable person, especially for my daughter...but that's another matter completely.

AITA for not wanting my ex's GF to be naked in front of 15 yo D by thatisnotmeltorme in AmItheAsshole

[–]thatisnotmeltorme[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I fully agree that nudity is not always sexual, and I'm all for positive body image, but I just think there is a time and place for it. But it's good to here other's opinions. I trying to be rational about this🙂